“I Feel Like Marriage Isn’t For Everyone.” Nick Cannon Says He Highly Doubts He’ll Marry Again

January 12, 2016  |  

Source: DuJour

Whether you’re in the limelight or an average Joe, marriage is a challenge. Joining your life with an entirely different person is no small feat.

Some people learn this before they embark on a marriage, others in the midst of it and some people don’t fully grasp the concept until their own marriage is looking a little shaky.

In a recent interview with DuJour, it would seem that Nick Cannon has come to that realization.

The 35-year-old was on his way to a tattoo parlor when he conducted the interview. The article breezed past his numerous jobs, the fact that he sleeps about two hours a night and his role in Spike Lee’s Chi Raq but more than anything, the article was focused on his divorce from superstar Mariah Carey (He filed in December 2014 after six years of marriage.), maintaining their amicable relationship and his thoughts on marriage these days.

Check out a few of the highlights below.

Cannon say that no matter how amicable his divorce from Mariah has been, he realized the media would always want to make it drama-filled and sensationalized.

He also discovered something else throughout this ordeal.

“I feel like marriage isn’t for everyone. A friend of mine put it the funniest way. He said, ‘If you heard that there was a 50/50 chance of living or dying when you jump out of a plane, you probably wouldn’t go skydiving. There’s like a 50/50 chance of a marriage working. If it didn’t work out for you the first time, and you still survived it, you probably shouldn’t do it again.” 

His thoughts are pretty clear but when DuJour asked Cannon if he’d ever marry again, he nailed the point home.

“I highly doubt it.”

But, as he’s been trying to tell us, he still has nothing but positive things to say about his wife. In talking about their family’s Christmas celebration, Cannon mentioned all the extravagance. The “Rockefeller tree in their living room,” half a dozen reindeer pulling Santa’s sleigh through Aspen where they traditionally spend Christmas. And though it’s excessive and far from normal, Cannon doesn’t think their different upbringing predicts doom for their adult lives.

“I don’t see a problem with them being different and having an eccentric upbringing. It’s fascinating and fantastic. But it’s about [teaching them] humility more than anything. Teaching them to be respectful—to make eye contact and say ‘Yes, ma’am’ and ‘Yes, sir,’” he says. “You can still be a diva and be humble. Mariah is a perfect example of that.” 

Being that his marriage to Mariah seemed to end relatively nicely, you would think he would be more optimistic about giving it another go. But he’s looking at things differently these days, even suggesting that being married goes against basic human nature.

“When you can be blissful in [a marriage], it’s beautiful. Embrace it for the time that you have it, because it’s not easy. In human nature, we’re supposed to be selfish… We’re constantly moving, constantly changing and evolving. To expect someone to do that with you is kind of absurd.”

Despite not being so sold on the idea of marriage anymore, he still describes himself as a hopeless romantic…just one who has a hard time trusting people.

“I’ve rarely let people that close to me. A lot of it comes with me having trust issues. I’ve been that way since grade school. I don’t trust many people,” he says. “Who knows where I’ll be when I’m 60. At 35, I’m not even looking to be in a relationship.”

So maybe there’s some George Clooney hope there.

But for now, he’s working on being by himself. You may remember that he recently told Ellen he’s practicing celibacy for now. 

He also posted this quote on his Instagram.

#comfortable

A photo posted by LORD NCREDIBLE ALMIGHTY 🕉IkeT🆙 (@nickcannon) on

“I never ever in my life want to have to… how do I say this the right way…” he trails off, thinking carefully about his choice of words. “Not to say that I was bogged down [in my marriage], because I wasn’t by any means, but I like being able to make my own decisions and come and go as I please.” 

You can read the rest of Cannon’s DuJour interview and check out the spread here. 

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  • Lullaby___Interrupted

    Yeah….i will never marry again either….I see no point..
    I knew by the time I was 15 marriage was not for me, or that if i did marry, it would probably be best to live in separate homes. Despite feeling this way, five yrs later, I was married. I guess I needed to be sure that it wasn’t for me. I’m just a natural born loner…
    And I’m not interested in having the totality of my identity and existence being consumed by wifedom and motherhood..
    To be perfectly honest, I felt as if I didn’t exist outside of my home, outside if my husband and being his wife. Almost as if half me was missing or had been sacrificed in order to create this “oneness”…
    I also don’t date, and have very limited contact with males who are not relatives(and selective contact with those who are), and view/ treat men very differently than most women..
    Are far as Nick and mariah are concerned; I always wondered what was she thinking.

  • Lambyboo

    Nick is a weak punk that realized money don’t make you marriage material. No married man should be running a muck thinking he don’t have to abide by marriage rules. This fool! This is why the fan, lambily never ever truly wanted them together because we knew he was deep down a punk. Its tea tho because she found billionaires row where she belongs. Bow down to the queen, nick, she needs a king not a wanna be knight who could not and did not save the day pow.

