Marriage Romance: How To Keep Things Spicy With A House Full Of Kids

September 9, 2015  |  

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Sometimes making time for each other is the hardest thing to do in a relationship when you have kids. It’s easy to let kids, chores, errands, work and everything else under the sun come before a partner. A healthy and successful relationship is the root of a happy family life. When those roots are suffering, the whole family suffers. Here are some simple ways to keep the marriage romance in your relationship.

Don’t forget to kiss
Don’t underestimate the small gestures of affection like a kiss when they get home from work or before bed. Kissing is one of the most intimate parts of a healthy sex life and marriage and sometimes it gets overlooked because there are too many other things to do.

Date night after the kids bedtime
If you don’t have a babysitter, don’t let that get in the way of date night. Cook a romantic dinner at least once a month for each other and a have a Friday night party.

Sexting
Send your hubby sexy text messages about things you want to do in the bedroom or keep it simple with a, “Hey, sexy.” If you are comfortable enough then you could also send a sexy selfie pic along with the messages. The bottom line is, people want to feel needed and sexy in relationships and a sexy text from you could be just what’s needed to spice things up a little.

Compliment each other more
Tell your partner that they look nice before they go to work. Regardless of what they’ve achieved in their career or even if they are out of work, if you know that they are trying their hardest, let them know you are proud of them.

Commit to sexual intimacy
Sex is necessary for a healthy marriage because it’s a physical expression of emotional love and can help keep you connected. So make sure you are not treating it like a chore because your partner will be able to tell. Have your kids go with their grandparents for the weekend, buy new lingerie, candles and set the mood. And don’t forget to express your private desires as a couple. It’s so important to talk about your needs and fantasies.

Do nostalgic things
Obviously, your job as parents becomes the single most important thing to do and that’s natural and good, but you have to work hard to maintain your connection. Try and remember some of the things you did or places you went when you first started dating and do some of those things again. Or try things you have never done before, like dressing up to take a salsa class together, going zip lining, go-karting or roller skating.

Read erotic books
This may not be for every couple, but reading erotic books together can set the mood. You can actually start your own couples erotic book club where you decide to each read a chapter and then talk about it or text each other about your favorite parts.

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