It’s been almost a year since Tina Campbell of gospel group Mary Mary revealed that she and her husband Teddy were going through serious marital problems after his affair.
As the story is just now unraveling on their WE tv reality show, “Mary Mary,” now in it’s third season, viewers are getting a real inside look at how the couple is dealing with the situation. To say it’s been rough, would be an understatement.
Now, Tina and her sister Erica, recently sat down with CNikky.com and Tina is owning the fact that she played a part in her husband straying and seeking affection outside of their marriage. While she says she gives him “190% percent responsibility for breaking the vow of marriage, she also says, “He could have chosen not to do that.” She says Teddy also knows he contributed to a lack of intimacy to the marriage.
Here’s what Tina says about taking “responsiblity” for her husband’s cheating:
I, Tina, assume full responsibility for the issues that I contributed to the relationship. I was controlling, talked too much. And you can never be heard over me because when I wanna talk I got the floor and ain’t nobody gonna get it from me until I give it up. Real talk. That was the way it was and now I have to work on myself. You know what I mean? I was selfish. When we started having children it’s almost like, I forget that I have a responsibility as a wife. And I’m questioning you like, ‘Really, what you want me to do? I got a baby!’
On making her man feel “small”:
Even though that’s sometimes what you’re faced with, that ain’t the right spirit to do it in. And what happens is, you’re going on and you’re busy and you’ve got children and you’ve got work. And what happens is your husband is last and you don’t realize that he’s last. And if he has a problem with being last you’re like,’Well, what am I supposed to do? You know that I’ve got a career? You know that I’ve got these babies, you’re the one that got me pregnant!’ You want your husband to be the man and to take his place, but because we say, ‘I’m a strong woman, I’m a this woman and I’m a that woman’ we busy stepping on our man. Making him feel small. And you know what? I did that. And I take responsibility for that.
That’s a lot to digest, but do you think both partners always play some role when someone cheats?