I Made Out With A Married Man…And Then I Told His Wife

July 25th, 2011 - By madamenoire

Let’s say you met a man spontaneously at a bar. He is charming, handsome and all together captivating. You spend the next several hours together, talking  and getting to know each other’s bodies a little bit better. [But no sex.) You end the night on a high, only to find out a few days later that homeboy is married.

Womp!

How do you handle the situation? Well this very thing really happened to a writer for Your Tango.com. You can read her full story and see how she handled it here.

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  • http://blogtalkradio.com/kkmtradio Fire_Rising

    So, she didn't ask if the guy was involved at any time? Since she was 'that woman' who had been wronged, that shoulda been one of the first questions she asked. She was hoping she was available, she wanted to have a good time [kissing, heavy petting, all the first evening they met], she was looking for a good time, which is nothing wrong with that between consenting adults; but I do ask, if she is getting all physically familiar on the first night, was she looking for a good-time now something more later? Generally we dont do that if we are looking for more. Anyway, as individuals, the first line of defense in protecting one's self is self. Dude was grimy and idiotic for getting familiar with this lady and having a Misses at home, but she dropped the ball, too, for not asking about the guy's situation, in order to protect herself, especially if she has been on the 'business' side of a married man stepping out. And she may have told the wife as some form of good-Samaritan act or because she knows the feeling, but you can't doubt the potential 'get-back' motive involved here.

  • …

    read for comprehension

    to everyone jumping on the author, questioning her motives for telling and nerve to contact the wife in the very first paragraph she explains that she was that woman (a woman whose husband was out picking up other chicks under false pretenses in hopes of things developing into further physical and emotional relations), then it is alluded to several more times.
    she saw herself in this woman, and her past in the situation.
    she wished someone had told her when she was in the same position; married, committed with children with a husband lying to other women about his background).

    making out and trying to date someone is indeed cheating. if you're engaging in relationships you don't want your spouse to know about (and wouldn't want them doing) you're cheating.
    people are so damn triflin'

  • BIG PRETTY EYES

    WOW ALL I COULD SAY IS.."GOT TO BE MORE CAREFULL"

  • mixi

    That was the dumbest article I ever read on the topic. The writer obviously felt jilted because she was actually "feeling" this guy and it turned out he was unavailable. She didnt tell his wife because she wanted to help her out, she told his wife out of sheer malice and the satisfied feeling she would get out of causing drama for him @ home. I used to be friends with a vengeful bish like this. Glad that's over.

    • http://madamenoire.com/61076/when-it-comes-to-racial-stress-prayer-doesnt-always-change-things/ shelly

      What you stated may have been the case IF she was pursuing the guy after she informed the wife. But the article doesn't go there. So I don't think malice was the case.

  • QuietlyLaughing

    This is typical white girl at bar behaviour so I'm not sure why everyone seems so shocked. The shocking part is that she had the nerve to tell his wife. lol. I understand if it had went further or if they had developed a relationship and she didn't know he was married. Not at all saying he wasn't wrong but I think she took it a little far for a kiss.
    On another note, would I want to know if my husband was out kissing radmon chicks in a club. NO! I am a believer in all men cheat if giving the RIGHT opportunity so I wouldn't want to know.

    • Tina

      Typical White Girl eh? Racist much? He was wrong and you might be OK with your man cheating but not all women are. You know the ones who actually have self respect!

  • QuietlyLaughing

    lmao @ freak down a total stranger. I'm going to use that one.

  • Not today

    I believe the term you're looking for is "convent". Also, It's still wrong on this guy's part for not being honest. I'm glad she told on him.

  • ALM

    I applaud her for both telling the truth to the wife and ending the interaction with the husband, but I also wonder why she started heavy petting, etc. with a guy she knew all of an hour.

    • Que

      Because she fell hard for him. And when she learned he was married, she feel rejected and told his wife. Her actions weren't honorable gallantry. It was green jealousy. He was wrong for lying. Let charma take care of that. Not a phone call to his wife. By the way, if you wondering how the wife feels, trust me, she feels GREAT, especially after all that explaning he did. To her, her husband NOT sleeping with that woman means he showed restraint. Know how rare that is in a man nowadays? Exactly. I'm out.

      • be_real

        really?????
        Restraint is not kissing some random joint u met in a bar. and this "charma" u speak of was the girl informing the wife. karma will get him, and im sure the author of the article was a catalyst.

  • Que

    Regardless of the husband being right or wrong, the author of the article is jealous because she got played. She didn't even sleep with dude. His wife likely won't leave him over "heavy petting." So what was the whole point of her telling his wife? She had to have known some marry men lie about being married. So why'd she take it so personal and tell his wife? Because it happened to her this time, that's why. You got played deary. Sorry.

    • http://Facebook.com Blackburn

      I totally agree with you Que. Am sure if the man had successfully bang her that night. Shame would not have let her come out of the closet to talk about it.
      She only wanted to take revenge for losing to another woman.

  • JustAshley

    Chile Bye. Only a total lunatic would rationalize something so dangerous JUST because thats what they do in the "club scene". I guess I'm living in a convent then, and I'll stay there while chicks like that get their hearts broken over married men and catch STD's like they're candy. LOL

    • YOUGoBye!

      Like you're doing any better. You sound like you could use a one-night stand and stop being so self-righteous.

      • JustAshley

        Sweety it looks like you're loose enough for everyone in this thread. LMAOOOOOO.
        *
        And it has nothing to do with self-righteous. Its a matter of self-preservation. Its so sad your mother didn't teach you that. SMH

        • YOUGoBye!

          Awwwww, poor Ashley…that Rabbit in your drawer can't solve all your no-man woes.

  • lala

    good, now if only more women were like this…sigh, one can only dream

  • JustAshley

    *pass*

  • seek2027

    Dam

  • Shay

    Good! That's how married faithful women get diseases.

    • btowne

      That's right.