No One Was Really Right In This DeVon Franklin, Meagan Good Cover Up Discussion

February 16, 2016  |  

Meagan Good Cover Up Discussion

I love come as you are churches. To me, that’s the message of Jesus Christ. Accepting people as they are and then coming alongside to help and watch in the transforming their minds and hearts as they become increasingly more and more like him. One of the best analogies for church is that it’s like a hospital for sick souls. No one in there is perfect. We’re all trying to do and be better.

As my coworker said, “Sanctification is a process.” A lot of people think that when we accept Christ we’re made new immediately. And that’s just not the case. Some of us are going to struggle with habits and patterns of behavior for a while. Simply because life is a marathon, not a sprint. If we know everything and do everything right, what’s the point of being here if not to learn and grow?

All of this brings me to a discussion about DeVon Franklin and Meagan Good. I’m sure by now you’ve seen that the couple is touring the country, promoting their new book The Wait which is about their celibacy as they dated one another.

There’s no controversy in that, it’s a beautiful thing.

What is interesting though is that Megan Good is known as a sex kitten. And not just in her movies. When she appears as herself, on stage, on the red carpet, presenting gospel awards, she is known to have her skin out.

Naturally, now that Megan is married to a preacher and touring the country spreading God’s message about proper dating practices, people are wondering whether or not her words and her actions match up.

And at one panel discussion about their new book, one woman brought up this very subject to Meagan. Good didn’t even get a chance to answer though because her husband jumped in to save the day.

Woman: “You are beautiful. I’m going to say something to you. This is not offensive but I was at the grocery store and I looked at a newsstand and I saw you and you had your breasts showing. So I wasn’t going to come here. I wasn’t. But the Lord brought me here to see you. And you are a beautiful young woman and your testimony is awesome. Amen. And the Lord let me come and push past the judgement. And this is real, you have to make sure that what you say and what you do match up, you understand? So, we gon’ cover up right?

DeVon: Wait a minute. Wait a minute. No, no, no, no, no. Uh unh. Uh unh. No. That is not what we’re here for. She’s not going to cover up. She gon’ wear what she wants to wear in the name of Jesus. Amen? Amen. She’s going to wear what she wants to wear in the name of Jesus. Yes she will. Yes she will. Yes she will. Absolutely. God bless you. We love you. I love you dearly. She has been as Christian as she has been— that she is right now when she wore what she wanted to wear. Turns to Meagan. I love you.

Kisses Meagan repeatedly. 

Meagan gets emotional and sheds some tears. 

Meagan: I’d like to say one thing. I could address what she said and it’ll take me a while to address it because I have very specific feelings about that. But I just want to say to that young lady, however you feel, if that’s how you feel pray for me and I love you and God bless you. And thank you.

Here’s the full video below, which is certainly better than the transcription. But I know some of y’alls work computers move slowly.

This video and the response is so layered to me. It’s gray, not black and white.

What I do love about it is that DeVon stood up for his wife. In a world where it seems like every other Black man is ready to throw a Black woman under the bus, this image, his message and his fervor, is important to see. It’s powerful and necessary. And his reaction and her tears afterward seem to illustrate the love these two have for one another.

But as much as I appreciate him standing up for his wife, there was one particular part of his response, some are calling it a clapback, that rubbed me the wrong way. “She’s going to wear what she wants to wear in the name of Jesus.”

If you’ve read most of what I’ve written, I believe in a woman’s autonomy. I didn’t like the way Farrakhan told Jay Z to tell Beyoncé to cover up. I’ve defended Amber Rose’s twerk videos and her Slut Walk. I believe women, as human beings, should have the choice and option to wear what they want to wear. God gives us all free will. And if God gives it to us, it’s no one else’s right to seek to take it away. But there’s a difference between wearing what you want to wear for you and wearing something in Jesus’ name. I have a relationship with God and I’ve been in church all my life and I never knew we could have our titties out in Jesus’ name.

Honestly, I never had a problem with the way that Meagan Good dressed until she presented a gospel award with her entire chest out. When you profess to promote something or someone higher than you, you shouldn’t want to do or say anything that’s going to detract from that. And Meagan Good’s dress on that night at the BET awards was a distraction from God’s music and his message.

