Oh No My Child Didn’t…
As a parent, you know your child. It may take three attempts and some bass in your voice to get your kid to behave (and let’s not forget the hushed murmurs and rolled eyes). So if we are aware of our children’s propensity to not listen and behave in a certain manner, why is it so hard to accept this realization when it comes from an outside party?
Hearing something negative about our children from someone other than ourselves is a very large and hard pill to swallow. One that seems to point the finger at us for poor parenting or one that we feel forces us to choose between our child and another adult.
We have heard stories of teachers getting the business for simply bringing to a parent’s attention an undesirable action that their child may have exhibited in the classroom. Personally I have witnessed accounts where the child was not even asked if they participated in a said activity before the parent was on fire and ready to tell the teacher a thing or two.
As mothers, it is natural to want to jump on your child’s side so they know that you support them, but there comes a time when we can’t let our loyalty lie on the parent-child relationship. There is an extremely thin line between letting our children know that we stand behind them, and letting them get away with murder.
Children are very resourceful, and if they know we will always take their side the ramifications could be long term and detrimental to their growth as a person. We surely don’t want to groom them into that person that never takes accountability for their actions. The reality is – mama won’t always be there to pick up the pieces. We must start teaching our children valuable lessons early on in life.
When it comes to accepting criticisms regarding your (children), how do you handle the situation?