Leave Work At The Office: Work-Life Balance Mistakes Couples Make
“Leave your work at the office.” Easier said than done, right? You’re supposed to mentally leave the place and people and activities you’re surrounded by for eight to 10 hours every day? That’s impossible. However, if you don’t strike up some work-life balance you could lose your relationship and your mind. Here are work-life balance mistakes every couple makes.
Saying yes to every networking opportunity
If you don’t go to every networking drink/dinner/wilderness outing/yacht club opportunity you’re invited to, you feel like you’re “falling behind” your coworkers and competitors. You think you’re the only one who misses any of these events.
Everybody needs balance
Take a look around. The most ambitious and successful people in your office probably have families and relationships that they need to tend to. Even they probably don’t attend every networking event. And they didn’t fall off the face of the planet or end up struggling in their positions.
Failing to take vacations
You figure that you will take a vacation when your finances are more stable, right? You think that you will fall behind professionally if you take a break.
Stability is an illusion
There will always be more work to do. And you will never fully feel financially stable. If you wait until you’re “stable” to take a vacation with your partner, you will be waiting forever. However, taking a vacation with your partner can help the two of you bond, which in turn will make you feel happier and will help you work better when you get back from your trip.
Talking to co-workers about your relationship
It’s easy to let information about your relationship slip to your co-workers. Someone sees you looking down and asks you “Is everything okay?” Suddenly you’re venting to your co-worker about how your partner doesn’t understand you.
That’s a slippery slope
You opened up to your coworker in a rare moment of confusion. But overall, that’s not how you always feel about your partner. However, now your co-worker believes that your relationship is in shambles and continually brings it up. He’ll put it in your head that you have relationship problems.
Taking more money when you don’t need it
If you’re offered a position that pays more money, you think “I have to take it, right? I’d be dumb not to!”
What you need is more time with your partner
If that position would mean longer hours, more stress and more traveling away from your partner, it may not be worth it. If you don’t actually need the money, then you just took on a position that might ruin your relationship just to have a new professional title.
Diving into TV when you get home
You and your partner just want to lay out in front of the TV when you get home. You’ve been talking to people all day and so has he. You’re too tired to talk with one another. So the TV goes on.
That’s not a relationship
Before you know it, all you’ve talked to your partner about is who is buying more toothpaste and whether or not the utility bill was paid. That’s not a relationship—that’s a roommate. If you resist the urge to turn on the TV and just say something to your partner, you could spark up a great conversation and end up forgetting all about the idiot box.
Being too tired to listen to the other person
Your partner comes home, and he’s had a rough day. But you’ve had a rough day too. It feels as though if your partner piles his problems up on top of your own that your head will explode. So you say, “Can we talk about something else? I can’t handle one more issue today.”
You essentially just told your partner that your problems are bigger and more important than his. The issues he has don’t need to be solved and don’t deserve space in your brain. You only have room up there for your issues. But that’s not fair or good for your relationship.
Skipping sex for more sleep
You tell yourself “This is a mature relationship now. We don’t need to have sex all of the time. It’s better for both of us that we get more sleep instead so we’re not cranky with one another tomorrow.”
That logic doesn’t add up
You’ve never heard of a quickie? There are many benefits to having sex. It releases chemicals that will make you feel very close to your partner, and I doubt a good roll in the hay will leave you cranky. You might as well give up a few extra minutes of sleep and just have fun with your man.
Forgetting that the relationship is the point
Something bad happened at work. You’re so upset. You’re angry at a co-worker. You’re stressed out. You just can’t turn this night around. You had a bad day at work, so you’ve decided it’s going to be a bad day for everyone else around you as well.
Let your partner fix that
News flash: the only reason you work so hard is so that you can secure a good life for yourself, one in which you have a healthy and happy relationship. So work isn’t perfect. You still have a job. And better yet, you still have your loving partner at home. If you two can still laugh and cuddle and have sex at the end of the day, you’re still winning. Don’t ever forget that.