Dear Very Smart Brotha,
I am a 22-year-old female that recently graduated college, and I dream of settling down with my 23-year-old boyfriend. We’ve been together for three years and I am truly happy with this man. We live together and I do things that most wives do such as cooking, cleaning, etc. My close friends and family tell me that I need to stop shacking up because it will not lead to marriage. I understand what they’re saying, but I feel like if I move out it would be a step backwards in our relationship. Moving out after living together for so long is similar to breaking up. We’ve talked about marriage before and he said he plans on in it within the next couple of years. It is hard to tell if he means it or if he’s just saying that so I wouldn’t move out. My first question is would you guys eventually marry a girl you’ve been living with for so long? and my second question is should I move out and move on or stay for a couple more years to see where things go? I know we’re both still young so I’m not asking him to marry me now. I would just like to be engaged so I know that the relationship is headed towards commitment in the future.
Sincerely,
Waiting & Wondering
