Supporting Your Man Financially? Here’s What To Expect

November 17, 2015 ‐ By Julia Austin
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No matter how feminist a man may be, it does something to his self-esteem to depend on his girlfriend for financial support. If your man has fallen on hard times or needs to take a break from his job, you may find yourself supporting your man. Here’s what to expect.

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  • Miguel Lozano

    sad sad sad sad sad

  • 1Val

    Trucking isn’t a felon friendly occupation.

  • Cocoa Rose

    Don’t be so hard on her. I do question why this site always has these implied “hold him down even if he’s not producing” type posts. I never see this on sites geared towards white women and especially not Asian women.

    • Secret87

      Because their men usually don’t expect their women to treat them like women. And not being harsh. Those are actual jobs blk men hold who have felons.

      • 1Val

        Many felons are small business owners with detailing, landscaping, home improvements, cleaning/janitorial services and shade tree mechanics occupations.
        There are also felons who work in hospitality and construction fields. A man’s employment life isn’t over simply because has a felony record. It’s difficult for them to secure employment but there are felons who have gainful employment. And there are felons who are lazy and refuse to work using their record as a crutch. The only person who prevents a man from being a man is the man himself.

    • slim pickings for a sista

      Women of other races aren’t encouraged to settle because they know they can do better. Only black women are encouraged to settle for whatever they can get.

  • Natalie

    I support my husband because he is a felon and can’t find steady work. Right now he is working for a friend of his and brings home less than $100 a week. It totally sucks. I never picture myself being a breadwinner nor do I want to be the breadwinner. We had to work through some pretty big links because of a mix of his economic and mental health problems, but I think it’s about as good as it’s gonna get right now. I had to stop wishing that things will get better and realize that things are going to probably be this way for us for a very long time of not the rest of our lives together, but I’d rather get bring home less than $100 a week than bringing home nothing at all. However, I would strongly advise women against walking into a relationship like mine. If the man cannot make enough to support himself then he needs to stay single. I thought I could be one of those modern strong women when we first got together due to my own desperation to find a man, but I have come to know that there is a natural order to things and it’s wise not to go against that.

    • leave these felons alone

      I dated a felon one time and that was the worst dating mistake I ever made! Supporting him financially was draining me as well as mentally. Ladies, these guys expect us to get the crumbs that’s thrown our way but we have to raise our standards.

  • LAWAT

    Support me!!!!???…I can’t find a WOMAN to buy me LUNCH!!!…and i’m Vegan

  • 1Val

    He should expect a breakup in near future. Majority of women balk at financially supporting men and those who think they are good with it soon realize they are carrying dead weight and end those relationships.

  • todays bums have it made

    I was born in the wrong era.

    • Secret87

      This is common. Blk men call blk women gold diggers and the biggest ones after white women. I had broke to homeless blk men ask me out. Guess who’ll have to pay for that big mac date? ME. Feel like a actual lady with Korean guy vs a man and a woman holding it down…im good.

  • Taneesha Culture Clash Thomas

    the word says if a man don’t work he don’t eat but there’s a big difference between a man that won’t work & one who can’t work for whatever reason…There are those stand up guys that are home taking care of the family & house because it’s more feasible for them to do so…then there are those who are just lazy bums that want to sit at home playing video games dropping their women off at work driving around all day joy riding in the car with their friends like the eternal stagnate children they really are.