    • Mr . 215

      And if he showed you interest you would at least see about him wouldn’t you? Hypocrite!!

      • Lambyboo

        I’m happily married. Don’t know many people on my level, let alone, men. Nick is someone I respect for hardwork, but he doesn’t represent anything close to attraction. I like faithful men. He would neva have a chance and he wouldn’t want a woman like me. And I’m grateful to weed out. As lambily for 25 years, I never believed Nick deserved MC and if he didn’t know it, he knows it now.

  • I_am_a_Gladiator/Scandalista

    Hurt people always say that.

  • Chanda

    After a divorce, celebrities are always talking about they’ll never get married again but then end up remarrying anyway. Maybe just take your time next time you get married bro.

  • anonymouse

    Nick, STFU. When things were good with your wife, you were all giddy…..now that it’s failed( rumors because of you), now you’re a bitter betty. 95% of dating relationships fail, but I bet he’s not gonna stop dating. Like most, he ‘allegedly’ messed up a good thing and instead of owning that, he blames a concept.

    • Chanda

      Nick got in his feelings in that interview and on that post.

      • anonymouse

        lol ikr. He knows he’s the reason why his marriage failed. I think that she really loved him; I used to follow both of them on twitter and I recall her trying to contact him through twitter because he wasn’t picking up his phone. I felt bad for her…I was like, ‘you’re mariah carey, you don’t have to do that!’

  • reality_check

    Marriage is set up to benefit women and children. What do men really get out of marriage?

    • ok

      -consistent sex
      -a maid
      -a cook
      -a nanny for their children
      -a longer lifespan

      • Herm Cain

        That’s so flimsy you can get sex a woman to cook an clean without marriage plenty of people nowadays don’t even want children just be real it benifits men in no way but you want committed undying love which is fine to

        • ok

          Mabey no woman wants to do that for YOU…but the average woman is programmed to do these things…and if it is soooooo horrible then why keep doing it..becaus there is a benefit to it..even gay/bi men know the benefits of having a woman at home..thats why yall be looking for mail order brides from different countries and stuff…please…

          • Chanda

            I know right?? Some men get married over and over again until they get it right, if they get it right. Some men seriously don’t want to end up lonely, if not marriage at least a long-time companion.

            • ok

              Exactly…A man is much more likley to remarry after a divorce than a woman is.

  • Austinyc1172

    I agree marriage isn’t for everyone. He does make a really good point. We are ever changing, evolving and it can be selfish expect someone to accompany you on that journey. Which may not work for them.

    • Herm Cain

      Perfect comment

    • Objection

      We are ever changing, evolving and it can be selfish expect someone to accompany you on that journey.

      I’m curious, changing and evolving in what way? I thought the goal was to become a better person over time.

      • anonymouse

        I think he meant as in, he wants to have s3x with other women and mariah wasn’t having that ‘change’ lol

      • Austinyc1172

        Of course to be better, however what’s good for you now may not always bode well for your spouse. We change as people. What we both enjoyed initially may not work for us both 6yrs into marriage. You may evolve, your spouse may not. goals alter, people alter. Sometimes it maybe selfish to ask your spouse to shelf dreams only for yours to flourish.

        • Objection

          Thanks for responding back, but without specifics I don’t understand.

          • Austinyc1172

            Ok. Ex. I once dated someone for two years. In those years, I realized I refused to shelf my dreams by moving to a city for his career. He also wanted children, multiple children. With growth I learned I’m not a daddy, father kinda guy. We we’re engaged and on the verge of marriage. There’s elements of me looking back that would have made our marriage insufferable to bear.

            It would have been selfish for either one of us to put goals, dreams and careers on hold for the other.

  • LogicalLeopard

    I’m not sure what people mean when they say that they doubt they’ll marry again? Is it because you don’t want to go through the legal hassle? I can see that. The heartbreak, or breakup itself? Welll…..so are you saying, you’ll never get into a relationship again? He says that marriage has a 50/50 chance of succeeding, using it as an example of why he shouldn’t do it again. But, uhm…..relationships in general outside of marriage have what, a 0% chance of succeeding? Think about it this way: Every person he dated before he was married, he broke up with. So, should he not date? Ionnunderstand…..

    • Ce1999

      I agree with this.

    • anonymouse

      lol, I just said that. He disrespected his wife and she wasn’t having it, now he’s bitter. It’s an old story.

      • Lambyboo

        He is bitter because he’ll never find anyone better than MC. Nothing but irregularities out there. Same thing as Future. Same game. Men need to either be real man or stay pretending wih the loosers. Tiem to know their lane. Same with females. Everybody needs to know their lane.

  • Guestest1

    This man wasn’t ready for marriage in the first place. The only reason he proposed was because it was “Mariah Carey” and he seemed amazed that she was even dating him the whole relationship. He was definitely Mr. Carey. Lol. It’s great that he figured out that he’s not marriage material.

