Woody Allen, R. Kelly…Are They Around Your Child In Real Life?

February 7, 2014  |  

I don’t hate R. Kelly and I barely know Woody Allen, but in some ways I am overjoyed they exist. Both men and others like them have a legacy of allegations surrounding their inappropriate behavior around minors; specifically underage girls. Both of these men have created a national conversation, where some have justified public support for them. Fact is, many parents would like to believe sexual predators are some sort of extraterrestrial. But, they are in your midst.

For a moment…just imagine if R. Kelly, or even the more concealed Woody Allen, were teachers in your local public school.

Think on that for a moment.

If Woody Allen–the mega star movie maker–was just an affable yet regular teacher that kids gravitated to, he’d likely be ostracized into the mountains of some obscure town for the things he’s been accused of. Remember, Woody, unlike R. Kelly, has been exposed and accused directly by those that he’s accused of molesting. Kells has been more diligent in covering up and hiding his sexual allegations and, if not for a reporter and a video tape, he’d likely be an urban legend to this day.

As a father myself, both men are filed away in a special category I call: “my worst nightmare.” I have a reoccurring waking nightmare that a grown man like R. Kelly decides to seek out my young daughter before she’s ready for what he’s looking to get. In the dream, she comes to me crying, telling me of some vague sexual impropriety imposed on her. And then, in a stoic manner, go to my walk-in closet, push a button and enter to into the other hidden walk-in closet which contains an arsenal that could raze a mid-sized town.

Violent fantasies aside, I think that more people need to get upset about Woody’s and Kelly’s and their alleged penchant for preying underage girls. Mind you, neither has ever been persecuted for anything of the sort. Yet they stand accused repeatedly. In fact, renewed backlash from Woody stems from the fact that his adoptive daughter Dylan Farrow, 28, claims he sexually molested her when she was a small child. “It took all of my strength and all of my emotional fortitude to do what I did this week in the hope that it would put the truth out there,” Farrow told People magazine. “I don’t have money or publicists or limos or fancy apartments in Manhattan. All I have is the truth and that is all I put out there.” Both Allen and Kelly have vehemently denied they have been sexual with underage girls.

At the end of the day, this is not about R. Kelly or Woody Allen, but they represent a microcosm of a far overarching issue. In my opinion, its a rather classic “abuse of power” case that we see in schools, churches and in politics.  They are just constant, glaring reminders that society values celebrity over girls. The facts about sexual abuse, particularly for African Americans, are even more disturbing:

According to The National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey (2010):

Fact: Over 22 million women in the United States have been raped in their lifetime.

Fact: 18.3% of women in the United States have survived a completed or attempted rape.

Fact: Of the 18.3% of women who have survived rape or attempted rape, 12.3% were younger than age 12 when they were first raped, and 29.9% were between the ages of 11 and 17.

Fact: One out of every five American women has been the victim of an attempted or completed rape in their lifetime.

While some of these numbers are in dispute, you get a snap shot of what’s going on.

Another study suggests that the numbers for African Americans were equally staggering, according to Black Women’s Blueprint.  They state that 60% of Black girls have been victim of sexual abuse from Black men before reaching the age of 18.

This is not to demonize anybody.

I’m not sure I believe him, but Kelly chronicled that he was sexually molested as a young boy in his memoir “Soula Coaster: The Diary of Me.” He says that in 1975, at the age of eight, he was hosted as well. Without naming names, he alleges that a woman had him take pictures of her sexual exploits. In another ongoing instance, he charges that another woman 10 years his senior started to sexually abuse him for many years. He says he never told a soul.

If what he says is true, it proves further that “hurt people” hurt people and that its definitely more expansive than a Chi Town over-sexed crooner or a nerdy, creepy film maker.
This is about protecting kids and identifying perps before they strike. I personally know several women (and a guy) that have been sexually abused as kids. And guess what? Their closest family members completely opted to stay cloaked in denial rather than stare at these ugly truths lurking in our midst.

So, while a lot of people are listening to R’s latest release “Black Panties” or watching Woody’s new flick, “Magic in the Moonlight,” I’m more keen on looking for the molesters in real life. You know, the ones without the breadth of accusations and nemeses.  Some can sing his songs and watch his movies…but I can’t.

Its just the father in me.

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  • RavenLatinaParent

    i will never b a fan of R.Kelly
    1 song only premise on he has ron isley on the track and i lov it.
    keep on the down low and video i can watch few parts of it,with
    the Tall beautiful Garcelle B.(who play in jaimie foxx hit show!)
    Beside that i have no use for him,and i m not a fan of his music since i learn
    about dating teens,etc. underage, rape etc. alleged things. i m a good parent
    and woody too.If he did this,only he know…Kids will lie for the”other parent”sadly
    i hope in Woody Allen case this is not the truth,but he say it is,not sure what is going
    on there.Mia Farrow.(always love her name)and i like her,but just goin to say i hope
    it is not true…

  • NegRican24

    Well R. Kelly shares custody of his daughters and Woody Allen has other young children with his new wife so to answer the headline I read- yes they are around their children.The difference between the two is PROBABLY (because I don’t know either of them personally) that R prefers “jailbait” ( for lack of a better phrase) and that he wouldn’t/doesn’t touch his own biological and related children. Either way I view and would treat ANYONE who rapes/molests children with equal disdain/disgust.

