(Bankrate) — The wedding invitation: treat or trap? In an era of belt-tightening and beefed-up emergency funds, it can be a financial quandary. Between the engagement party and the big day, the multitude of gifts required for multiple showers, bachelor and bachelorette parties, and — of course — the big event itself, can leave a wedding guest flat broke. ”This obviously can add up very quickly,” says Amy Eisinger, associate editor for WeddingChannel.com. “It is an expensive honor to be a wedding guest.” So what’s a budget-minded attendee to do? Here are eight wedding gift secrets to help you find your way without losing your mind or your wallet to wedding fever.