    • bsbfankaren

      The public forcing him to be Mr Carey wasn’t his fault. Relationships are a two way street as are the ending of relationships. Blaming one party keeps both from seeing their shared contributions or lack there of.

      • Guestest1

        I don’t see anywhere in my comment where I blamed him for the downfall of their marriage. I never said that he cheated, lied, or brought in random groupies. I don’t know what went on behind closed doors and what lead them to divorce but Nick didn’t seem ready to be settled down, especially what he said during his Breakfast Club interview. He sure didn’t seem to have a problem with the public calling him Mr. Carey, seeing as though he was still in shock and amaze that she even gave him the time of day.

        • bsbfankaren

          So…cheating is the first thing you come to as reason for a marriage to end? Seriously? You said he wasn’t ready for marriage. Something you can’t possibly know, and implied her star power was the reason for the marriage as if he didn’t have the ability to think. You are blaming him for the end of his marriage but are choosing to respond to me as if you’re not. Whatever! LOL!

          • Guestest1

            Why does it matter in what order i chose to put it in? There was no specific reason why i chose to put cheating first so what are you babbling about? Saying that he wasn’t ready for marriage was my observation of him and i still stand by it. The End!

            • bsbfankaren

              Simmer down. It just ain’t that serious! LOL!

              • Guestest1

                You sure it’s not that serious? You could’ve fooled me but okay.

        • Lambyboo

          He was way out of line and out of control. Mariah has never talked about her sex life. As diva as she is with the ensembles (clothes) and all, she has never discussed her sex life and wild out like NIck did. She was disgusted. Even BigBoy who knew better. He told Nick at the end of that interview that he would need a couch to sleep on. Mariah was completely disrespected during that interview and mortified. Its was very low class and embarrassing-way out of line You don’t embarrass “your queen” like that Nick. I actually liked his stand up comedy better.

  • Nick is right marriage is not for everyone, but for me marriage has served me well.

    • ninjas hate stability

      Marriage helps to bring stability in our lives but we know some are against that.

      • you got that right, marriage is the foundation of civilization and the foundation of a strong people however unfortunate black American have been condition to hate and frowned upon marriage the very institution that will stabilize their life, community and assist their rise while every other strong people are embracing marriage black Americans are steady mocking and destroy marriage and I find this troubling.

        • Annamuffin

          Marriage leads to generational wealth and strong family foundations. That’s why Asian are so high on socioeconomic ladder they marry pull resources and invest and move as a family unit…..

        • Lambyboo

          Slavery has done an number on African American and the divide is real. Sad. So sad that Black men especially aren’t changing and growing fast enough and sister are getting ahead and many aint looking back, no more.

          • and one of the problems we have is readily spreading negative and divisive myths and untruths on one another, when you look at real statistics you will find both black women and black men educationally, economically and professionally are right about the same neither one can rise any further than the other, the sooner we realize this the sooner we will start making real progress.

      • Annamuffin

        Amen

      • 72% and steadily rising

        Let these dudes continue cry about child support….

      • Lambyboo

        She has defiitely been a blessing in my life for 25 years. Sad Nick couldn’t see all that he has lost. His son will definitely check him on that in 10 years.

  • Kaleb

    Its good that he sees that he is not the marrying type. He seems to be self centered and I could be wrong. But if every single one of your relationships have ended including your marriage its time to do some soul searching within. I agree that marriage is not for everyone. Some people are better off by themselves.

    • bsbfankaren

      We are all selfish in some way or other. It’s a part of being human.

  • slim pickings for a sista

    Dear Black Ladies, If you decide to wait too damn late to try to get marry, you will meet guys that are divorced and some have a negative view of marriage as a result and some that are unwilling to commit. You can always settle for the ones that aren’t marriage material but that’s a recipe for disaster.

    • Lentina

      It is so sad but men get hurt too just like women do and it changes their point of view on certain relationship commitments…such as marriage or being faithful. Too many mistakes carried over into the next relationship and so on and so forth…eventually the majority end up single and alone with any love left to give or get

      • You comment is spot on point. Hurt people will sometimes hurt other people and damage people will oftentimes damage other people.

        • Lentina

          it is a real cycle and I hope that it stops with someone in the relationship allowing themselves to trust and build a barrier that can protect but can also move on “if” hurt. I’m working on this myself and I hope to remain smart in the dating field and know when to be venerable but also know when to not hold hard feelings and allow the next person in for a shot. Marriage showed me so may highs and lows and I can honestly say I still hold on to some of that hurt but I know love is out there.(again) whether it be in a committed relationship or marriage again for me

          • good luck and more power to you sister.

            • Lentina

              Thanks TBB 🙂

      • __________

        Guys refuse to heal after a breakout as they are on to the next so the cycle continues.

        • Lentina

          exaclty

    • 1911

      Truer words have never been typed! I agree 100000000% with your post.