“Don’t Like Abortion? Then Don’t Have One”: Twitter Tackles A Challenging Stigma With #ShoutYourAbortion

September 22, 2015  |  
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All over Twitter, women (and even men) have been fighting back against the stigma attached to abortion by telling their own stories with #shoutyourabortion. What do you think of this new Twitter movement to support reproductive rights? Check out what these individuals had to say about being pro-choice.

 

 

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  • hollyw

    Try autocorrect, fool lol smh. I’m not even gone read the rest of your comment, b/c you’re clearly a sad, sorry individual getting her self-esteem from petty “internet thugging”, trying to distract folks from the real issues.

    You do you, ma’am, and I’ll continue to stand with EVERY clinic that provides preventive healthcare, education, and yes, A.B.O.R.T.I.O.N.S. all day while you’ll be in forums such as this, obsessing over small “wins” lol smh, and the answer to the rhetorical (I typed that especially for you) question of whose methods better benefit the black community will be obvious. Much success!

  • Blu

    People are crazy. Whether u are pro life or not I mean this is not something to be proud of if u had an abortion. Smh.

  • hollyw

    I love it!

  • Ajavee

    Pro-choice all the way.

    • hollyw

      ¡100%!

  • There are too many contraceptives out here to be in this situation. Not only that adoption is not the nightmare most ppl think. Your child more than likely will have a great life. And furthermore birth control is free or cheap now, let’s see which cost less abortion or the pills? If you are not responsible enough or smart enough to just take a pill everyday or whatever form you choose then maybe abstinence is the better choice for you.

    • Hokiegirl87

      I agree 100%!

  • Not You

    Pro-choice, pro-life…nice euphemisms for something that involves the value of human life. Abortion is an ethical issue that was hijacked by feminism and gender politics. Your body, your choice? Well, considering a fetus has its own set of DNA distinguishable from yours, then it’s body/life is not yours, and, therefore not your choice to end or take.

    • Chey

      End of discussion. It’s completely crazy that this is even a controversial issue! How are so many people A-okay with women murdering their children?! Especially as a cop out for sexxxual irresponsibility?! Then they get upset when they’re judged for it, but wanna judge the folks they see on the news or in these articles for murdering their newborns or toddlers like there’s any difference. They didn’t want their kids, either. #guessitsjustthelivesyalldeemimportantthatmatter

      • hollyw

        Too true. Just as most self-proclaimed conservatives want abortion banned, but support the death penalty and bans on welfare. Pro-life as a movement is really just pro-fetus.

        • Chey

          Yeah, whatevs holly. Not gonna play the “Justify That Abortion!” game with you.

          • Nikia D-Shiznit

            There is no need to justify anything, because your approval isn’t needed, anyway. This matter should be treated like all other medical matters-it should be kept private, which was the basis of RvW in the first place. Are you ok with being taxed at 50% for social programs like a year long maternity leave, welfare, food benefits, free medical care and housing? No. Most babies that are not aborted are in foster care, anyway. Is that a way to live? Can you tell us when your last pap smear was, or the last time you had a yeast infection, or maybe how heavy your monthly flow was? No? Why? Because it is no one’s business. My point exactly. I think you are just upset that women who get abortions don’t seem to have a feeling in the world about, and I am here to tell you that that is absolutely false. We thing about it everyday, but there is no need to repent to you, your God, or wear a scarlet letter about it. You are not pro-life until those who are already here are taken care of, and they are not. And for any religious freak who wanna quote the bible, let’s do it. Old Testament God was “not so nice” to unborns. Bring it if you think I’m joking about that. Hypocrites.

            • Chey

              That’s true, you don’t have to justify it. There is no way to justify it, but it doesn’t stop y’all from trying. A guilty conscience will speak for itself when the right buttons are pushed. You said yourself that you think about it everyday. Then because you feel guilty you wanna put words in other peoples mouths. Not here for it. I’m not playing that game with you, either.

              • Nikia D-Shiznit

                Actually, the part I think about is the fact that I would be a mother right now. How close I came to being a mother is a thought, as my life would be drastically different. I am in no way, shape or form feeling any guilt about aborting a fetus that would have died minutes after birth. But nice try, tho. Look up the definition of murder, and you will see that there is a definition of it, and not the one you ignorantly apply to it. You think you are in the position to tell someone what reasons are ok for having an abortion, then judge them? Then give false equivalencies, like you have a point? LOL, you are reactive, and you do not make sense, in fact, your point is emotional, therefore, making it invalid. Who the heck put you in a position to judge, as you admitted you do, in your post above? No one. It is human, but not a person. There is a difference.