But here’s some more gray for y’all. I also don’t agree with that woman running up to the microphone to shame Meagan for her choices in attire either. She tried to pad her condemnation with compliments but at the end of the day her behavior wasn’t all that Christian-like either.

People love to talk about correcting folks in the church as their duty. And that may very well be so. But you should always seek to correct with love. And there’s very little love in standing in front of a room full of strangers asking a grown woman to cover up. As the saying goes, “punish in private, praise in public.” And since that woman has no personal relationship with Meagan it was not her place to attempt to school her in public.

One of my friends from college, Brittany Dixon, put it perfectly.

“After a rough past, the woman waited until marriage to have sex with her husband… 

There are woman in the church with skirts down to their knees and turtle necks sleeping with all the deacons. I believe that if this couple is truly following God, the Holy Spirit will continue to do a work in both of their hearts.

That frees us from worrying about where other people are in their spiritual growth process. So Instead of worrying about what someone has on, consider what YOU put on every day.

The bible says “Since God chose you to be the holy people he loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. 

Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds us all together in perfect harmony. And let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your hearts. For as members of one body you are called to live in peace. And always be thankful.”

Colossians 3:12-15 NL”

It wasn’t that woman’s place to correct her in that manner. If she believed in Meagan’s testimony, then she would understand that God knows her, she knows God and the Holy Ghost likely speaks to her. She should trust that God will complete what he has begun in Meagan. And honestly, it may never look like what she thinks it should. Just because things don’t happen in the time, form or fashion we see fit doesn’t mean they can’t or won’t happen. God is on a different time frame than us. He’s eternal and we’re finite. If we know and trust Him like we say we do, then we should trust Him to speak to and grow Meagan Good into the woman He wants her to be.

What did you think of this whole interaction?

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  • MReneeSimmons

    …but then she went further than Instagram and came for the woman, and the entire exchange, via Essence magazine for what purpose; to be relatable to EVERYONE or just those she’s called to who FOLLOW her online? If nothing else, let’s be consistent when a book isn’t on the market and needs to be sold. This was an issue because they have a book with standards about sex, lust, promiscuity, but won’t quietly or prayerfully see how their standards contradict what they recommend in the book. No way she sought the Lord and came back with: “I want to look beautiful for my husband. I want to look beautiful because I’m 34, about to be 35, and I want to have incredible pictures to show my kids of mommy in her heyday. I want to look nice because I’m an entertainer. It’s just interesting to me that there’s a double standard and how unfair it can be.” Hidden in the women’s comments was a truth: Meagan is beautiful as is! She doesn’t have to continue to do what everyone else does b/c of her age, her future kids or because everyone else in entertainment is nude or nearly naked. We have Kim, and a long list of other female entertainers, plus Meagan’s nudes from 2014 to prove that you can be naked for more than just your husband’s delight.

    I understand growth, but don’t use the baby Christian excuse for what is clearly just a personal preference and a liberal interpretation of scripture (Meagan quoted 1 Peter 3:3-5, which clearly speaks to INWARD coupled with OUTWARD beauty with an emphasis on HUMILITY. Being glamor conscious borders on being vain.). Being around other baby Christians who condone what she said, as evidenced by her pastor husband and the pastor host who sat there and clapped like a fan, does not help one get to the meat of God’s word. Hebrews 5:12 and 1 Corinthians 3:2. If there’s going to be an excuse for every struggle then we should all stop struggling and live “as is.” Don’t bother to be Christlike in the simple things because it’s just way too hard. Just focus on having fun while you’re here. Confess Jesus in between so you can make to it to heaven, if that’s a goal. Problem solved!

  • anonymouse

    He was right in defending his wife.

  • Nana Yaa

    Here are my thoughts: He didn’t mean that literally. He meant to diffuse the attack on Meagan. To the Audience Member – Don’t pretend to ask a question just to heap judgement on a guest speaker. What magazine cover is the audience member talking about? Has anyone seen it? Secondly she was dressed modestly enough in church so the comment was completely unwarranted. She’s been in the industry since she was a child so obviously her style is going to differ from those of us not in the spotlight. Besides “The Blue Dress” when has she been recently seen in something provocative? What one is convicted of another will not be. Some Christians drink others don’t, some curse others don’t, some fornicate others don’t. We all have our convictions so let God work on that individual. If you want to help, you can talk to the individual with a better approach, one on one or in private. That was so inappropriate.

