Dad Shames His Daughter Into Putting on Real Pants By Wearing Booty Shorts in Public
This man in Utah proved there’s nothing a dad won’t do for his daughter, including embarrassing the mess out of her. The story (and photo) of Utah dad Scott Mackintosh wearing teeny tiny cutoff shorts to show his teenage daughter how much he disapproved has gone viral.
Scott took to his wife Becky’s blog to set the story straight about those shorts, starting with the values he and his wife hold in their house:
I know the world has varying degrees of what is modest and what is not when it comes to clothing. In our family we have pretty definite modesty guidelines; No mid-drift or low-cut shirts, no short-shorts, short skirts and we even go as far as saying no sleeveless shirts unless playing sports or on the beach. Having raised four daughters and three sons, I’m a bit protective. Some may call me old fashion, but I call it “A Dad who loves his daughters” (and sons too) I know some of you may be rolling your eyes and that’s okay, my daughter does it all the time.
One night, as the family got ready for their weekly quality time outing, Mackintosh’s daughter Myley came down dressed in the short-shorts dad can’t stand. He asked her to change but she refused. Mackintosh got fed up and cut up his own jeans to mimic her clothes. The kids were so busy with their phones they didn’t notice their father’s shorts until they arrived to a restaurant, where most people didn’t bat an eyelash. They then enjoyed a round of mini golf. Myley pretended not to care but when the Mackintoshes got to their local ice cream shop, she begged her dad to use the drive-thru window. When he insisted on going inside, she refused to get out of the car.
Mackintosh wrote, “There was no ‘Dad, I get it’ or ‘Dad you’re the best; thanks for that awesome lesson’” but in an interview a Utah news station, Mackintosh does say his daughter’s shorts aren’t quite as small these days.
Myley’s shorts and any other “crazy” clothes she might want to put on is classic teenage rebellion. Every generation has its clothing styles that are meant to shock dear old mom and dad. It’s interesting to note that Myley’s in college, meaning she’s at a time when she should be making a lot more of her own decisions, but so long as she lives under her parents’ roof (which it seems she does), she has to respect their rules. The Mackintoshes are Mormon, meaning modest dress is especially important to them, so their concern makes sense.
Still, most parents don’t go to these extremes, and the comments on Becky’s blog thank Scott over and over again for taking a stand. Sometimes, embarrassing a kid is the only thing that works. But on the other hand, if you don’t want your child to do something, you should just tell them. And then show you mean business by making sure they don’t do it again and offer very clear consequences. It’s sweet that Myley “will always know that her dad loves her and cares about her enough to make a fool out of himself”, but it shouldn’t be necessary. Who’s buying the clothes? If you really don’t want your daughter to be seen in those clothes, why not just remove the clothes or leave her at home for not following your rules?
This isn’t the first time a parent’s use of shame to teach a kid has gone viral. Is this ever the best way? How do you handle battles with your teens over clothes you think are inappropriate?