                • Chey

                  As I said before, there’s no way to justify murder. You can type to your heart’s desire, it’s not gonna change my opinion or what is the truth.

                • Mrs.J

                  Don’t even bother trying to explain anything to Chey, that person hasn’t had the experience that you’ve had.If you are pregnant with a fetus that has an abnormality or health issue that is incompatible with life then abortion totally makes sense.This person doesn’t have kids and has never lost a child.

            • Mrs.J

              Have you ever thought about getting couseling to deal with the guilt?Guilt can eat you alive.I’m just saying.

              • Nikia D-Shiznit

                I did get counseling. My unborn was very sick, and for the longest time, I couldn’t even talk about it. I’m very ok with it, but people have no idea what it is like in the abortion clinics. I used to be one of them, and never in a million years did I ever think I would be. This was years ago, by the way. I just could never understand why people could think women don’t deserve privacy, or at the very least, respect regarding this issue. We have more sympathy for people who smoke their lungs out than we do for women who make the decision, for whatever reason, who have abortions. That’s all I’m saying. I still believe in privacy, but for some people, it helps to talk about it. My guilt came from not even knowing I was pregnant for a nice part of the pregnancy, as it is not uncommon for me to skip months of my period. I don’t feel that way anymore, I just think people think way too much into it.

                • Mrs.J

                  I’m glad that you got counseling and hope it helped.Nothing is your fault.Some babies have no chance of surviving outside of the womb.I think that abortion is a private thing and should definitely not be used as a form of birth control.I think that people who are totally against abortion in all situations don’t live in reality.

            • DarkBrown

              “Old testament God was “not so nice to unborns.” Do tell, I’m curious

          • hollyw

            ???

            LOL please don’t flatter yourself, I don’t play games and I’m the last one to think legal abortions need justifying.

            • Chey

              Save it, holly.

              • hollyw

                Just worry about your own salvation, Chey 🙂

                • Chey

                  Good one! I love it.

    • hollyw

      …but the body it needs to develop into a human being IS yours, and therefore definitively your choice (within the first few months/dependent on the state/country) to end or take.

      If this disappoints citizens of the U.S., I seriously don’t see why they don’t just move to a country where your religious/spiritual/”ethical” opinions run supreme, as there is no shortage of them.

      • Not You

        I’m so sorry you’ve been goaded into believing that the value of human life should be relegated to and equated with suffrage and equal pay. Also, “religious”, “spiritual”, and “ethical” are not synonymous. Ethics applies to everyone, religion does not, but, thanks for showing how well the public education system has done in teaching you critical thinking skills.
        ; )

        • hollyw

          Actually, I attended private school LOL, though thank you for showing everyone what it looks like having to resort to ad hominems b/c you can’t formulate a decent intelligent response.

          Tell me, do you understand irony? That’s a rhetoric question; I know you don’t.

          Fyi, the context in which those terms were applied in my comment were exactly to make the point against your response (which you obviously missed); ethics, religion, and morality are all SUBJECTIVE, whether you choose to apply it individually or globally. You’re welcome 🙂

    • Mrs.J

      So you would want abortion to be made illegal in America?

  • Nikia D-Shiznit

    But, in the gist of things, who is anyone to tell someone what an acceptable reason for a medical procedure is? That’s why it needs to be available to everyone who needs/wants an abortion. Other countries don’t view this issues as an issue. In religious countries, like the Vatican and Israel, they have abortion ready and available for women. The history of banning abortions include Whites who were afraid they would be overrun by immigrants.

    • Trisha_B

      In many other countries, abortion is an issue. Where abortions aren’t legal unless it’s for a medical reason (I.e Paraguay making an 11 yr old give birth to her rapists child b/c there was no medical problems…)…what’s an acceptable reason for a medical procedure? If there wasn’t an acceptable reason, people would be getting medical procedures all the time for the dumbest things, & putting themselves at risk. Who is anyone to say that? How about doctors…I don’t care if abortions are made legal, but that shouldn’t be celebrated. Wanting to be a fast áss & irresponsible is nothing to be proud of

  • Nikia D-Shiznit

    The fact is, abortion services should be available to the women who need them, but I also think it should be private. Why isn’t anything private anymore? Women don’t need to have a bunch of people judging whether or not their reason for having/needing/wanting an abortion is valid, the same way they should keep their business to themselves. There are a vast array of reasons as to why a woman might get an abortion, from simply not wanting a child, or, like my cousin, whose body rejects birth control, and she didn’t find out until it was too late. We already have people out there looking to take this reproductive freedom away from women, but I also thing that just because you keep your business to yourself, does not mean you are ashamed of it. It means you value yourself and your private life. There is nothing wrong with that.