  • disqus_ZsmDHbsJLs

    As long as she is not all out, Megan is ok. I agree with comment that some women can wear turtle necks and long dresses and be living foul. Megan dresses up for her career and when she is in church, Meagan dress approxiate. Now if Meagan comes in church with Daisy duke, then yes, I would question her but not if she is wearing a nice dress or pant suit with a slight low cut as long as all her breat is not out.

  • A B-squared

    Some people compared Meagan to a teacher – I think this is what those that referenced “called to a higher standard” meant. There are women out there, looking at Meagan Good as an example of what it means to be sexy and saved, remain celibate, change one’s life and actually get married to a man of God. That’s the higher standard, I think, that people are referencing. She is an example, a role model. If she weren’t promoting a book, this would be a different discussion. BUT, she is. She’s promoting a book on saving oneself as well as being a Christian. Come as you are, meant bring your messed up self. NOT come to church looking like you really just jumped off the stripper pole – put a trench over that! 🙂 If we change our hearts, other things must align as well. I’m not opposed to showing skin – but it’s where and how much skin you choose to show. As a Christian, you’re actions and choices should not throw others off who are trying to get where you are. That’s the standard people are speaking of. When you know better, you SHOULD do better. Take it a step further, while Mr. Franklin is dappin’ up the other pastor, Toure Roberts, Sarah Jakes, his wife, certainly is NOT showing off everything…in the name of Jesus. lol

    • GUEST123

      re: Sarah Jakes, his wife, certainly is NOT showing off everything…in the name of Jesus. lol

      There’s a video on youtube of Sarah giving a talk in a church with thigh-high “stripper” boots and a leather mini-dress! LOL I would never wear that to church. But, hey, I really think she’s doing a great job in ministry so it doesn’t bother me. I only point this out because of your comparison.

    • MReneeSimmons

      Exactly! Let’s see Toure Robert’s wife SEXY please and thank you!

      Also, I was utterly broken when Robin Thicke and Paula Patton divorced. I’ll never forget TD Jakes produced Jumping the Broom and no longer watch what he produces. In it, Laz Alonso slobbered Paula up and down. Robin attended the premier with Paula and I couldn’t help but think how is he ok watching his wife on screen getting licked up (tongue in mouth and her wiping off spit) and groped by another man for pay. Oh it’s just WORK they say. Well, Robin and Miley were WORKING when they did Blurred Lines at the VMAs. A lot of his WORK involves women too. What’s the difference and why did they divorce? In short, I don’t understand how God gives entertainers a pass for WORK and everyone else gets adultery is sin and so is coveting your neighbor’s wife. I certainly don’t get why it’s mandatory for “basic” women to be Proverbs 31 while entertainers can be whatever they like. What’s “good” for Meagan, Robin and Kim is good for everyone. Let’s ALL be social, naked and sexy–right?

  • I_am_a_Gladiator/Scandalista

    “As my coworker said, “Sanctification is a process.” A lot of people think that when we accept Christ we’re made new immediately.”

    I completely agree with this. I am not here to say how close this woman and man’s relationship with Christ is and I am pretty sure that God is not done working on them. If they truly love the Lord like they say they do and continue to follow down his path, the road will only lead them to better themselves and eventually they will realize the errors of their ways. Nobody is perfect. Not pastors, not evangelists, or prophets. They will be fine.

  • Petty Levert

    Man I hate “Christians”. Because I am a masochist I look at comments sections. And in every comment section featuring this story is the same thing: self-righteous “Christians” running their mouths. People like them are the reason so many leave the church. Shut up and mind yours sometime.

  • Guestest1

    I feel that the woman was out of line.

  • Gunnardab

    I find it ridiculous when religion gets involved in simple things as clothing, what she is wearing is not hurting the moral authority for the soul. The same people quoting the bible and the same people preaching and passing judgement are the most ungodlike I’ve ever meet.

