Dating Diary Of A Single Mom: Part 1
Welcome to Dating Diary of A Single Mom
Dating can be gruesome and grueling as a 20-something woman in today’s world. All your life you dream of what your final relationship will be like. You fantasize about the days leading up to your wedding, all the planning, what your dress will look like, and every detail in between. As women we even envision what our engagement will be like. We dream of the perfect proposal, how long we’ll date before being engaged, and how long we’ll be engaged until the wedding. I know I have.
But what happens when life catapults a slightly different sequence of events your way? How does the love story play out when you find yourself a 20-something single mother? After two years of singlehood and celibacy, I find myself relinquishing my heart to the hopeless romantic within. Curious about the fate of my love life, with much apprehension I have recently begun venturing back out into the world of dating.
Dating as a single parent goes far beyond, finding time and a babysitter. While those are very crucial aspects of dating as a single parent, there are several other variables that play a role in one’s decision to date or not. As a first time mom with a rambunctious one year old, every so often I find myself searching for an escape. Desperate for just an hour of “me” time free from small hands all over me, and missing the silence in the retreat of my own thoughts. Yet even as I think of these golden moments of bliss, guilt creeps over and taps me on the shoulder. Despite my need to rejuvenate, I can’t help but feel selfish for wanting to get away. Then there are moments when I’m covered in slobber, and other liquids I can’t identify, and I realize it’s been days since I’ve worn make up. It’s moments like these I want to get dressed and go out. These are the moments I want to remember what it feels like to be sexy again.
Between work, my child, and daily happenings of life, how does one find space for sexy? When do I reveal I have a child? When is the right time to introduce a new man into a child’s life? Is a blended family something I really want? As these questions circle through my thoughts more often, I find myself more willing to venture into the sea of dating. In Dating Diary of A Single Mom, Journey with me as navigate the unruly waters of the dating pool, and paddle past my fears, and learn to balance in the waves of life while answering these and many other questions of single parent dating.