Is There Anything Sweet About An Ex Begging To Get You Back On Social Media?
We often talk about the dangers of sharing too much of our lives on the internet, especially in the context of a relationship. We all have those friends who give you a blow by blow description of every milestone in their relationship and then give you a minute by minute update of how they’re handling the breakup.
There are some who, not content with the status of the relationship, push it a step further. I remember in college a good friend of got dumped by boyfriend. Months later, after he realized that he’d let a good thing slip through his fingers, he wrote an entire essay extolling her virtues, explaining how he messed up and wanted her back. He even made sure to include a picture. So all of her friends, his friends and anyone who happened to stumble across his Facebook page would see it and read about their story.
At the time I couldn’t tell if my friend liked it all that much. I’m sure a part of her was flattered but also a bit mortified with the fact that so much of her business was all over the internet, being consumed by our peers.
Personally, I just remember thinking, how manipulative. It was clear the whole reason he wrote the note was so people could applaud him for being “in touch with his feelings,” “fighting for his woman” and all those other cliches. People would, of course, read the note and see how sweet he had been and begin encouraging my friend to take him back. When no one really knew the full story of why they broke up in the first place. Conveniently, that didn’t make it into the Facebook post. All of it is very selfish and self serving. Without her permission, it put all the pressure of reconciliation on her, absolved him of any responsibility for their breakup; and worst of all, invited several third parties to comment on what should have been a private discussion.
While you might think this type of behavior would be reserved for the naive, non-celebrity types, we saw it recently when Robin Thicke went on a bit of a crusade to get his wife Paula Patton back. You know how that one turned out.
The most recent couple to go through this type of drama is Jordin Sparks and rapper Sage the Gemini.
For reasons unknown to us, the two are no longer together. And according to his Instagram page, Sage is not taking it too well.
He wrote this lengthy post, which has since been deleted, about missing his boo thang, in the hopes that she would read it and give him a call.
Can’t sit here and act industry like this shit don’t hurt me. You the only girl I can call at 3 in the morning and you’ll answer no problem. You the only girl that can wake up out of a dead sleep and get me some water because I was coughing in my sleep the only girl that loves me the way you were supposed to. I miss you to much to watch you look so amazing at the Clyde Davis party and not be able to call you and express how much I appreciated the look because you won’t answer nor text back the feeling is horrible. You see this picture?…… That’s the picture of me lookin at niggas lookin at you and givin them the eye like “wassup nigga” and you like it’s ok babe and you makin me smile and feel just Alittle more secure about it. Lol it kinda reminds me of the picture of the little lady standing in front of the hulk and being the only one that can calm him down that’s you ya know? But yea this shit is crazy i just wanna tell you I’m still being a good boy just incase you come to your senses. Valentine’s Day was supposed to be a special day I wanted that to be our anniversary because it’s your grandparents and maybe we could’ve double dated remember? Please call me back I just want like a hug and a kiss or something. Sincerely Dominic Wynn Woods
I know some of you all will read this and think it’s cute. Parts of it are. But mostly it just makes me roll my eyes. Don’t send strangers on social media to do what you couldn’t manage to do in the relationship, convince me that I needed to stay.
What do you think about an ex making a case for getting back together through social media? Would that work for you?