  • GUEST123

    For this author and those in general who defend Amber Rose and Beyonce, yet criticize Meagan Good because she’s a preacher’s wife, is simply ridiculous. This is the hypocricy of the Christian community and the Black community specifically. Amber and Beyonce have far greater ill effect on our girls than Meagan, but you will give them a pass because they aren’t publicly professing their faith. I say publicly professing, because Tina knowles is quite religious which makes me believe Beyonce was raised in the church – yet, why is it ok for Bey, but somehow Meagan gets criticized. They are in the same business.

    • tiredofyouall

      well for one, beyonce isn’t married to a minister …
      not that I agree with the woman, however, as such, she should have a sense of decorum ..
      the woman is old school – fully covered with BIG ugly hats !
      catholic women have to cover their heads upon entering the church – although hair has been said to be a woman’s glory ..
      the ” saved and sanctified” women can’t wear lipstick, short sleeves or pants – or didn’t .
      if this woman truly had a problem with her attire, she should have spoken PRIVATELY – not on blast for public consumption – makes me think she had ulterior motives

      • GUEST123

        So, now it’s the husband and his role that dictates how a woman should dress? Are we still in 2016? Meagan is not the property of her husband (and she is not the preacher), and Bey isn’t the property of Jay Z. They can do what they want.

        Now, again, why is Bey given a pass and not Meagan? Simply because one says publicly she’s a Christian and the other does not? Are these women not sending the same message to young women? Is not the effect the same? The same “Christians” criticizing Meagan will be dead center at Bey’s Formation tour loving every minute of Bey strutting around scantily clad.

        • MReneeSimmons

          Devon and Meagan wrote a book about not being promiscuous and having sex before marriage. Hence the purpose for the panel! Prior to the question, Devon addresses LUST and how detrimental it is along with being promiscuous. Everything Beyonce does is focused on lust, sex, sexuality, feminism, body adoration and being tantalizing. She’s not come out and said single ladies should cover up or be Christlike with scriptures to suit. In fact, the closest Beyonce got to addressing Biblical principles on sexuality is “Cause if you liked it then you should have put a ring on it.” Beyonce’s Cinderella story is not the average woman’s testimony and neither is Meagan’s. Meagan’s is actually a great testimony as the women said, it’s just skewed by the double standard Meagan and Devon have set and neither can accurately explain save to say God loves sexy me and I’m from Oakland.

          I had no idea that video existed in February. Was minding my business reading about election news when the Essence magazine story appeared on my feed. I don’t even follow Essence or Meagan. How did I get here? I wanted to know how God figures Meagan can still show the goods after her nudes was exposed and also her past life, but I shouldn’t. I wanted to confirm if God has a double standard and how He should figure a way to bless me as I give up being chase and go after whatever everyone else is saying is so much better. Why do the Word of God when I can be doing ME; SEXY as I wanna be?

  • Zonnie Kay

    I think what some people fail to realize is your relationship with God is not based off the clothing you wear , but the direct relationship that you have with God. People are so quick to pick apart someone else yet or short comings are not one of them. People think because you are Christian you are like a robot and you are supposed to be perfect. Wake up call nobody walking this Earth is. Her clothing choices have nothing to do with her relationship with God. Simple .

    • Guestest1

      I agree

  • Head Shakes.

    Okay folks for all the Bible Quoting people in here, let me inform you on something you can know the Bible inside out and that do not make you perfect or right. The very first people on this Earth wer born naked it was only made shameful when the apple was eating. So to tell someone that showing skin is sin and not GODLY please. A person fully clothed from head to toe can be the most meanest person ever and still proclaim they love GOD. Clothing does not matter, I say again clothing does not matter. To shame someone based on clothing is just plan judgmental. This whole less clothing makes you less Godly thing is just to much these days. Spend time teaching and showing Love vs Trying to teach someone about what THEY choose to put on THE BODY GOD gave THEM. Have a Good Day People!

    • CJ

      Thank you soooo much! I rarely comment but I couldn’t agree more. Ladies it’s not Christ-like to sit here and judge her for her clothing choices. I don’t care is she was married to the Pope, T.D. Jake’s or any other high profile priest or preacher. Her choices are her choices. Reading these comments and article reinforce these stereotypical ideas about the church.This makes people more worried and afraid about their clothing choices than actually receiving the word and worshipping in church!

