Hello Barbara, this is Shirley.
Last night Twitter was in all of its messy glory after rumors of infidelity in Victor Cruz’s relationship with his fiancée, Elaina Watley, hit the web. According to the rumor mill, Watley got fed up with her dude and his (alleged) philandering ways and decided to blow things up by bluntly addressing the wide receiver’s 200 mistresses via group text. I’m not quite sure where the Internet pulled this number from, but they’ve unanimously settled on 200.
Oh yeah, there’s a screenshot of the alleged message floating around, which reads:
Hello ladies, this is, Elaina Victor Cruz’s fiancée. You all know about me, and I seem to be the topic of conversations with Vic. I’m sure he’s told you many of things about us and how we don’t exist but given the fact that you all meet him in hotel rooms only, we all know that’s a lie, just as he tells me you all are whores and mean nothing to him.
Neither Cruz nor Watley has confirmed the screenshot’s authenticity. But of course, that didn’t stop Twitter running with it because, well, who doesn’t love a good scandal? And this, my friends, is the epitome of scandalous.
Most of the tweets that I’ve come across so far either poked fun at the situation with GIFs of Cruz’s reaction to the alleged group text, or Elaina’s boldness. However, there was one person’s take on the situation that kind of caught me off guard. Anyone who knows me knows that I love me some Luvvie. She’s my friend in my head, and that will never change. But I have to say that I was shocked to see that she dubbed Elaina’s group text as “pigeon” behavior, and I’m going to have to lovingly disagree with my boo on this one. Luvvie writes:
If you want to know what being a bird looks like, this is it. Anyone who finds out their partner is cheating and confronts whoever they’re cheating with instead of the damb Groupon peen and vag they have committed to is a basic bird. They are pigeons.
https://twitter.com/Luvvie/status/651552049776226304
https://twitter.com/Luvvie/status/651552188536328192
Dammmmn Gina, why she got to be all of that?
Now, let me put it out there that I do catch her drift. If your partner cheats on you, I do believe that you should take it up with them since they’re the one who agreed to be in a monogamous relationship with you. In most cases, the other woman owes you nothing. However, I don’t really see anything wrong with also addressing the other woman if you find that to be necessary. Would I do it? More than likely, I would not. But I wouldn’t consider the next woman a chickenhead or think less of her if she chose to do so in a tactful manner. Honestly, who truly knows how they would react if they learned that the man they’re engaged to marry was out here slanging community penis on the regular? Hopefully, the initial reaction would be to leave, but I truly believe that you would have to walk in that woman’s shoes to really know how you would move in this kind of situation. It’s pretty easy to speak on and judge the actions of others, but after receiving some heartbreaking news like that and listening to “Not Gon’ Cry” on repeat enough times, who really knows how they would react?
Furthermore, it’s not like the message was threatening. She never asked them to meet her on the corner of such and such so that they could “shoot the heady.” She simply wanted to let the other women know what’s tea. “Hey Sis, I’m not sure what you think this is, but we’re very much together, and you’re sleeping with an engaged man.”
If he was wild enough to be out here sleeping with anything with a pulse after his proposal to this woman went viral last year, he deserves to be embarrassed the way that he supposedly was. Obviously, the gesture probably won’t help or change their situation in any way, and if they do plan to stay together, they really should seek professional help. But perhaps it made her feel better during a moment when she felt like things were falling apart around her, and to me, that’s okay.
If all of this mess turns out to be true—I pray to God it’s not—then I truly feel for this woman. Like, for real. And if anything, I’m more concerned about her decision to possibly remain in this unhealthy and potentially dangerous situation.
What are your thoughts on reaching out to the other woman? Have you ever? Would you ever?
