Afeni Shakur And Whether Or Not Men Deserve Alimony
I’ve never been a fan of alimony. In this day in age, when both men and women have the ability to work and provide for themselves, I just don’t see the need. And while I think a stay-at-home mother should be compensated until she can get herself on her feet, there are far too many people who, I believe, take advantage of the system.
No one proves my point more than Gust Davis.
You may not know him by name but his is the husband of Afeni Shakur, Tupac Shakur’s mother. The couple have been married for 12 years but now, according to TMZ, Afeni wants out.
Sadly, the couple never had a prenup. And now, Davis is trying to take advantage. In North Carolina, where Shakur filed, judges are not required to divide property up 50/50. They evaluate each case to determine what’s fair.
Davis is asking for the right to live on a 50 acre ranch in North Carolina, the keys to the houseboats and the Jaguar.
But that’s not the worst of it. In addition to the property, Davis also wants alimony. Davis reported that the Tupac Estate brings in $900k a year. But after expenses, Afeni receives $20,000 a month. As a part of the divorce settlement, Davis is asking for $10,000 a month, half of Afeni’s monthly check from the estate, for the rest of his life.
Shakur has been separated from Davis for more than a year and is currently living in a houseboat in Sausalito, California.
She has also filed documents asking a judge to dismiss Davis’ alimony request.
Davis is, according to TMZ, a minister. I guess he never heard of the scripture, a man who doesn’t work, doesn’t eat.
There is something so heinous about all of this. While I don’t like alimony for anyone, it really grinds my gears when men are asking for it.
Some would call it sexist. But I don’t even think that’s the case here. It’s no secret that there is a real male privilege when it comes to not only employment but compensation for said employee. Men have always and still continue to make more money than women for equal work. It’s a fact. So Davis, and any other man married to a rich or powerful woman, should be able to provide for themselves even if that woman and her money are no longer around. You should always have your own money on the side, in the context of any relationship, in case, God forbid, something happens. The same is certainly true for women who often find themselves trapped in dead or dysfunctional relationships because they’re financially trapped.
I can’t grasp the concept of anyone, from any gender, feeling entitled to a former spouse’s money when they don’t want to be connected to that person through marriage any longer. People will argue that you become accustomed to a type of lifestyle that should continue after the divorce? Why exactly should it continue? Again, unless a man or woman has made a conscious decision not to work to stay home and raise children or keep the house, essentially working without outside compensation, why do you expect your lifestyle to remain the same when you make a serious life change like getting a divorce? The nature of divorce is at its core, a change in lifestyle. Sure, Davis might have been spending Tupac and Afeni’s money when he was married to her; but now that that connection has been severed, how dare he want to live off of a dead man’s estate, simply because he was once connected to his mother? It’s shameful.