      If we are going to say or insinuate that she is less Godly for her clothes, we need to make sure that assess and analyze ourselves and they way we view and think about others and whether that also aligns with God’s teaching and beliefs.

    • MReneeSimmons

      While others focus on dressing sexually suggestively as sin, the issue is more about being an example, “in Jesus name” if you’re gonna throw Him in the mix for good measure and book sales. We already know sex sells. Thanks to Kim and a list of other celebrities, my conscious is so filled with sexual thoughts and nakedness that it’s been a struggle to focus on anything else when it comes to appearance and relationships.

      I want and need celebrity women, pastor’s wives, single AND married Christians, who call on the name of the Lord, to be an example of success WITHOUT sex as the secret sauce! Instead, none of these people consider the desires they fuel or fan when they want to bare everything to everyone. The media is happy to put it on instant replay and post it as click bait for the public. As a result, I empathize with why men cheat or their eyes wander in the mall. I empathize with men who need porn because their wives are just not tantalizing enough like Meagan, Ciara, Beyonce, Amber, and any of the Kardashians. I empathize with the couples who feel like threesomes and swinging makes their marriage better than what God ordained and the list of Christian men who’ve left their wives for greener pastures. EVERYDAY sex is at the door knocking, saying LOOK this is the way. Come hither. Hell won’t even let you buy gas without sensual ladies advertising condoms on window packages! Yet life is not solely about SEX and being SEXY and neither is a good relationship!

      We can ignore it, but like seedtime and harvest, being inundated with people’s PERSONAL choices and need to LOOK, FEEL and BE sexy via social media, television, ads, magazines, radio broadcasts, movies, fashion, and even conference panels is REALLY TOO MUCH!

  • It it 5:00 o’clock yet?

    Her attire is at times inappropriate for a preacher’s wife, but I agree with the fact that it is always best to give counsel in private and not in public.

  • nunya_biz

    Her attire may be a bit tacky (inappropriate) for some, but isn’t it tackier (more inappropriate) to comment on her attire.

  • heyheyno

    Not breast out in the name of Jesus lololololol…..that made me chuckle. I’m glad he defended his wife. The writer’s friends is absolutely right with the women with skirts past their knees sleeping with all the deacons. I’ve found women who are heavily involved in church to be the most judgmental. So the woman who made those comments didn’t surprise me at all.

  • Annamuffin

    If your child preschool teacher dressed like Meghan I bet most of you would be screaming….

    • Guestest1

      But the thing is, when you see Meagan out and about she doesn’t dress like she does when attending an award show. She’s dressed in a stylish shirt and jeans. Me personally, if i had a child and i saw his/her teacher going into a club dressing provocatively i wouldn’t think nothing of it. There’s a time and a place for everything.

    • disqus_ZsmDHbsJLs

      Dressing like that because you are in the entertainment and dressing like that because you are teacher are Two different things. I bet Meagan does not dress too sexy for church (Also,what is considered sexy to one may be considered not too sexy to another).

      • MReneeSimmons

        Well, the good news is that Meagan wasn’t dressed “sexy” in the video so she’s not clueless about the appropriateness of attire relative to place. The bad news is that sin is sin. There is no “scale” for sexiness or sexuality. You’re either showing too much (just ask Kim K) or you’re not showing anything (consider why Muslim women cover themselves from head to toe and only show their eyes).

        In her Essence magazine rebuttal, Meagan insisted that modesty has a motive. If that’s true, what is her motive for dressing salaciously for entertainment: likes, pictures, to sell things, for pay, for fun, for selfies, for attention, to stroke her man’s ego in front of other men, to show up other women, to be glamorous, to feel appreciate, beautiful or wanted? If so, none of that is scriptural. At the end of the day, people know that looking good is attractive and we ALL like attention esp. from an attractive member of the opposite sex. However, what is the motive and spiritual good that comes from going all out to be sexy for people you’re not married to while telling the same people to abstain from sex before marriage? Let me walk up to the pearly gates of heaven in a JLo sexy Grammy dress and see if I’m not sent back humble…

  • cryssi

    Lol, Meaghan is a free woman, a married Christian woman, but still a free woman.

