My Dear Bestie,
I guess you’re probably wondering why the heck I’m sending you a letter when we mostly email or text each other. The truth is, we have had conversations in person and on the phone regarding what I am about to say, and I felt like this was appropriate. There is something about seeing words on paper that help make them a bit more real and easier to process – you can go back to what was written as many times as you’d like.
You have been my girl for many years now. We’ve shared a lot of laughs, tears and everything in between. At the end of the day, you know I am not about throwing shade but coming to you honestly and out of love because I want nothing but the best for you. There’s no easy way to say this so I am not going to sugarcoat things (you know that’s not even my style).
It’s happening…again.
Now, I can’t confirm exactly what’s going on but hear me out…I want to give you a heads up on your husband’s questionable nature since I know it’s been a problem in the past. While on Facebook recently, I noticed his face pop up in the “People You May Know” section. At first I thought this was odd because we were already friends, and then I thought he deleted me because his team didn’t make it into the Super Bowl and I was talking smack. Well, much to my surprise, after clicking on the profile I noticed some of his wall was public where I saw conversations he had with a few women. It wasn’t his profile with photos of you and his children because I was able to pull that one up separately.
I have been going back and forth about whether or not I should tell you this because I don’t want anyone to feel like I am spying on them. You also made the decision to stay with him after finding out he was having inappropriate conversations with other women on Facebook while y’all were engaged. I was there for you then and will be here for you now. Honestly speaking, I have no clue why he would make another profile but as plain as day, it’s him. It actually kinda surprises me that you haven’t seen this as you guys are linked as married – I would have thought it would pop up on your news feed by now…
You know I’d never tell you what to do with your life because at the end of the day it’s yours. You two have a child together and you are stepmother to his children. Only you know what’s best for your family and what you will and will not handle in your marriage. With that said, I wanted to give you a heads up because these days you just don’t know what interactions stay online and manifest in real life. The best way to protect yourself is to have all the cards in front of you so you don’t get blindsided down the road.
Now that you know what I know, I will let this resonate with you. I’m not saying that he’s cheating. I won’t bring this up again and if you want to talk about it, of course I am always here for you.
Love,
Your girl
