Dark Girls: A Documentary

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May 27, 2011 ‐ By

As much as we love being black, we can’t pretend that we’re a people without flaws. One of the deepest, nastiest burdens we carry is our attitude about skin color. The dismissal or downright distaste for darker skin tones is an attitude that’s been a part of our culture since the days of slavery, if not before. While this belief is certainly not representative of all black people, there are still several women and men with darker skin tones who have felt and experienced pain because of these sentiments.

Actor and director Bill Duke, decided to tackle this issue, as it relates specifically to black women. He interviews several dark skinned women, both in and outside of the African American culture, who describe their painful memories and detail their hurtful experiences. Hopefully his work will provoke discussion, change mindsets and lead toward the healing we so desperately need.

You can watch a clip of the documentary, which will be released during the Fall/Winter of this year, below.

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  • John

    I love dark skinned women. I’d pick them any day. However, it doesn’t matter because God made females to be an image that represent beauty, no matter the race. Man are the ones that convinced us of what’s beautiful and what’s not. That is one the problems with relationships now, letting man make us too judgemental. We all should seek the opposite gender of how close they are to God and how close the can bring us to God vs what our culture and society says we should look for. I’d love to have a wife that looks like that girl at top ;-).

  • Valerie

    I recently had a friend over for drinks and she actually came out of her mouth and said that I was "Red" as a lighter skinned black person is called in the south and particularly Florida. I was shocked and a little angry that someone I considered a friend could say this to me when clearly we were both the same color brown and beautiful. No, she said you are not the same color as me you just been out in the sun. I could not believe the ignorance and I really did not know what to say after she kept affirming her point saying I did not know what I was talking about or that I just could not see that I was really a light skinned black or "Red". One thing that my mother taught me is that ignorance comes in all shapes and sizes and colors. We as African American people have to stop denigrating each other period. But especially when it comes to skin color.

    I was in So Africa a few years ago and as soon as I got off the plane I felt that I was finally in a place where I belong. There is every color of black person there and it was beautiful to see the black black skin of my brothers and sisters who had been so oppressed for so many years finally free and being accepted for who they were and their talents recognized.

  • Bianca

    I think this is very interesting. My sister has dark skin and I am light skinned according to the definition but we didn't ever realize it or care.We grew up in a white community and no one ever made these light skin dark skin distinctions. But more importantly our parents never made a distinction. We are sisters, no matter what our skin color. It wasn't until my sister was about 19 years old that someone said something about her being dark skinned. The sad thing is it was another black person. Sadly ignorance and self hate still run rampant in our culture. Time for a change.

  • silky shine

    I think all our woman of color are beautiful and it is ashame that from young they are learning that dark is bad, we have such a long way to go still.

  • Nikki

    It starts with you. You have to love yourself and stop looking for acceptance from other people. It's unfornate, but I think the reality is we will NEVER come together and rise as a people. We separate ourselves. This I will never come to understand. I embrace my skintone and love it. If you are talking about someone skin tone its because you don't love yourself and you have issues within yourself. We are a society who likes to make others feel bad to take away our pain. SELF WORTH LADIES. To all the mothers out there raising your daughters with this foolishness, you need to check yourself, and accept and love who you are.

  • Cynthia

    Did anyone see the child that repeatedly pointed to the darkskinned girl when ever the instuctor asked about who was SMART PRETTY she pointed to the white picture) then when asked who was DUMB And UGLY )she pointed to the darkskinned pic). THIS IS THE SAME EXPERIMENT THAT WAS PERFORMED IN THE 60's THAT LEAD TO INTERGRATIN OF SCHOOLS BROWN VS WADE. We neen to wake up because this has and continues to effect our kids decades later. I am brownskinned and was called darkskinned by my friends in middleschool. As i grew older men have told me that they love my complexion prob because I'm in the middle no guilt no shame. I know that i have to love myself and not allow the people around me to define me. However we must begin to teach our kids before another decade goes by with them thinking that being a woman or man of darkskin is a curse.

  • Diane

    omg I need to see the rest of this!