    Since she has been married I have seen her nipples more than when she was single, areola and all. Personally, I think she is doing it for publicity. She has always had a sexual persona, but I didn’t think of it as being deliberate. Sometimes there is just no hiding what God gave you without wearing a potato sack. It didn’t feel intentional until she married a preacher and started to actually wear less, to the point of partial nudity.

    Not judging, but where do they do that at?

    Who goes into a Christian marriage, with a preacher, already with a sexual persona and turns up the sex kitten amplification?

    I’m glad her husband supports her no matter what. I just pray the Lord speaks to Meaghan the next time she thinks of leaving the house in a sheer top and no bra and tells her “My child, a bra won’t kill you. I promise my word will always hold true.”

    • MReneeSimmons

      In Jesus name, amen!

  • caligirl

    i love this couple. they’re gonna (hopefully) have some cute babies one day!

    • MReneeSimmons

      Oh yea, being able to make cute babies is always the litmus test for all that’s good in the world. God forbid if the kids are NOT cute. Top reason why baring your body is so unnecessary. People value the wrong thing for the wrong reasons.

      • caligirl

        so … what do you have against cute babies? hahaaaaa

        • MReneeSimmons

          Nothing except when cute babies are used as relationship goals, as a confirmation of success or as a comparison for what is an “ugly” or deformed baby! Although sex, relationships and marketing revolves around “model pretty” or good looks, we know from observation that beauty is both vain and usually unintelligent. Kids who are physically attractive spend their entire lives getting by on their looks such that they don’t know how to function if everything isn’t perfect. They have low self-esteem and always have to be validated as evidenced by Devon and Meagan’s response. Why do you think Meagan feels she has to show off her body? Been told all her life how cute then pretty and now sexy-fine she is and that’s why she’s type-casted as a hoe. It’s also why she sends mixed message. Perhaps, if flaunting cute, pretty, sexy-fine was not the means to an end, there would be no need to be exposed every chance one gets? I dunno….

  • Trisha_B

    “you understand? So, we gon’ cover up right?…”

    Excuse me?! That lady was way out of pocket. Megan is not a child, she’s not her child. She was talking down to her instead of talking to her. Smh lady got a whole lot of nerve.

    • LogicalLeopard

      I have to agree, you can’t talk down to people like that.

      • Trisha_B

        & that’s where a lot of these judgmental church people go wrong. You can’t guide someone by talking down to them like they are inferior. Your not going to get across to anyone like that.

        • LogicalLeopard

          Exactly!

        • CeCe Says Ugonlearntaday

          Because a lot of religious people are self-righteous. They except God and think they are better than everybody because of it. NO MA’AM or SIR

    • Guestest1

      Someone said that the lady sounded intoxicated. Lol.. she really did.

  • LogicalLeopard

    Eh…..I didn’t think I was going to agree with this article, but I’m pretty much on board with much of what the author said. I’m a big proponent of speaking the truth in love. Maybe the only difference in me and the author is that I don’t think calling out a mature Christian in public is a bad thing in and of itself. I’ve only read the transcript of what this woman in the audience said, which didnt’ seem bad, but then again, it seemed more self serving – I don’t know. But like I said, on general principle, I wouldn’t have objected to a person standing up and saying something like, “I love what you wrote in your book, but I have to ask you something. I have serious reservations about the way that you dress in public at times, such as _________. I don’t think that sends a good message to other young Christian women. Could you comment on that so we’ll know your position on the subject more clearly?” I mean, Paul called Peter out for not eating with the Gentiles, and from what I can remember, it appeared to be public.
    Edit: Forgot that the woman did kind of say, “So we’re going to cover up, right?” Not the best of ways to put that, because it’s kind of demeaning. Tone is the problem here, apparently, not the idea of correcting her.

  • WHOISBSQUARED?

