Getting a Minivan: Will My Swag Be Gone Forever?

August 13, 2013  |  

I’m a simple girl. My first car was a Honda Civic coupe. After it was totaled in a bad storm by a falling tree, I stayed without a car for a while, until I eventually bought – you guessed it – another Civic. Today, I drive a Toyota Highlander; nothing fancy, but I like it.

Recently, though, my husband has been bugging me about getting a minivan. I refuse. We only have two kids. I just don’t see why a family of four needs a minivan. Do you? We all fit in the Highlander comfortably and so does our stuff; it’s a pretty spacious SUV. I feel like owning a minivan will somehow result in a third child (even if that’s not part of the plan).

I have to admit, however, that there actually is one problem with our current cars – no one else can fit in those cars with us. That means if we want to take a family trip to the zoo, and bring grandma along, grandma is out of luck. Sure, our current car has a third row, but once you pull that out the trunk disappears. There goes my stroller and grocery space. Now I am left with this incredibly tough decision; get a minivan so we can travel in comfort, no matter who comes with, or be as selfish as I possibly can be and keep driving my current car. I know this sounds pretty superficial, but can I still maintain my swag if I drive a minivan?

I know, I know – swag should not be a major consideration for a mom. But, you see, it is a consideration because once you become a mom, maintaining a sense of who you were before your kids is hard. Sometimes I feel like a minivan just screams “Yep, I’m a sweatpants-wearing soccer mom – even when I am meeting my homegirls for drinks well after the kids are in bed.” I just can’t deal with that. The Brooklyn girl in me needs a little swag.

I don’t want all my minivan-having moms to get mad at me, because I am not hating. If you push a minivan, and you do it with style, do your thing (and email me a few tips while you’re at it). My sister-in-law has a minivan, and I can’t front – it’s pretty cool on the inside and it’s super spacious. Another positive attribute is how fuel efficient these cars are compared to other spacious vehicles. Now that I think about it, aside from the swag factor, there really isn’t a compelling reason to not get one.

I haven’t made a decision yet, but the pressure to get this minivan is looming over my head like the baby weight I need to lose. The more I think about it, the more I realize that anyone with real swag can pull this minivan thing off, for sure. Right? All I need is a cute outfit, some sexy lip gloss, and the confidence to look at folks like, “yea, I drive a minivan, and I’m still fly.” Sounds like the kiddies and I will be in a swagger wagon pretty soon…maybe.

Born and raised in Brooklyn, New York, Martine Foreman is the editor and co-founder of JustDiva, a lifestyle email publication for today’s modern black woman. To follow her funny and candid take on balancing life as a wife, mom and entrepreneur, you can also check out her personal blog, CandidBelle. Martine resides in Maryland with her husband, son, daughter and crazy cat, Pepper.

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