75% of Women Wouldn’t Marry an Unemployed Man

June 21st, 2011 - By Veronica Wells

According to recent study conducted by YourTango and ForbesWoman 75 percent of women would not marry a man who was unemployed. And 65 percent of these women wouldn’t marry if she was unemployed.

With the unemployment as high as it is (9.1 percent), Andrea Miller, founder and CEO of YourTango says “joblessness is an increasingly pervasive issue— especially from women as they consider the fiscal and emotional stability of their romantic future.”

Meghan Casserly, a reporter from ForbesWoman says “A job can make or break the longevity of a relationship and the results of the survey demonstrate just what an important role careers play in romance.”

Do you believe that?

To read more about what women think about the bridge between career and work head over to YourTango.com.

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  • ROYAL

    what ever happen to true love..money is the issue with everything..

  • ROYAL

    typo(black women)

  • grant chill

    They won't marry them but they damn sure still let them in their bed. What's up with that?

  • BrownFavorite

    PREACH PREACH PREACH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You are one of the few people on here with some sense. These shallow comments on here tell a negative picture of mostly black women I'm assuming as being only there for you when times are good but will either leave or be totally un-supportive during your time of unemployment. Who needs a fake Fair-weather girl friend like that? This is why sooooooooooo many of you ladies will remain single for a long time. My boy's girl left him because he was laid off through no fault of his own for over a year. He eventually got a new job making a bit less money than before, and he is now rocking with his NEW and VERY attractive girlfriend who met him when he was still in the process of looking for work. Recognizing potential is skill that so many of you "ladies" lack which is good for the brothers on the come up. Out of our way please :-)

  • Nasya

    I couldn't agree with this statement even more

    There will be no more taking care of able bodied grown ass men who should be taking care of themselves. If the economy is a factor, then we can talk

  • CutieReppinNY

    Honey, I'm an accountant so miss me with all that. Everything I have I got on my own, no welfare needed. If you're fine with letting some bum dude live off you, go right ahead. However my FATHER raised me to know that the man should be a provider for his family. My father was never without work and my mother worked by choice. She didn't have to pay bills because my father always said it was his responsibility to take care of us and that made him happy. I understand times have changed, but any man just sitting around leeching off a woman is a BUM, plain and simple. Sorry if I want a man with ambition who does more than "bend my back", how ignorant. With the unemployment rate this high I'm sure you'll have no problem finding your unemployed prince charming, what a loser.

  • datroofhoits

    It is interesting to me that the same women who expect a man to be a provider do not hew to any of the other "traditional" stereotypes, as in the wife being obedient, etc. Well, I have been unemployed in my life, and it has been the people who stuck by me in those downtimes that I appreciate. My wife (who's not black) was completely supportive during my most recent bout (well, actually I have two jobs, I just lost one) and paid what I couldn't until I got that second job back.

    Shallow and superficial. If the shoe fits, wear it.

  • Jimmy Swaggered

    Glad I could make you laugh! Sometimes folks get a little stuffy in here and could use a few jokes :-)

  • Jimmy Swaggered

    HAHAHAHAHA!!!!!

    "A bum's dream woman!!" Now that was hilarious.

    ***9% unemployed means 91% of people who want to work have a job***

  • Worldchanger!

    Yup cuz I CAN take care of both of us. Now fresh outta jail, any jail at all that aint from the civil rights movement Hell Naw! But if you falling on hard times, fresh outta college or you can cook, clean, and bend my back. Why not? Most of us as women expect sumover the top bull ish for a man to have and all we need is big butts and smiles. Although I have both, I also hold my own financially, mentally, and physically. So if I meet a man that can stimulate something in me that I need, even though he's jobless, it's not a deal breaker.

    • BrownFavorite

      World Changer – You are a smart woman. Find a man who has good character, a good work ethic, and ambition. Those traits will eventually get him employed and educated somewhere. Most of these women on here talking sheet are not the dime pieces that they think they are nor deserve the man they desire. There are are plenty of good PEOPLE in general who are having a hard time finding work in the economy. Unemployment is 10 in some areas. There are a ton of people with MBA's who are out of work. Are they bums????

      Take me for instance, I consider myself underemployed, but I'm 33 years old, in school to enter into a VERY GOOD career field……. and I'm broke (not 100% but it sure feels like it). Now how many ladies would date me in my current state? Probably not many from reading this post. And that's cool because I wouldn't want to date any of you opportunist anyway. Now when I graduate I'll be making around $80-$100K. I 'll be honest I wouldn't want to date a woman who wasn't down to rock with me during these grind years. It's like a person coming to the table talking about "feed me" after the meal is cooked. Naaaaww, I'd rather the woman who actually helped me peal a few potatoes and cut up the chicken. For richer and for poorer thank you. I love women like you World Changer!. Real Women recognize Real Men. Stay beautiful my dear :-)

  • http://www.facebook.com/lotusengineer Kelley Smith

    It would be very unwise for anyone to think of marriage without a way to support themselves. Would you buy a car? Would you buy a house? NO! That would be stupid.

    A successful marriage requires emotional, mental and financial security on the part of both partners.

    The old saying goes, failure to prepare is failure.