    • LiveMelove

      So are you the Business police? You say whats ok for women to say and what they should value? Last I checked your name wasn’t on any ballot.

      • Nikia D-Shiznit

        No, but I do think that abortion is a very personal, painful experience, and I know from experience. If it helps a person to heal by sharing it, then fine. I’m just saying that there is too much debate on this issue, and way too many people think that they can legislate women’s bodies. I do value privacy. In the age of social media, everything is a “cause.” Why? Are you the “It’s my business to tell you that you can’t tell people to value their business” police? Last time I checked, you aren’t my momma, and I’m an adult who can come on this forum and give my opinion just like every one else. Get your life.

        • hollyw

          It’s unfortunate that that was your experience, and if this campaign is a trigger for you, but the main reason for the campaign is to de-stigmatize abortion b/c 1. some women just aren’t traumatized by the process, point blank, and 2. part of the stress that women who ARE traumatized by it comes from society.

          I think the point is that, for many patients, and for all of the professionals who serve them, it is a medical procedure that deserves the same privacy as any other medical procedure, under HIPPA, and anything further than that should be left to the discretion of the patient, b/c frankly, not every woman/family sees it as something they should be ashamed of. For those who are, keeping things a secret is what increases the stigma as much as the trauma, for many people, and telling about it in the open lessens that…you are brave speaking out on yours!

    • Mrs.J

      I’m pro choice but most of the stories I read just seemed like carelessness.I’m not saying that abortion should be illegal but people who know they don’t want kids right now should invest in birth control.

  • elainemarylee

    Honestly, if that’s how they feel, then fine. It’s their body, not mine and I’m not going to invest energy and time worrying about another’s woman abortion track record. However, this social media phenomena is something else, apparently a birthplace for many advocacy issues.

    • hollyw

      Yes, it has fast become the new frontier.

  • DaTruf

    Ugh. These women are disgusting. Not because they had abortions. Im actually prochoice to an extent, but these women seem proud of their abortions or like they use abortion as a method of birth control. That is nothing to be proud of no matter how you try to hashtag it.

  • Mrs.J

    I’m pro choice but these stories upset me.Many were like oh I didn’t want kids so I had an abortion.I wanted a better career so I had an abortion now I can take care of the kids I do have.I didn’t want kids so I had an abortion now 3 years later I’m happily married with kids.

    • Nikia D-Shiznit

      So, many of these women were just like you, you just think your reasoning is better, and you try to rationalize it by saying that you were pursuing a career, so therefore, your abortion was more legit than theirs. They just didn’t want a baby because they wanted ______(fill in the blank). See? So, really, you are disgusted with yourself. You had reckless sex, or the BC failed (which is the reason many of the women have them), and terminated the pregnancy to pursue your own self interests. People get upset at women seemingly acting in a manner that would indicate that they are happy about their pregnancies. We can agree that that may be off-putting, but so what? What are these women doing wrong other than responding to their abortion in a way that makes you uncomfortable?

      • Mrs.J

        Maybe I’m misunderstanding you but I’ve never had an abortion in my lifetime.I was just repeating the reason s why these women stated they had abortions which most seem to just be from being careless.In this day and age of 1,000 birth control methods there’s no reason for women to have to get an abortion because they didn’t want kids.If you don’t want kids use birth control then if you get pregnant while on birth control then that’s a different story.I know women who’ve had abortions and I don’t judge them but then again none of them were on the Internet making it seem like having an abortion was no big deal.

        • hollyw

          “In this day and age of 1,000 birth control methods there’s no reason for women to have to get an abortion because they didn’t want kids.”

          That is not the reality of birth control in the United States.

          • Mrs.J

            I just know there are many forms of birth control available in the United States.I was exaggerated but in America I’d you don’t want to get pregnant you have many options.

            • hollyw

              Andv what I’m telling you is that, literally, you are wrong.

              Many women do not have “many options”, and the ones that do have limited ones that greatly increase the chances of unwanted pregnancies.

              • Mrs.J

                In America there is birth control that is available to everyone unless you don’t believe in birth control.In other countries I know the story is different.

