Randy Ritchwood: Get Focused On Your Future
Mothers, fathers, kids, and everyone else who have dreams on hold….go get them.
Life lesson number 1 – you won’t get the things your heart desires unless you put in the work. In all honesty, after hustling the way that I have been for my family unit, I am always confused by people who aren’t aggressive when it comes to making sure that their family and life goals are in sync. I strongly believe that you should not relax on your dreams until you feel accomplished. Those accomplishments are the ones you have on your vision board.
After you have knocked a goal out of the box – pamper away. When the pampering is done, recharge and get back on your grind. Believe me – and I mean take this from a man who really has been there and done that – your hard work pays off when you get a grasp on your goals. That’s why you really need to sit and think about what you want out of your life. When those things are established, then you have to create a blue print on how to get there.
That’s kind of the overall theme around this post: get focused.
I remember when I was off track; I couldn’t get things done because I was too distracted. I was distracted in relationships; I was distracted with pursuing work that didn’t speak to my vision. I was distracted by odd hustles. I was distracted by the nightlife. Simply, I was all over the place with nothing substantial to show for it. True, I had money in my pocket and access to people and things many only dream about, but at the core I didn’t feel fulfilled.
In order to get out of that box – I had to make really big changes. Uncomfortable changes at that.
Real talk – one day I just had a reality check. If I wanted to live in a place that really felt like home and if I wanted to drive the cars that I desired, or offer my children the things that they needed to have a successful childhood, then I needed to step up on my responsibilities and create a plan of action.
First on the menu – I had to remove myself from relationships that were stagnant. Just know that anyone who can’t bring anything to the table or your hustle will slow you up. As grown folks, have you ever had a spouse or partner that just drained all of your energy? Did you share plans that you wanted to execute but they just couldn’t see it. Did you actually hunt your goals down and show them the results but they were still uncertain if you could pull it off again. Contentment is a crime in book. People like that will keep you miles away from where you need to be. My advice – switch up your environment. Welcome new people into your space who can help you attack your goals. Simply, if you place yourself around people who have high expectations, it’s almost impossible for that not to rub off on you.
Who likes to carry dead weight? How can you see growth if someone is on your back dragging you along?
I’ve come to realize that in life the only way that you can become a success is if you aim at success. Point blank.
Randy ‘Wood’ Ritchwood is an East Orange, New Jersey resident and a divorced father of 4. He is also a serial businessman, restaurant owner, real estate owner, and the former reality star of ‘I Love New York.”Wood’ as he is often addressed, is also the 2005 winner of Oxygen’s show ‘Mr. Romance.’ For more on Mr. Ritchwood, visit him at www.randyritchwood.com