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By One Happy Brother
I don’t want you to know my name. Let me tell you why.
I am dating a woman that does not believe in Valentine’s Day as a celebration, a holiday or any other sort of special day. I have found the proverbial unicorn of ladies and I am not about to reveal my identity so that folks can interfere. Men are going to try to take my lady. And women are going to try to disrupt my joy for fear that this incredible, rare creature could spread this to others.
We are the “others.” I am chillin’ like a super villain as my married and committed brethren are running around looking for cheap roses, candy and other faux romantic items. Some guys resort to deplorable moves like creating a disastrous argument as a temporary act of sabotage to kill their own relationship weeks before Valentine’s Day. Shame on them. Some guys cannot take the pressure. They walk around upset that this is the only way their lady will respect them. Money. Chocolate. Breakfast in bed. A toe rub or something.
Me? I don’t have to worry about any of that. First of all, Valentine’s Day really is a fake holiday. It is a wholly created product of capitalism. People spend billions and billions in chocolate alone. (Experts believe consumers will clear $20 billion on Valentine’s Day this year, a record year in spending.) You know and I know we all are broke in varying degrees. It is just an excuse to buy freakin’ expensive Hallmark cards and fraudulently luxury dinner at Red Lobster. Don’t even get me started on the kids. We teach them that you have to spend money in order to show how much you love another person. Bah!
At the core, my mate rejects Valentine’s Day, because she asserts you should show love every day. I agree! You should give loved ones gifts ongoing out of love, not because some man-made, marketing ploy from back in the day. I agree! Also, she maintains affections should not be commodified. I agree! She feels it should not be stressful. Yep, I agree. And lastly, the feminist in her feels the holiday centers on what the man can do/give/buy/offer women in exchange for something that resembles love. I couldn’t agree more.
I admit, I have had fun days with Valentine’s Day, but I was about that life before I met my partner.
In my relationships, I regularly bring her flowers. I write little letters. I cuddle. I certainly could do better in the “Hi honey, I’m home” department, but we all fall short of the glory in some way or another. The real issue with Valentine’s Day is just about everything about it is FAKE, even the historical origins. I show love to my kids every day. Real love. I don’t want them to think that Valentine’s Day represents true adoration. Most times these dudes are out here showing love to get into a women’s panties, not because they love them. Women want real love, but will settle for the fantasy for a day. Women will do whatever they must to be attached to anything, anybody on this day. Just so they aren’t bitter and alone. Guys haul ass to avoid the harrowing experience. Society sucks. Lets move on.
Make “Valentine’s Day” every day. Just leave the over-priced cards, sugar products and false love in the retail store of your choice.