                • hollyw

                  Yes, “in America” there is birth control; congratulations on having the extremely generalized facts. Also a fact, however, is ACCESS. So, for instance, it doesn’t matter if there’s birth control in, say, Kentucky, if you’re in podunk Mississippi where they’ve diminished all but one clinic that’s 100mi away from where you live and you have no car. Just say poor people shouldn’t have s3x and die out and call it a day.

                  • Mrs.J

                    Oh yea that’s true.I forgot about rural areas with no public transportation and people with no cars.Condoms are cheap and using them are better than using no form of birth control at all.

                    • hollyw

                      Condoms are cheap; you are right (though, to be fair, if you on welfare…a $5 box for 3 condoms is a lot). However, can you at least consider human error..? Like, the fact that human beings, from the time they are born to the time they die, make mistakes, forget things, or even do things exactly the way it’s intended but they malfunction?

                      This is why it’s important to have more than one option. Here, in NYC, I have condoms, bc pills, AND Plan B (b/c Planned Parenthood literally just started handing out complimentary boxes for every visit yrs ago, I had at least 3 stocked up in my closet, just in case) all at my disposal, and all for free, frm the corner deli, to the Duane Reade one block over. And clinics pass em out for free. But if you live where there’s no deli, and your right-wing town don’t care condoms in the store (yes, this is ridiculously true for many towns)…it’s literally a set-up. Not to mention even if there’s access, it’s plain-and-simple embarrassing. I’ve been in a store where the condoms weren’t even on display, like you had to request them “from the back”.. –___– And shop owners/insurance companies/religious “clinics” make it that way. So the places where they can get these things make you jump thru hoops, or walk thru lines of screaming protesters, to get a friggin pill??

                      It might not be acceptable to you, but many people, esp. young women 18-21, would rather just “wing it”; hence, a bunch of girls/unwanted kids on welfare. I’m sorry, but I worry much more about the hundreds of kids born into the system, or into poverty, then the abortion(s) that prevented that, b/c it they could actually afford the abortion, they’re in a MUCH better financial place. End rant lol smh.

                    • Mrs.J

                      Wing it-That does happen but some people make that a way of life.People on welfare usually get food stamps so there’s no reason why they can’t buy condoms at least.If a person is too embarrassed to buy condoms then they shouldn’t be having sect at all.There’s no excuse to use abortion as a form of birth control, only someone mentally unstable would agree with that.

                    • hollyw

                      *shrug* you know what, one woman’s “traumatic experience” is another’s “medical procedure”, and that is what I’ve come to accept in advocating for women’s rights. I’ve also learned to separate my own values (i.e. my “should”s) from someone else’s right, and I think the point with women’s rights, and even this campaign, is that, even if you deem it to be for the most petty of reasons, being pro-choice doesn’t mean being pro-abortion, just pro-human rights. And yeah, that’s for even the most irresponsible, poor, uneducated, laziest of us. So, that’s fine you feel that way.

  • Andre Spivey

    If you don’t want children stop having sex without protection…I am pro-choice, but then reading these disturbed me..these tweets are from apparently irresponsible ppl..if u know u are not ready to have a baby, use protection?

    • _a_

      ikr.& the ones talking about how they have had multiple sound crazy

    • Mrs.J

      I know only one had a medical reason and the others just seemed like they didn’t know what condoms or a birth control pill is.These stories are pathetic.

    • Hokiegirl87

      I agree. Abortion is not an “out.” Yes, it is a choice and it is a woman’s right to have a choice, but it should be a LAST choice, not your “OUT” when you do not plan appropriately, or plan at all. Legalized abortions should not be an excuse to be irresponsible.

    • Chey

      Yet…you’re still pro-murder. I’m curious as to why reading these disturbed you so much when these are the reasons the majority of abortions occur in the first place.

      • Andre Spivey

        I wasn’t aware that these are the majority of reasons…I believe it should be a choice in the case of health and rape…I don’t profess to have medical records belonging to all of the women, so I don’t know what all the reasons or the majority of reasons are. I’m saying the some of these reasons in this story were not good enough reasons…..and they seemed very proud…which I also found odd…

        • Chey

          It is odd. But why wouldn’t they feel proud when there are thousands of people (including the government) who tell them what they’re doing is ok? Hey, it’s their body, their choice to make, right? Kudos to them for making the best choice for them, right?

          • Isis

            Maybe because reproductive health is up to the woman.

            • Chey

              Jokes. Abortion isn’t healthcare, it’s murder.