  • Simone

    This brought me to tears. I just don't and never have gotten the skin color crap within our community. The media has done such a number on us to embellish this. And the irony is people from other countries and white Americans love dark skinned women and men. As a 49 yr old woman, I feel for the younger generation trying to memick their white peers.

  • EATHBEAUTY

    I AM SO AMAZED BY THE RAINBOW OF COLOR WE SHARE,…JUST LIKE THE EARTH YOU AND I STAND UPON,…DIG DEEP INTO ITS RICHNESS. YOU WILL FIND LAYERS OF BLACK, BROWNS,. TAN AND MAYBE WHITE MINERALS. THE DARKER THE RICHER AS IN ANY FRUIT OR VEGETABLE WE EAT. THE RAINBOW HOW BEAUTIFUL WE ARE

  • Twoifbytea

    You know it is funny that you would say that. I watched a documentary the other day about how Africans feel towards African-Americans and it was amazing at how they feel we are so lost as a people. About 10 Africans were asked how do they feel about how we behave towards each other in this country and our family relationships. Many of them said that they find how we interact with each other very disturbing. They don't see evidence of where we embrace each other at all. Some said we need to come back home to discover who we are so that we can stop behaving and treating each other the way that we do. I have several friends from Ghanna and I can tell you they are a dark people but the most beautiful people I have ever seen. The men adore the women in all of their darkness, so much so I began to wish I was as dark skinned vs. caramel complexion…lol!. I only wish we(African-Americans) could achieve such a level of love an adoration for our dark sistas.

  • des

    I don’t want to see that. At what point in life does self esteem and self love take place dark or light. Get over it. This shyt sounds so Willie Lynch.

  • dreamer40

    The older sister with the short white hair looked FIERCE!!! Work it!!!

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Sheree-Logan/25309530 Sheree Logan

    Just when I thought black hate would only come from other races, but then I see our people hating each other. Light vs. Dark? Really?! We are the only species that makes these types of comparisons-fat vs. skinny, light vs. dark, tall vs. dark, dumb vs. stupid, poor vs. rich…it goes on and on. I don't see dogs, cats, birds, or anything else doing this, but we are supposed to be the most intelligent? Right…

  • Jharony

    This is a must see, one day, I would love every dark girl to love who they are and how God made us. This is us, lets not just accept it like if its something bad but be happy that we are different and gorgeous. Very powerful clip cant wait for the whole thing.

  • LL Morgan

    I miss being in Africa as well But I think that it should be duly noted that many Africans (and not only west Africans) hold the belief that it is better to be light skinned. It's not only an African American issue. In fact it's a common issue for most people of the diaspora.

  • http://sisterescape.blogspot.com Le Chele

    This is my take on being a pretty, dark skinned girl:
    http://sisterescape.blogspot.com/2011/05/diary-of

  • http://twitter.com/meahtweh @meahtweh

    This documentary is going to be epic. I hope it debut's at theatre's in every urban area. Black people need to get it together, realizing that we have been conditioned to think that ones skin color defines them. The plan was to divide and conquer, and it was accomplished. Break the cycle and stand as a united front. "Color Me Beautiful". Holler @meahtweh

  • Bri

    This documentary is soo deep and I appreciate it very much. I wonder if there will be black men on here expressing their feelings about racism also. I hear a lot of women say they don't want dark-skinned me because they don't want their babies to be dark. It's sad. And when you confront her about it, she would act like there is something wrong with you! Ignorance is not bliss!

  • wise one

    word of advice, if you don't acknowledge someone else's pain, they cannot do so for you.

    with that i say GROW UP!! i see short guys in relationships all the time, i see short guys married with kids ALL THE TIME!

    now, how did that feel?

  • spokenfree

    Although I can appreciate awareness being brought to this topic. I wonder when there will be a documentary of us WINNING!!! When will our successes, our beauty our culture be truly, truly celebrated? No culture is without faults or flaws or what have you. The difference is, the black community is constantly focusing on all things negative within. Like individual energy, you get back what you put out. Where's the much needed positivity?
    http://www.spokenfree.us

  • i <3 Red Bones

    lol @ these dark butts wallowing in their darkness

    double entendre, don't even ask me how!

