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would you date a man who wore a weave feat

There’s a new trend. I don’t know if you’ve noticed it. Men who are bald or unhappy with their hair, length, line or texture are doing something about it. They’re filling it in with fake hair. Really, when you think about it, theres nothing necessarily new about men wearing fake hair. The toupee has been around for ages. But the technology has never quite been up to par. You could always spot a man with fake hair. (Looking at you Donald Trump.)

That was especially the case with Black men as Black hair for men is pretty difficult to replicate.

But the times they are a changin’. Technology is better and the deception is real. There have been videos popping up all over social media showing us how it’s done, including this recent one on Facebook.

I think since we watched this man go from a George Jefferson cul-de-sac to sporting deep waves, we might believe that we would be able to tell this hair was fake if we saw him in real life. But I’m not so sure. Without the video of the process, I might walk past this man on the street, not giving his hair a second glance, which brings me to my question.

Say this very same man approached you. You were feeling his game and decided to start dating him. Would you be disheartened or disinterested to learn that the hair on his head didn’t grow from his scalp? Would you want him to reveal this information on date one or two so you know what you’re really getting into? And lastly, would you feel some type of way about a man wearing a weave?

As much as I try to advocate for gender equality, removing double standards and the right for people to do whatever they want with their own bodies, I’m just not so sure I would be down with a man I’d just met revealing that his hair–all of it– is fake.

A part of me feels bad writing this, particularly when I don’t care for the way men shame women for things like “makeup sorcery” and deception through weave, fake nails, eyelashes, booties etc, when those are the things men and society at large demand from us, i.e. perfection. Men just don’t receive the same types of messages we do about their physical appearance.

I guess the older I get, the more I realize that hair is not just important to Black women. Black men send themselves through some changes as well to get their desired look.

What do you think, could you rock with a man who wore a weave or hair weave or transplant?

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