  • Bee Champagne

    It’s sickening the way ppl get away with things just because of who they are! I was raped repeatedly starting at the age of 11 by a cousin. I told my Mom and she said I was lying and that if it did happen it must of been because of me. I guess the apple doesn’t fall far from da tree cause 15 years later my niece confides in me that my sister’s boyfriend has been fondling her, her younger sister and my younger sister ( all under the age of 15) but my sister didn’t believe them. She threatened her youngest daughter to change her story! Now it’s all water under the bridge, which is sad!!!! I have 3 daughters and I wish a mo-fo wld touch them!!!!

  • Mocha

    True…or the really sick parents blame the child.

  • EJ

    that pic of woody allen and that girl is all types of creepy

  • jennellabella2

    I hope your doing well in life; )

  • jennellabella2

    I agree! But then you have some parents that thinks the kids are making up stories.

  • mind_sayer

    I wish people would start telling sooner when sh.t like this happen to them. When is a discussion like this appropriate? I have three daughters all under the age of 10 (my oldest is 9) and I’m afraid that I’ll be so angry (just thinking about it) when we do have the discussion my emotions will get the best of me. I want them to know that its ok to tell me as soon as (IF) anything like this to happen to them that its ok to come to me and let me know. I don’t want to find out 20 yrs later and honestly sometimes now I get mad at the victims for waiting so late to tell. I swear I would be UNDER the pen if any of them EVER told me some bullsh.t like this. its fawked up and scary especially as a young father. This is crazy. R. Kelly’s as should’ve BEEN in jail. All that dam evidence out there and the ninja still showing the world how pervert he is. I’m all down for a good s 3 x me song but this weak as bish dude talk about s 3 x so much like a teenager who never had any I can’t even listen to him anymore. He make my head and stomach hurt. Ninja damn near 50 an still talking about s 3 x like he’s just now finding out what it is. I want to kill that fool though..real talk (take it how you want)! I smh at the desperate blind women who still bob their head to his tracks and acknowledge anything he do. Only album I had of his was 12 Play; that sh t quickly got burned once everything was brought to the light. Fawk that bish as dude! Woody too (‘fawk you going to marry your adopted daughter? What kina sh t is that?)

  • mind_sayer

    I really think and believe he forced Aaliyah to marry him. Aaliyah was a little on the “scared side” so I’m pretty sure she knew it was wrong and most likely 9 times out of 10 she did NOT want to do that but because of her age and R Kelly’s status at the time I’m pretty sure she felt forced. I also blame Diane and Michael (RIP) somewhat for the whole marriage thing between their daughter and R Kelly happening in the FIRST PLACE. I don’t blame Aaliyah one bit but I do wish she would’ve revealed a little more to that marriage. She didn’t stop talking to the man once it was all said and done with for nothing. She never uttered his name again really. I do wonder sometimes had she made it in life would she ever perform ANY of her songs from her AANBAN album…guess we’ll never know but what I do know is had Aaliyah not died she was summoned to testify against R Kelly; which was set two weeks after but because of her death she didn’t get to (the media didn’t reveal that for some reason).

  • guest

    Parents need to educate their Kids completely on this matter. Anybody can be pedophiles now a day’s. Sometimes children molest children. Take it from a woman who was molested by her 14 yr old brother.

  • Breezy

    I’m surprised R.Kelly can still make a living selling records and performing at concerts he may have been acquitted of the crime but there’s doubt in my this dude has a thing for young girls the evidence stretches back to the early 90’s when he married Aaliyah at the age of 14 and wrote and produced her first album does “age ain’t nothing but a number and throwing down ain’t nothing but a thing” ring a bell he and that other pervert Woody Allen don’t need to be around anyone’s kids.

  • God is My Mojo

    Child molesters are everywhere. They are exploitive and they prey upon the weak, vulnerable and unprotected. And yes; molesters can be women. The problem is that they aren’t detected with the naked eye and they come from every walk of life, career path and even your church. The best thing a parent can do is love & LISTEN to her child. Put trust first. And do not put a man/or woman before them. Many women struggle with self-esteem and worth issues and out of desperation allow creeps to come into their lives and wreck havoc. Child touchers are sick, sick, sick human beings. Many of them do not believe that what they are doing is wrong and many of them cannot help their diseased minds.

  • Pam

    So true male or female

  • Lucky7design

    Great article….parents need to be aware who their children are around and also who they socialize with. It could be your daughter’s bffs dad, it could be the basketball coach. I dont care how creative intelligent the individual, you have a sick mind to prey on a underage child.