Serious Question: Do You Care If Your Friends Don’t Like Each Other?
I recently caught up with one of my best girlfriends, Sarah*, and she was quite upset. A couple of Sundays ago, she got into a bit of an altercation with one of our mutual friends, April*. April has this new friend, Tasha*, and Sarah isn’t too crazy about her. They tolerate each other when they have to be in one another’s presence, but Sarah tries her best to stay as far away from Tasha as possible. Apparently, April began to notice how quiet Sarah becomes when Tasha comes around, and she decided to confront her about it. Now, Sarah has never been one to bite her tongue, so if you ask her a question, you should be prepared for an honest answer and if you’re not ready for that honest answer, don’t ask. Unfortunately, April learned that lesson the hard way.
Sarah shared her reasons for keeping her distance from Tasha and asked to change the subject. However, according to Sarah, April continued to interrogate her about it. From the sounds of it, April spent quite a bit of time telling Sarah how wrong she was for disliking Tasha and well, things went left. The conversation ended with April and Sarah at odds with one another.
As I listened to the story, I kept thinking to myself, “But, it doesn’t have to be this way.” Sure, it sucks when your friends don’t like each other, but honestly, I feel like we’re a little too old to be running back and forth like, “Why don’t you like so and so?” And getting into arguments over it? Who the heck has time for that? If it were me in April’s position, I probably would have opted to mind my business, but that’s just me. My coworkers, however, had mixed feelings on the subject. Some said that they wouldn’t get involved while others said that it would bother them knowing that their friends weren’t getting along.
What about you? Does it bother you when your friends are at odds? Would you try to intervene?