Common Dating Mistakes Women Make in Their 30’s

July 31st, 2011 - By Rashana A. Hooks

Dating at any age can be a challenge if you don’t know the ‘rules’ and how to make the most out of each experience. Meeting men in your twenties is an entirely different ball game than when you are in your 30’s. Your actions and priorities are often different, hence making your perspective like night and day. If Sex and the City taught us anything it’s that dating in your 30’s can be as bad as day old sushi or just as fun and exciting as a trip to Paris, you just have to roll with the punches.

But there is something to be said about some of the pitfalls many women in their 30’s make when dating. It’s like when the big 3-0 hits single ladies forget what the definition of dating really means – the act of getting to know someone, and make these seven common mistakes…

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  • tayo

    Do the men have problems getting married. What do they want when they want to settle. I just see what the woman needs what do the men want. Because at the end of the day is the men that marry the women. not the other way round.

  • Brodie

    I've already seen the guy I like. Single, no kids-doesn't want any, emotionally stable, strong resolve, objective, doesn't speak without a purpose, Dad would live him. But he lives 400 miles away and alas out of my reach. Great guy though.

  • http://www.reverbnation.com/KristaNicoleakaAngel Krista Nicole

    hmmm I would say another mistake is rushing into romance too fast; or sleeping with the man to "prove" your skills! …or always being up under the man (and pratically moving into his house within the first few weeks or months of dating).

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  • Kay

    Num 4 just f;cking kills me. Because if I can stop him for being a man he then he's not the man he thinks he is. Furthermore being male doesn't make you a man. If I have my own everything ( house, car..) then ole boys needs be coming at me with him game trump tight. On top of that these males out here need to know what being a man entails; which is, home comes first! His woman(children) if in the picture come first. His family , his woman, does not go without; light, gas, water, food, shelter. All of that is what the "MAN" provides.

    • Average Guy

      I notice a recurring theme, with many black women. Money is #1. Use any words you want to dress up this desire for money, above all else, but it's still there. Why is it that many black women use wealth, and financial responsibility, as the primary (sometimes only) measure for a man's "manhood"? I'm willing to bet, that instead of giving a legit answer, I will only get insults about how I must not have any money. See if you can prove me wrong. And, in your opinion, what is a woman supposed to "provide" in a relationship? BTW I'm white…see if you can come up with some good racist comments about me. I just want to see what you're made of, beside your interest in a man's finances. Go ahead, impress me. :-)

  • Sundoulos

    Trust me, Lily, you did the right thing by not dating all of those different type of guys. All that would've done is complicated things between you and your now husband and you could've missed out on what counts for real. One of the main reasons why you may feel that you're missing something is what the media perpetuates (whether it's music or Desperate Housewives); it all looks appealing, but it's not worth what you got now (and I'm a man saying
    this, so trust me when it's said)….

  • IJS

    There's no such thing as letting a man be a man. A real man knows how to assert himself in any situation and command his due respect.

    • cat

      ladies, men are not into what you do and how much you make , unless he wants you to take care of him, you know what I mean. Just act like a woman who is interested in finding out who he is and what he wants out of life. Enjoy being a woman!

      • Average Guy

        Men that are wise, and don't want to date a leech, would want to know that a women can take care of herself. After all, it's just dating….not like you're married. No obligation to support her financially. Don't want anyone who is too full of a sense of entitlement.

  • Curious1

    shoot just be your self…Appear Happy…don't let people see you mad all the time..smile a bit…Non verbal expressions can make ort break any approach and CUT the LIST…

    esp if you can't even meet the ish off your own list…

  • Cherries

    Yes, I was thinking the exact same thing

  • GreatPretender

    after just turning 30 myself, unmarried, and reading this article i feel like im fine. Madeline does have a valid point people should be searching for God 1st ask him who your partner is. thts why there are so many FAILED relationships. People are looking for what they want and not putting God into tht equation. Thts why people make lists like these to confuse those who are not grounded enough to believe otherwise. Why search for something thats already been destined for you take your time and you will find each other at the right time!

    • cat

      Uhm.. yes although you answer is true about putting God in making the choice, however, I know a lot of christian women who believe in God who are still waiting for that man to come along. Well guess what, sometimes we have to work on ourselves so we can see that man that God will put in front of us, don't you think so?

      • tam

        thank you!!!

      • Dragonlady73

        Ever hear ministers say "Faith without works is dead"? It applies here

  • homie

    There is a very mean shortage in louisiana as well, but this article is very good.
    Other races have so much to pick from— but that's life.

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    I think most women in their 30's know what they want, but try to search for their perfect match

  • thetruth

    #8 don’t wait for “Mr. Perfect”. He doesn’t exist.

    • Average Guy

      Likewise, "Ms.Perfect", is also a myth.

  • Toshiana

    @madeline so if god has already put u wit ur better half then this doesnt pertain to u, so y not just shut up n dont even bother to comment about it because u sound stupid

  • Toshiana

    @ceebow honey dating is going out to dinner movies concerts ect. If u choose to have sex thats on u, just because he takes u out doesn`t mean u have to give up ur goods~u really sound young n dumb

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  • thewire

    #7….dating more than one Guy at a time? I would consider that a hoe
    #justsaying

    • Ananda

      So if a guy dates more than one woman at a time is he a ho too?

      • Cat

        Uhm I like your reply. So true. What should have been said, if you want to, date more than one person. Everybody is not desparate.

    • …

      dating =/= sexual relationship

      old school definition, back when it implied social outings and getting to know several suitors before "going steady " with just one
      the guy you wanted to actually cultivate any type of relationship with
      before serial monogamy became the norm

    • Dana

      Yes but being seen with different men is not a good look for any woman, just ask any man if he sees a woman with a different man every time he sees her, he's not gonna want her in a serious relationship – whether she is sleeping with them or not. Not a good look for a woman period. And yes men do it all the time, but that's where that double standard comes into play.

  • seek2027

    Not a bad article

  • Madeline

    9. Listening to other people tell you what you SHOULDN’T be doing, in your 30s.

    These “do’s and donts” are getting mad tired, and redundant. I met my husband when I was most flawed, and somehow God saw fit to bless me anyway. And as long as I know too many flawed chics with husbands then these lists will always get the gas face.

    • Tia

      I agree Madeline. The big issue why I believe women are single is listening to what others say they should and shouldn't do, and not listening to what God says. We are all flawed and and imperfect so we are prone to making wrong decisions and bad judgements. Put God at the forefront of all your decisions and you'll never go wrong!

  • Chazaq

    She said to date many guys and not put all your eggs in one basket.

  • kisha

    these were some interesting tips but living in minnesota there is a male drought and especially a black male drought who are taler than 5'5".

    • Brodie

      Move…lol.

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