That’s the Stuff I Don’t Like! 4 Steps to Reforming a Disrespectful Child

October 4, 2012  |  

A cursing, disrespectful, disobedient, entitled, violent child is what I don’t like at all. Everyday the news is turned on we hear of cases of teens (and pre-teens) who are committing both small and large crimes across the nation. These stories leave the masses thinking, “What went wrong?” While all cases are different, one of the earliest indicators of if a child goes to the wrong side is their behavior in school and at home.

According to the Chicago Reporter, since 2008, more than 530 youth have been killed in Chicago with nearly 80 percent of the homicides occurring in 22 African-American or Latino community areas on the city’s south, southwest and west sides. As a teacher, each year I see children change from obedient kids to children willing to commit a crime to get what they want.

Houston, we have a problem. With the jails and cemeteries becoming filled with our children and our family units crumbling at the seams there has to be a better way to deal with our children. But what do you do if your child is already on the edge of being a convict? Do you give up and leave them to the “streets” or do you take a stand? I say take a stand by using these steps to help support these children so that they don’t end up in prisons, jails or buried.

Set limitations. All children crave discipline but the problem comes when no one at home holds them accountable for breaking rules. If your child brings home a bad grade, set an appropriate consequence for that action.

Get them involved in something positive (sports, job, school). Kids like to be rewarded for doing something good. If your child has a behavior problem get them involved in sports, a job or academic clubs. This will allow for them to put their energy into something other than getting into trouble. It’s amazing how joining something can make kids feel like they are worthy of love.

Create a village around the child. Every child needs a village and kids who get into trouble usually need a whole town around them. Go to your pastor, uncles, teachers and community leaders to elicit help for your child.

Remove your child. Many kids are products of their environments whether good or bad. One effective strategy to help kids who are “on the edge” is to send them to a totally different environment like out of state or across town to an aunt or uncle. All of this can help change the scenery which can ultimately give them a better perspective on life.

Helping kids who are on the edge is hard, but if we do it right then we can help save kids lives. Now my MommyNoire family, what do you do with a disrespectful child?

Words By: Franchesca Lane-Warren
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