What Happens When You Leave Your Sugar Daddy?
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So in case you haven’t heard, Diddy and Cassie are no more. You never know with these two. By the time I finish this post, they might be back together again. But according to their social media activity, over the past few days, and a couple of sources, they’re finished.
First, Cassie quickly posted and deleted this meme.
According to Love B Scott, Cassie broke up with Diddy because of his involvement with another woman. Reportedly he even brought this woman to his Revolt Music festival in October. Even before this woman, people have been speculating about a rocky relationship saying that Cassie was largely absent from Diddy’s birthday celebrations.
I don’t know whether this source is accurate or not. But considering the fact that Diddy openly admitted that he’s still out here, on national radio, is enough to support those claims. In case, you missed it, he told “The Breakfast Club” about his love contract.
“I don’t want to promise on nothing I can’t deliver. What I can deliver, out of a pie, is I can promise you that, if I’m in a relationship with you, that 25% of your time, you’re going to just feel like ‘I hate being here. I hate this guy. He cheated on me, he lied on me.” But then there’s 75% I’m going to make you the happiest woman in the whole wide world. I’m going to be there to support your dreams, I’ma be there to hold you, listen to you. I’ma be there to be your best friend. And I promise you’ll smile the most. You know who I am, you know what it is.”
Yes, he said that…publicly.
Then, shortly after Cassie posted the meme, Diddy and the mother of his children, Kim Porter, were seen leaving the same sex toy/lingerie shop in LA.
Y’all know what’s up. Kim is always ready and willing. So there’s that.
But I’m wondering, now that Cassie has realized that she no longer wants to tolerate Diddy’s philandering, where does she go from here?
First, before we get to her, can we talk about the fact that Diddy let the whole world know that his relationship with Cassie wasn’t monogamous in the first place?
Let’s be real. No one thought Diddy was faithful. I’m sure Cassie even knew the deal. But there is a difference between you and your loved one knowing and understanding the agreement you’ve made. But it’s another thing when the whole world knows you’re actively and consistently cheating on your significant other. It’s tacky. And it would have been nice if Diddy could at least present a symbol of cohesiveness and loyalty toward Cassie by keeping his private love contract out of the public eye. It was almost like he was marketing himself to new women. “Come one, come all! I can offer you a piece of this fourth I’m not giving my main chick.”
But back to Cassie.
For those who aren’t too familiar with her story, she left producer and artist Ryan Leslie to be with Diddy. It was a bit of a grimy situation. But homegirl, for whatever reason, saw an opportunity and she took it.
We all saw the lavish life she lived while on the Bad Boy’s arm. She went on trips, all the parties, slept in his house and there was that one birthday where he blessed her with a stack of money. And during that time, Cassie might have released a couple of singles, modeled for Ciroc and Carol’s Daughter, but, from all appearances, she was mostly employed as his arm candy.
So now that the two have allegedly parted ways, after she has become accustomed to living a certain type of lifestyle, where does she go from here? Does she go back to dating regular dudes, with regular cash flow? I would imagine that it would be intimidating and difficult for another man in the music industry to step to her knowing how influential Diddy can be… and how much he likes to fight.
Furthermore, does she go back to work…whatever that might be? Before she didn’t really have to work with any type of consistency. What happens now?
We were discussing this in the office and said a woman like Cassie had to know that Diddy had no intentions of marrying her. I don’t know if Cassie wanted that for her life. But even if she didn’t, surely she knew this relationship likely wouldn’t last forever.
Did she save enough of that money to be good without him?
Since Diddy knew he was “out here” during a quarter of their relationship–if not more– is there any incentive on his part to take care of her once they are no longer together? Just as a good will gesture for knowingly putting up with his foolishness. Probably not, though the mothers of his children are well taken care of.
Obviously, I have no answers. I was raised not to depend on a man financially. And even if I just so happen to unite my finances with a man, in marriage, I should still have my own on the side just in case. So I’m asking out of sincere curiosity. What does Cassie and kept women like her do in this situation? Either way, she’s still pretty young. She’s got time.
Have you ever had a sugar daddy? If the relationship ended, was it a struggle to adjust to regular life again.