Madame on the Street: Can You Be in a Relationship Without Playing Games?

June 30th, 2011 - By Veronica Wells

Some people say they’re for immature teens, others recognize there’s a little game-playing in every relationship. Whether you’re the master of manipulation, a tad on the deceptive side or sweet as a saint, check out what these New Yorkers had to say about playing games in relationships.

 

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  • LOVEDONTCOSTATHING

    in my experience a lot of men play games and plan stuff out so things have more of a chance of going in their favor.  i dont play games so this usually messes with their little game plans with me, they tend to be confused by me, but if they were not trying soo hard to play some game they could focus on the fact that a lot of women out here are really real and will respect if they are upfront with their “situation” and not really fault them for it.  it is what it is afterall, if you just wanna f*ck then so be it, let me know i might want to to, if you want a relationship and want to see if i am compatible with you then tell me that to so that i have an opportunity to respond to these things appropriately..

    guys seems to think they can trick women into giving up the p*ssy, when thats really not the case for a lot of women.

    also, people stop fronting like you dont want a relationship and you’re ok with just f*cking, when you know thats not what you want.  I have seem too many people do this, male and female and its only hurting the person that you should be trying to please, YOU.

  • Andrea

    This is true. However, I would not call that being "in a game" , or playing games – that is the natural order of a relationship- to teach the other person how to relate to you, what you like and don't like and vise verse. It's plain and simple compromise! This is how it should be since we are not all the same and we have unique qualities and needs in our relationships with each other. Even FRIENDSHIPS work that way!

    P.S. A lot of the above conversation is so unnecessary and shows that this is the reason why "games" are still being played. Grown adults should be able to hold intelligent conversations without battering one another.

  • Ms. Moneec

    GAMES playing is for children!! Playing games in what is suppose to be an healthy, adult and mature relationship can be DANGEROUS! It's such a waste of time. People can only front for so long. Eventually, the REAL them will come out. So its best to be upfront and honest from the very beginning. Save yourself the embarrassment . . .
    KEEP IT REAL!!

  • Anna

    I would love to say yes but it's all a game… even not playing a game is in fact a game. Sorry if you disagree. From the first look, the flirt, the date, the phone calls, it's ALL A GAME. The chase, the capture, the relationship… The quid pro quo, the whole nine, it's all a game. Some are just better at disguising and bluffing it than others.

  • Kelli

    people say they’re mature…but both play games..i’ve seen it in young folks and married folks that are well past 40..smh

    … gas higher than giraffe p*ssy right now..im glad they giving out $250 cards 2 people in the US.. http://ow.ly/5uP5I get ya fam fill 1 out & get 2 like me..lol

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  • Tam

    @ Samantha, sounds like prostitution to me…

    • Samantha

      And your opinion means what to me? Those who cant always have something to say to those who can. Dont worry abt how i get mine. Focus on getting yours.

  • Samantha

    Ill play games with a man if he has something I want but I dont like him. Its amazing what idiots do over a big butt and a smile!

    • #thatsmesaying

      how sad of u to need a man to have what you want # get ursefl togheter n find a job

      anyways games can be played but that's for kid
      if u & ur partner know what u guys wants then there is no point on playing games

      • Samantha

        Did you hear me say that I needed a man to give me anything? I have my own but if someone is willing to give me things then why not take it? Dont get mad cuz you dont have what it takes to do the same.

  • InnocentTruthIsBack

    If a man is playing games it's because he doesn't want to be with you in the first place. Personally, I don't blame men for playing games because let's be real, the pickings of women in society today are subpar. I understand why men marry foreign women in large numbers.

    • L-Boogie

      InnocentTruthIsBack, I am sorry to inform you but women from various nationalities come with drama. You seem very bitter and slightly neurotic. Work on that.

    • Rebecca

      Oh but theres more woman than men on this earth, so your bound to find a good woman before you find a good man. So basically you're excusing a man immaturity, because only children play games

    • Annelli

      Ok…well if that is the case, then go get the foreign woman..it's that simple. I don't think any man or woman 23 or over should be playing mind games and emotional games…people get hurt and some never recover from that sort of emotional pain.

    • Ms. Moneec

      As if they don't play GAMES!! Boy! Are you soooo misinformed!! LOL

  • kayla small

    Yes it is possible. the woman said it best children play games, when both the man and woman are mature then no games should be necessary.

    • t_99

      Agreed. Mature folk need not play games. Besides, mature individuals don't have time for games.