  • guest

    when the young lady said we need to stop separating ourselves as a people "im haitain im not black" i had to disagree with that statement it didnt even make sense…if imhaitian and im dark skinned and the same color as an african american woma how can i say im not black?…i dont think west indian ppl separate themselves from black americans for any other reason then class…theres a way island ppl carry themselves that might be different from an afro american…i dont care who gets mad at my statement but that my view…

  • a black man

    I agree with you. Not every dark skin person has self hatred for their skin tone. Personally, I find all various skins tones beautiful but dark skin I find extremely beautiful (like the woman in the intro photo- wow!!!). Just a word of advice for our women that suffering from low self esteem because of their skin tone- there is nothing more attractive than a woman that believes she is attractive. I don't mean in an arrogant way but just someone that is confident in herself, loves herself, and believes she is beautiful (because all of God's creation is beautiful).

  • Reina

    The thing with the babies and waiting or watching for what color they'll be-like dark or light, is sad. I watched my cousin have her son by a guy with hazel eyes and basically pray that her son would, too. She seemed truly disappointed when he didn't at birth and claimed that she'd wait a year to see if they'd change. She thought that in a year they'd be their "true" color. Six years later the boy has brown eyes. We sit and we wait for our kids color to change and their hair grade to come in, and we check their ears and stuff. It's really crazy. We do too much extra instead of just truly enjoying their beauty and we pass those habits on

    • guest

      why not pray for him to grow up and become a doctor or stay out of trouble…no of course not theres more important issues like if his eyes and skin tone is light…black ppl have issues so sad…

  • Janae

    It's interesting to me how it's just a tad bit easier to have the stigma of being a dark skinned guy versus a dark skinned woman. The men aren't judged so harshly by others or amongst themselves. Everybody talks about brown sugar or chocolate drop and stuff like that. But black men, black women, and everybody else are able to weigh in on the subject of the black woman's beauty. For the younger generations defining beauty begins at home and kids have to realize that just like you are beautiful, so is somebody around every other corner, what else makes you unique and wonderful? It doesn't take much of anything to be classified as pretty or beautiful these day. You can see that in some of these magazines. Hell, you can buy pretty at the plastic surgeon's office if you wanted to. They should be encouraged to get together with all these other beautiful people, be told to act beautiful, and do beautiful things. This is just one area in our race where the father or male role is crucial for young girls and females in general. If girls knew or believed they were pretty from the beginning, they wouldn't need or look for a guy to justify it later in life.

  • teya

    Alot of high profile men date dark skinned black women, for example Meagan Good or Kelly Rowland who is constanly praised for their looks. We as black people need to accept each other, nobody is light or dark on purpose we are all different for a reason.

  • AM

    Very interesting and this why African people need to educate themselves and their children about their history we are constantly bombarded with images of western society’s perception of beauty and we must continue to challenge it NOT accept it!

  • http://twitter.com/MIZZSUCKAFREE @MIZZSUCKAFREE

    I AM SO GLAD SOMEONE HAD MADE A DOCUMENTARY ABOUT THIS ISSUE. I AM NOT SURPRISED MR DUKES IS APART OF THIS PROJECT.IT SEEMS WE STILL HAVE A LONG WAY TO GO WITH THIS ISSUE..BUT I CAN DEFINITELY SAY MY BLACK IS BEAUTIFUL!

  • Chris Carlucci

    Wow. I can't express how that clip made me feel. The comments from those women were disturbing, but the segment with the little girl pointing at the lighter and darker drawings brought tears to my eyes. I've admired intelligent women of every race and skin color; I've been attracted to (or not attracted to) women of every race and skin color. What is considered beautiful or attractive is subjective to individuals and societal groups – so that may take time to change. But intelligence – that does not have, nor has it ever had, anything to do with skin color. All of us need to make a point of recognizing to our friends and family (and thus to our children who listen to us) that if someone isn't smart it isn't because of their skin color or their race. And while we are at it, we can work on saying that no skin color, eye color, hair color, is more beautiful than another – they are just different.

  • Dark Caramel

    That's deep. I tried to tan deeply last year. It didn't last and I got a sun burn.