    WELL….. IN THE BIBLE THAT OUR BODY IS A TEMPLE…SO OBVIOUSLY THAT IS HER BODY AND SHE DO WHAT SHE WANTS. BUT SHE’LL ANSWER TO GOD WHEN THE TIME COMES……AND HER HUSBAND WON’T VE THERE TO SAVE HER….JUGEMENT TIME ISN’T COMING TO GOD COLLECTIVELY….JS

  • Ce1999

    I like what you had to say, Veronica. No one was really right here. The woman shouldn’t have brought it up in the way she did and how she did. She could have easily pulled Megan aside at the same event and asked her about it in quiet. And I actually appreciate Megan’s response. That said, there is such a thing as modesty in the church and perhaps Megan is still growing and I’m glad she herself said “pray for me.” Her husband, though he can and should defend his wife, could have acted a little more cooly, in my honest opinion. The Bible says “a gentle word turns away wrath.” Everyone in the faith is called to be meek; that goes for all three parties here. So if anything, I like Megan’s handling of the situation out of all three. I’m going to pray for her growth though. The BET outfit was a bit much, but I haven’t seen her dress in that way since.

  • Jamaican diva

    I really appreciate the way he stood up for her. I also think that woman was out of line, there was no need for her to say that, especially the way she said it, so she deserved to get checked. However, people have to realize that God does not change. Being a Christian is not easy and Christians (male and female) are required to dress modestly. Now its not up to me (or anyone) to look at someone and determine whether or not they are dressed modestly, but when you decide to live your life for God, its not about what you like or want. Sacrifices have to be made. And sometimes, even if we are not in the wrong, if we are stumbling our brother or sister, we have to make adjustments.

    • SG

      I subscribe to the theory that you criticize in private. This lady was out of line in her approach. Had she said this to them privately, she may have gotten a completely different response. The fact that the lady said the spirit led her there blah, blah, blah, had me giving her the side eye. Jesus wouldn’t have handled it that way.

      • LogicalLeopard

        Uhm….but Jesus criticized in public. *LOL* Now, look, I agree with you…most criticism is probably better received in private, and maybe this one would have been better received in public, but I’m not ready to say that it’s off limits period in public, because the Bible doesn’t indicate that.

        • Ce1999

          Fair enough, but I would argue this was not one of those cases. Jesus had discernment and so can this lady, prayerfully. No Christian is beyond rebuke from another Christian, but the condescending way this lady addressed her at the end, makes me believe she wasn’t using her discernment.

          • LogicalLeopard

            I agree with you, the condescension is very problematic. Whenever you try to communicate something to someone, you want to make sure that you’re not being condescending, if you want them to receive it. And sometimes, people are condescending because they don’t really care if someone receives it, they just experience the joy of “telling” someone off. And that’s wrong. We all know that from the internet *L*

            • Ce1999

              Right! I actually was with her at the start, and her message took a turn. Like she clearly just had to get her word in about this, like she had been sitting at home ready to go in on Meagan Good. Really lady? lol

              • caligirl

                probably suppressed homosexual urges…

                • disqus_ZsmDHbsJLs

                  That stupid to say. What are you implying that gays do not have sex? Give me a break. Gays probably have more sex that hetersexual and they do not suppress nothing.

              • LogicalLeopard

                *LOLOL* It kind of sounds like that, doesn’t it? And you know, this is something that women in the church, and even men, have to understand – you can’t address people like you’re their mother or their friend if you haven’t proven yourself motherly or friendly. Or fatherly or friendly. Like say you have a teenage girl who is beginning to develop and is wearing something a little revealing. If you haven’t said a WORD to her other than “Praise the lord” or “Stop running in the sanctuary” since she was born, you can’t just go over there and say, “Oh, baby, let me tell you…” and expect to be effective. Relationship is necessary first to be more effective. And that’s the problem with this, she’s talking to her like she’s known her since she was 10 years old and gave her extra chicken wings at the church dinners. *L*

                • Ce1999

                  Yes! So true!

        • SG

          Yeah Jesus did, but the Word gives instruction regarding correcting a brother/sister in Christ. One passage in Matthew says you are to “go and tell him his fault between you and him alone”. Idk….she didn’t come off right to me.

