Why Vivica Fox Was Right And Wrong To Call 50 Cent Out
If you haven’t heard, Vivica A. Fox and 50 Cent were involved in a full-fledge cat fight this early morning.
I am not going to bore you with too many of the details as I am sure that most of you all already got caught up on the facts while having your morning breakfast sandwiches and McFrappuccinos.
But just to summarize for those who will still complain about not knowing what happened: it involved Andy “Shifty Eyes” Cohen and as usual, he was being messy.
On last night’s episode of “Watch What Happens Live,” Cohen asked Fox what she thought about recent comments made by 50 in which he blamed the Empire’s ratings dip on “gay stuff.” First Fox said, “Pot calling the kettle black, is all I’m saying.”
But Cohen was like, nah-uh Barbie-face. You got to give us more! Tell us, what are you insinuating?
Despite her earlier proclamation to not say anything more, Fox took the bait and brought up the 50 Cent and Soulja Boy XXL magazine cover from 2010, which many people on the Internet had pegged as “suspect.” While she clarified that she didn’t think he was gay, she added that there is something “not quite clear” about him.
She also said of the XXL cover: “he just looked like a booty snatcher to me.”
And now 50 Cent is roasting her on Instagram…
There is no doubt that Fox hates 50. And she probably hates him because she was so in love with him, even though it went against her better judgement.
Many of us have been there. For whatever reason, she decided to see the good in him, to look past his obvious trollish ways and get to know the poor misunderstood, broken-winged bird underneath. That’s not really him. He just needs love and hugs. He just needs a job. He just needs support. He just needs a good home cooked meal. I can help him, is what we all tell ourselves.
But then we sober up. And we realize that he is everything that he has presented himself to be.
Now we’re pissed.
Don’t get it twisted: we will move on. We will meet new men and experience new bulls**t. But from now until the end of all eternity, we will also hold a special place of contempt and grief in our hearts for the one we knew damn well we had no business being with in the first place.
It’s like the horror film, The Babadook.
Basically, 50 Cent is Fox’s locked-away monster, eating worms and dirt in her emotional basement.
All of this to say that Fox was certainly silly for starting things with him. For one, addressing 50’s homo-antagonism with more homo-antagonism doesn’t address the original offense. She could have responded to Cohen’s original question with a simple “he’s insecure,” and everybody would have been like, “yeah I can see that.” A more thoughtful response could have spared all humiliation she is receiving now.
But then again, this is 50 Cent we are talking about here. And we know that 50 Cent lives to respond to people regardless of how big or small the infraction – with exception of Chelsea Handler of course.
In some ways, who can blame Fox for attempting to payback? Heck, who could blame anybody?
Let’s review the facts here: 50 Cent is a bully.
Just a couple of days prior to Fox’s haphazard call-out, he was body shaming Rick Ross. Sure, some folks will say that Ross started it. After all, Ross was the first to take a shot at the How to Rob rapper on his Mafia Music track. But that incident happened back in 2008 when President Obama had jet-black hair. Folks change. People move on. And President Obama is rocking the salt and pepper fade.
Now that we are coming up on a new presidential cycle, 50 still ain’t over it. He is still stuck emotionally in the same place he was back in 2008 (heck, some might argue that he is emotionally stuck in a moment in time further back then 2008). I guess Ross is 50 Cent’s Babadook…
Still, 50 Cent’s got a lot of monsters locked away in his basement.
Like Shaniqua Tompkins, the mother of his estranged son. Not only had she accused him of domestic abuse, but she was also forced out of the home he bought her after a mysterious fire. And then there was Young Buck who 50 Cent “exposed” on the Internet for violating the man code by crying to him on an answering machine about being kicked out of G-Unit. And then there is Lastonia Leviston who is the mother of Rick Ross’ child. 50 Cent was ordered to pay $5 million to her after he maliciously released her sex tape, without permission, as retaliation for the beef with Ross that started almost two presidential cycles ago. And then there is laundry list of other rappers which would take up too much column space explaining just how vicious he has been over his lifetime.
It seems that 50 Cent got a problem with everyone – with exception of Chelsea Handler. And worse, his “problems” with everyone seem to last well past the expiration dates of relevancy.
He even has a problem with “the gays.” And according to MTV News in a 2004 interview with Playboy Magazine, 50 Cent said:
“I ain’t into f—-ts,” 50 says in an interview in the April issue of Playboy… “I don’t like gay people around me, because I’m not comfortable with what their thoughts are. I’m not prejudiced. I just don’t go with gay people and kick it — we don’t have that much in common. I’d rather hang out with a straight dude. But women who like women, that’s cool.”
Of course, he would later go on and become a champion of gay marriage, but he still continues to engage in the same homo-antagonism of other rappers, and television shows, and gay people (while he came out for gay rights, he also said that there should be an organization created to protect straight men from gay men touching their “buns” in elevators), that makes me think that he hasn’t changed one bit.
I know there will be some who will say that I am defending Fox because she is a woman. But I assure you, there is no double standard. If anything, 50 cent is the standard. He is able to exist and profit because he is in an entire industry that thrives off of homophobia and misogyny. He can harass people to the point of new lows. He can call people out of their names. He can blackmail and blackball people. And he can even threaten physical harm to people. And he is able to do all of this because we live in a culture that does not check our bullies.
But the moment someone serves the bully with a bit of his own medicine, some folks want to shame Fox and look to 50 some sort of victim. Or worse, a champion.
Nope. While I think Fox was silly and woefully outgunned for such a task, 50 Cent gets no sympathy, or applause, from me. In the words of Bart Simpson, at least she tried…