  • Leandra

    I have dated an unemployed guy, infact he was my first boyfriend. He was insecure, ambitionless, jealous and most frightening, he was abusive. I was only 18 when I met him and he was 23. He beat me, told me I was ugly and that the only way I would ever make it through life is through my studies, otherwise there was nothing to love about me.

    I left this man after 4 years of tourment and I vowed from that day on that I would never be with another of his kind again but I did and the same pattern followed. I am not prepared to ever hook up with an unemployed guy and if we are in a relationship, i.e. not married yet and he loses his job and battles to find another one and it affects our relationship then I will leave that relationship but if it happens and I am inside a God annointed marriege I would seek all the help I can find, even if it means he has to downgrade.

    • datroofhoits

      My wife's first husband made six figures. When he died, he left a healthy estate. But he was abusive. (Matter of fact, he was a miserable SOB who drank himself to death and died alone.) Point being, THAT was the reason the relationship failed, not lack of employment.

      By the way, it doesn't matter what you are called, it does matter what you answer to. Believe in yourself, and ugly things said by others will not matter. Believe you are entitled to the best, hold out for it, do not settle. But do not allow yourself to be caught up in the material.

  • Miss_Taken

    I am shocked by two things: 1 that the percentage isn’t higher and 2 how polarized the comment section is.
    I think we should take into account that this study is supposed to be generalized for all women (which is kinda sloppy on their behalf) so, I’m guessing the amount of. AA women that would NOT marry an unemployed man is lower than other groups-i mean really the options are so few that many black women settle, if they ever marry at all.
    Anyway, someone made a great point in distinguishing “unemployed” a temporary problem vs “unemployable” a more permanent problem. Some people really aren’t employable-lack of education, training or maybe even a disability or illness that limits their opportunities. Either way, I may date an educated man on his way into a financially stable profession (like someone fresh out of medical, law or graduate school) but it very irresponsible to get married if a couple is not financially stable. Sorry but loves is not enough-men lie, women lie, numbers don’t and if you think your love and adoration for your partner will put a roof over your head, a floor under your feet, food on the table and your kids through college, then you’re just foolish. Remember that financial problems are the number one precipitant to divorce.

    • http://www.facebook.com/people/Eletha-Owens/100001810584665 Eletha Owens

      Preach on girl!!!!!!!

    • THEWIFE

      tell it girl!!!!!!!

    • Jimmy Swaggered

      HEY!! I said the same thing you said. But I got lots of thumbs down :-(

      GENDER BIAS!!! LOL!!!!!!!!!!!! :-)

    • datroofhoits

      "Sorry but loves is not enough-men lie, women lie, numbers don't and if you think your love and adoration for your partner will put a roof over your head, a floor under your feet, food on the table and your kids through college, then you're just foolish. Remember that financial problems are the number one precipitant to divorce."

      You are trapped in the material. Love makes the material immaterial. Financial problems ARE the number one reason for divorces, but only when money becomes the be-all, end-all. It cracks me up that a people who have not had for so long are SO preoccupied with what they've never had much of, which is money.

      Find true love, someone who will stick with you through the hard times, then you'll know what I am talking about. It's easy to stay with someone through the easy times, COMMITMENT means you are down with them "for better or for worse." And yeah, if you can't keep that vow, don't make it.

  • Virgo74

    Financial stability is important in any relationship.

  • Nki

    I think with this economy and if I was with a man who lost him job and he was still looking for work but was unable to find anything and we were already in plans to wed I would still marry him. I would just wait until we both were financialy stable before we wed. But I still would.

  • just another guy

    What about dating while he is unemployed? I am in college(graduating in less than a year, in a hard but well paid major), no job, live with the parents and I am 21. Should I let it hinder my ability to date? I have been reluctant to date around a lot because it is not something I cant afford to at the moment and girls won't just be okay with not being taking places etc……When I do get a job, my own place I will most likely be playing the field.

  • STARO

    Gotta add: there is dating differential for unemployed women v. and unemployed man. When I was unemployed I dated, but at an advantage because I'm a woman and not expected to contribute financially to the courtship. Brothers don't usually have that advantage.

    • InnocentTruth

      Sike! If you didn't contribute I would leave you in the house. Broke broads get no love.

      • STARO

        Wouldn't be caught with a misognist who spends days and nights trolling sites targeted for black women. Yes, you are quite pathetic. It's sad really . . . off your meds, but still on your computer. Keep pecking away . . . and slowly. Clearly it's all you have – - A somber, but innocent truth.,

    • Lacville-79

      You are absolutely right.

  • SMHBlkman

    @ John – EXACTLY! I had very similar situation happen to me. I just got out of law school and was looking for a job, and she was looking for jobs as well, though she had a BS. She went pretty cold, pretty quickly because of my job situation, but as soon as I got my corporate gig came in she tried to get back in and act like she was all about it. Yeah… too late.

    If we had established something prior to that then it might have gone somewhere, but why would I want someone who only wants to be there when I'm shining?

    • grey eyed girl

      You did the right thing and yes; I am a black woman. You must be able to bask in the sun and weather the storms together.

    • SMHBlkman

      Thanks!

  • homie

    Black women don't really have a selection of men to marry anyway. Personally I would wait till my money was secure before marrying.

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