          • LogicalLeopard

            Matthew 18 does spell out what to do when you have a personal issue with a person, but I’m not sure this is the same thing. Paul rebuked Peter publically for a situation that happened publically. But no, I think we agree more than disagree. No matter if public or private rebuke, what she said didn’t seem like it came off right. She seemed condescending, and condescension is not going to usually come off right. It’s like cursing. Now, if I accidentally step on your foot, and you say to me, “Hey, you stepped on my foot,” I’m probably going to say, “Sorry.” But I accidentally step on your foot and you say, “Blankety blank, what is wrong with your blankety blank? You blankety stepped on my blankety blanking foot!” I’m probably going to get defensive and say, “You shouldn’t have put your foot in my way,” even though I know full well the fault is mine. You get a better reaction from someone when you address them correctly, whether it be public or non-public.
            What would I do in a situation like that? Well, I’m probably not going to address it period, because I’m not sure anything other than prayer is going to help a person I don’t have a relationship with who has very likely heard the same argument before. But if something is fresh, and it just happened, and I was in a position to address it, I would probably just simply ask a question like, “Hey, I love what you’re doing, but I have to ask you about some of your wardrobe choices. Please tell us where you stand on revealing clothes and a Christian walk.” Then pray accordingly with the answer. I think that people should be given the forum to address the elephant in the room, though, and that was definitely an elephant in the room. It probably is wherever she goes when dealing with Christian issues. Just like if you have a preacher who has a bunch of flashy, expensive clothing or cars, I’d imagine many people have questions.

            • Amber

              That’s the thing. To me it should be a question posed to her because we don’t really know her struggle.It may have been a good moment for her to explain herself and hopefully shine a light on an issue while helping others in the process.

              • LogicalLeopard

                Exactly! Right or wrong, you really should give a person an opportunity to speak their peace, so that you can know what they’re thinking and help them better, either through conversation, or prayer.

  • EmpressAfroPuffs

    I don’t think he was saying that she wears the clothing in Jesus’ name ie for Jesus; I think he was using in Jesus’ name to punctuate the statement. As for her clothes, there are folk in the church who look good but are living foul. I don’t care what you wear, I care about your mission and action.

    • LogicalLeopard

      And we have periods, question marks, and exclamation points to punctuate statements. There’s no need to put “In Jesus’s name” at the end of a sentence to punctuate it, especially if it’s doctrinally wrong. And really, we know that dresses that scrape the floor still come off as easily as miniskirts do, but the point is not either or, it’s both. We should be godly inwardly and outwardly.

      • MReneeSimmons

        In Jesus name is definitely not something you use to punctuate statements. It’s to seal or solidify a command to come to pass. You’re right, Devon made a doctrinally wrong statement about his wife’s choice of clothes that neither the Bible nor Jesus cosigned. Our outward AND inward are important and Meagan, Devon and Pastor Toure have taught us that we can do either or…

        • LogicalLeopard

          Exactly!

          • MReneeSimmons

            This video solidifies what I’ve always believed. If ALL Christians, those who are called by His name and those who profess Jesus is Lord, love God with their hearts, there is no way that everyone has a different set of rules, laws, opinions or even decisions. This includes something as basic as “what not to wear” and as complicated as who to vote for! I’m guessing that’s why the Bible is a life manual. The problem seems to be that people are not taking it to heart. They are also conflicted about giving up the very carnal things of the world for “Christ’s sake” thinking that they will lose instead of gain. Meagan must be really afraid about losing her celebrity status, jobs, recognition, etc. to not want to do a simple thing as cover her girls for a photo shoot. It was more important to have photos for their kids/fans to see a sexy wife than it was to honor God with her temple and be an example for other believers who are compelled to expose themselves for pay…

  • A.P. Millz-CT

    The way he came and defended his Wife! Yesssssssssssssss!!!!!!!!!!!!! Tell ’em Devon..

  • StraightShooter

    Showing one’s body isn’t immodest, people have immodest thoughts about what people wear. People are born without clothing. I don’t think God has any feelings about what any person wears.

    • MoMo_411

      Clearly you haven’t read the bible.

      • Calikush

        Nope, it’s clear he/she haven’t!!!!! Smh…..

      • StraightShooter

        I have read the Bible. Unlike most people that call themselves Christians.