No More Kid Selfies: How All Those Photos Make Our Kids Brats
Your little one is precious and adorable and you want everyone to know. That’s all fine and good, but experts say taking too many photos of your children can actually make them think everything’s about them.
Judith Myers-Walls tells TODAY, “We need to keep track of what values we are communicating by taking the picture and posting and distributing the picture.” She says parents should think about who’s in it. “Are you taking a picture of the child and not as a family as a whole? They might think they are the center of the universe.”
So how do you make sure your kids aren’t too self-centered? Give them the camera so they can snap what they think is important. But, of course, too much of that isn’t good either:
While focusing the camera on the children too frequently might make them feel overly important, Alain Morin, an associate psychology professor at Mount Royal University in Calgary, Alberta, says research finds that taking too many photos creates another problem.
“The use of self-focusing stimuli, a mirror, a picture, a camera … anything that induces awareness for others [makes] you start thinking about who you are. And, you think about your shortcomings,” he says.
With children instantly able to see their photos on cameras and then on social media, they experience two viewing events, meaning there are more opportunities to criticize themselves, he notes.
“When people are exceedingly self-focused, they self-critique a lot and feel bad a lot,” Morin says.
The best thing, it seems, is to just keep kids (and yourself) off Instagram and in the moment.
‘Fess up. How many pictures do you take of your kid a week?