Mannies In The House: Would You Hire A Male Nanny?
The other day, I was watching a Hallmark movie about an undercover cop who took on a nanny position to investigate a string of robberies in a suburban neighborhood. It immediately made me think about an episode of the television show “Let’s Stay Together” where characters Jamal and Tasha Woodson hired a “manny” (a male nanny) to take care of their twin toddlers. In both instances, I’m thinking, “Who the hell would hire a man as their nanny?”
I may sound biased, but hear me out.
In today’s day and age, it seems as though you can’t turn on the TV or skim through your favorite news-related blog without hearing a story about how a woman’s boyfriend raped or beat her child to death while on babysitting duties. And it’s a well-known fact that most sexual predators/offenders tend to be adult males. So again, I say, Who the hell would hire a man to tend to their babies? Now maybe I’m being a little extreme, but a lot of times, you can’t even trust your own uncles, brothers, male cousins (and in some cases, your own father) to keep your kids without getting touchy- feely. So why would anyone delegate a strange man with a task as delicate as caring for their child(ren)?
This is not to say that all men are hyper-sexualized or sick pedophiles waiting to get their hands on innocent babies, nor am I implying that there aren’t mentally disturbed women out there who won’t touch a kid in an inappropriate manner (and we definitely know that a lot of female sitters have been jailed for child abuse), but with the stats and constant news stories regarding male predators, should you really take that risk? Is it even a male’s place to take on such a role as a child caretaker? Because besides the threat of sexual abuse, gender differences and the innate qualities that women possess tend to make us more suitable for the nanny position than our male counterparts.
As women, we are natural-born nurtures. We have a certain God-given gentleness and sensitivity that men just don’t own. That’s why, traditionally speaking, the role of a nanny has always been appointed to females (particularly older mother-like figures.) There are exceptions, of course, and I’m sure there are some men who are really good at taking care of children and pose no threat to their well-being. But I can’t help but think it’s a bit strange that a man would want to sit around playing princess and changing dirty diapers all day. Maybe I’m a little too hung up on gender roles when it comes to this topic, but I just don’t think “mannies” are appropriate.
Would you hire a manny to take care of your kids? Or do you agree that this role should be given strictly to qualified female sitters?