              • Isis

                Murder by what law? please explain? so an aborted fetus is comparable to killing a living child? lol! ha ha ha ha ha ha! ok. You can’t talk to someone who lacks reason.

                • DarkBrown

                  Both the fetus and the child are alive. Doesn’t the fetus have the potential to become a baby/child? If someone is alive and you kill them isn’t that murder? How is that not comparable? Your last sentence may apply to you…

                  • Nikia D-Shiznit

                    Murder has a specific definition, and it applies to something outside of someone else’s body, living as an independent being. A fetus is not considered a “person” but it is a human. It is inside of a host, so the host has precedence because it is their body. Plain and simple. RvW was based on a fetus not being g considered a “person” and privacy. There is a point where a fetus can live outside of the womb on its own, and that’s why there is a cutoff for when an abortion can occur, unless it has a fetal abnormality that will kill it and/or the host. There ya go. Killing a baby or toddler is murder. They are considered to be a “person.” That’s why there is a push for Personhood legislation. Calling a fetus a person would mean that women cannot abort them.

                    • DarkBrown

                      The fact that the fetus is human should be enough to show its life has value. It may not be living as an independent being but its still living.

                    • Kim

                      And yet if I kill a pregnant lady I’ll be charged with a double murder. …

                    • Nikia D-Shiznit

                      Depends

                    • hollyw

                      Wtf please learn the law, and if you do, do us all a favor and stop trying to skew it.

                      You know d@mn well that this ALL depends on the gestational period, and if it’s far enough along to be considered murder for a perpetrator, then an abortion is also not even legally possible. Thanks.

                    • Chey

                      Yup!

                    • Isis

                      EXACTLY!

                    • DarkBrown

                      BTW parasite also has a specific definition. It is an organism that lives on or in an organism of a different species, so that doesn’t classify an unborn child. But by your definition it is since its living off the mother, “the host.” But then really is there such a big difference after birth? We still require food, safety, and shelter from our parents. By aborting the fetus, you’ve deprived it of life or killed it. Since murder or murderer doesn’t fit, how about killer. Is that better?

                    • Gary Pitman

                      YOU KNOW YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY CORRECT! VERY GOOD

                    • Nikia D-Shiznit

                      Technically, by definition, a fetus can be considered a parasite

                  • Isis

                    You answered your own question? the potential! does not mean that it is. Please aim your focus on the children that are here suffering on this earth. Place your humanitarianism and religious beliefs on children who need homes, food, and shelter. This is a stupid cause that yields no results.

                    • DarkBrown

                      True the potential does not mean it is but allowed to continue development the fetus will inevitably become a “person.” Still don’t negate the fact it is indeed a human. There is enough food on earth for everyone to eat many times over, have shelter, etc. The greed of man just prevents such. Its a shame to justify another human’s right to live based on someone else’s selfishness.

                    • Isis

                      So because there is enough food that is not being properly disturbed we need to focus on fetuses that have the potential for human life. I’m sorry, I cant agree with that. I need to focus my energy and voice on the “future” and the children that will not only help mold this country, but the world. Not a fetus that’s about to get murdered or sucked out.Selfishness is acting blind towards others suffering and worrying about the “what if”. I’m sorry, we will have agree to disagree.

                    • DarkBrown

                      No, the focus should be on all lives. Why be selective? You’re saying the fetus doesn’t count. And according to you its selfish to be blind to one’s suffering but its OK if you kill them. Smh. Agree to disagree

                    • Isis

                      So now everybody matters. Good for you. Good day.

                  • Chey

                    Pretty much. Thank you!

                • Chey

                  “You can’t talk to someone who lacks reason.” Ya don’t say!! I’m aware of that every time a person calls him/herself “pro-choice”.

                  • Isis

                    I’m actually not prochoice, I’m “mind my business”. something you may need to learn. LOL!

                    • Chey

                      Hahahaha!! You know what, minding your business would’ve included not sharing your opinion on this forum. But you did, didntcha?? Yep! So looks like we’re both Nosey Nancy’s!

        • Isis

          Great response!

  • Napunzel

    Ugh..is this necessary?

    • Chey

      No. Some people just love to show the world how evil and sick they are when given the opportunity. Especially on social media, where they can garner plenty of “support” from thousands of other sick people.

      • hollyw

        Like you, now lol..?

        • Chey

          Lol, sure holly. If not wanting women to kill their children means I’m evil and sick, I’ll gladly be that!

          • hollyw

            As much as women who have abortions are.

            • Chey

              Whatever you say, holly.