So many times my mom has been my news aggregate. Most of the time the stories center around parenting, being that she’s a mother and all. She was the first to tell me about the “white” baby born to Nigerian parents, the botox girl and now this.
Yesterday she sent me a text message asking if I’d heard about the parents who are allowing their children to have sex in their home. These parents came and spoke on Good Morning America, telling the nation that they’re cool with their kids screwing under their roof.
When I first heard about this I thought about the mother in the teen classic “Mean Girls”. You know the type of parents who are on the “I’m the cool mom” tip. But the parents who appeared on GMA, didn’t say the need to be cool in their children’s eyes was at the heart of their decision.
One mother, Patty Skudlarek, who has an 18 year old son, prefers her son have sex at home because it’s safer and cleaner.
“”I’d rather he … do it here than somewhere else,” “With the kids having sex at home, it’s a safer environment, because, you know, it’s clean … and usually the place they keep the condoms are in their bedroom…So then they’re close by. And it’s just … an environment they’re familiar with, as opposed to a motel, a car or a park, or wherever they’re doing it, these days.”
Another mother, Chloe Foreht, allowed her daughter’s boyfriend to sleep over about once a week.
I’m not a parent, so I can’t condemn these people, but I am judging them, right about now.
I understand parents wanting their children to be safe, but at what point does a teenager’s/young adult’s sexuality become their own, something they can associate outside the walls of the home they share with you ?
Are you encouraging and creating an opportunity your child might not be mentally or emotionally ready to handle?
It’s definitely questionable.
But I can see why acknowledging your child’s sexuality instead of ignoring it or pretending it doesn’t exist might be a more beneficial strategy in the long run. This is why I can’t quite call it. It depends on the child and I don’t have one… so it’s up in the air.
But one of the teenagers GMA interviewed also brought up a good point. She said this permission may put a child who doesn’t want to have sex in a tricky situation.
Grace McVey, 17, added. “Like, how do you say no? Like, a lot of times if they’re saying, ‘Let’s do it. Let’s do it.’ Like, ‘It’s time,’ whatever you blame it on your parents. You’re like, ‘No, I can’t. My parents would kill me.’ But if that whole thing is gone, like, what do you say?”
So ladies and gentlemen of Madame Noire, the parents and the childless, what do you say to this one? Would you allow your child to have sex in your home? Why or why not?