  • sunraze

    Its amazing though,… that after all that has been said and done, "God" choose me and you to be conceited and born from the womb of a beautiful women AND the back bone of a strong man. What if God seperate us during judgement day by the color of our skin and the texture of our hair and the structure of our body types and the thoughts that lingers in the back of our minds, …hummm, just a thought….I thank God that he is a "JUST AS I AM" God and that what matters most of all to me.

  • Rakel

    I can’t wait to see this. I’m dark skin I have a younger sister who is caramel and a baby sister who is my complexion. We saw this trailer on another site, we thought ur was sad. Bur we also wondered if we were conceited. Because of my parents and our community who taught us all that all black is beautiful, the three of us have never felt anything besides beautiful. Never wanted to be lighter or hated our complexions. Of course I’ve heard the ignorant comments “you’re pretty for a dark skin girl.” And as many times as I’ve been passed up for my lighter friends my friends have been passed up for me and my other dark skin friends. I hope that the documentary highlights sisters proud of their dark skin as well and not just the ones who felt terrible all their lives. Not everybody has complexion issues. Yes the media and we ourselves need to stop with all the color bias, but a child who has parents that continually shower them w/ affection and praise and let them know they’re beautiful no matter the complexion will deal w/ life much better than children who don’t receive the same thing. I’ve seen the affects of both.

    • MST

      You are blessed to have wonderful parents and a supportive community.

  • Yvonne

    This is a very powerful clip! As a dark Jamaican woman, I have heard most all of the insults. That hurt as a child but turn out to be expressed in anger as an adult. And that young man that spoke about how he didn't like dark women, I feel sad for him and the young lady that had a problem with us wearing our hair natural. I love my natural hair, it's silver gray and beautiful. I can remember being told on a job, if I wanted to be accepted and liked, in the community. I would have to wear my hair straight. While all the white women went and got curly perms. Go figure. We haven't come very far with equality and acceptance as human beings.

  • Jay

    Michelle Obama is a great example of the dark skin beautiful woman. I am so happy that Barack married and loves himself a dark skinned sista.

  • Kitty

    As black women we come in all shapes and sizes.. From Alek Wek to Beyonce… we are versatile. I want to see the day when we are all shining together at once. We are the rainbow people. We have to embrace each one of our hues. As a dark skin woman I do feel a little strain when I see that white men are stepping to me more then black men. The Caliber of white men that I date are not the same as the black men. It is starting to disturb me a bit that I could possibly be more valued by non black men. I am still confident that I will one day find what I desire the most (blk man), I have a lot of healing to do and I need to be more open to healing with black men. I just dont want to end up old, unmarried with no children because I am passing up relationships with non black men to wait to meet a suitable brother. I think the media has a hold on our psyche. We have to rise up and free ourselves. Our men are being brainwashed into looking at skin color instead of features and more importantly the heart… We are brainwashed into wearing blonde lace fronts etc.. I pray we get it together before we become extinct.

    • peaches

      Kitty, why are you waiting for a black man when there are men from other races who are obviously attracted to you? It's like you're asking for permission to date out.

      You may be a 'black man only' kinda gal, but your 'kitty' is drying up quickly. If you wanna wait on a black man, that's fine, but it's foolish to think that black men hold that high of a regard for you like you do for them.

      • Janae

        Sounds like she dates men from other races but she prefers black guys. She's just beginning to realize that that black guy might not be preferring her in the way that she wants, so why should she be stuck on this preferring thing? She's just ready to say I prefer a guy who loves me, etc., so that she can be happy in the end. She realizes she could possibly be waiting forever if she's only partially open minded to the idea of being outside of her race. Seems like she's cool with dating ouside of her race, but now she's realizing that she might be marrying outside of her race, too.

        • peaches

          No disrespect, but if that's how she feels, then she should keep it real and stick with her preference. Dating someone outside her preference is honestly not fair to the guys who show a genuine interest in her. It also makes it seem like she uses non-black men as a 'fallback' and that is indeed insulting.

      • peaches

        Speaking from a Buddhist perspective, I'm in the belief that what you put out there is what you get back. And waiting for someone without being proactive yourself is not the answer for black women in this day and age. Not to be disrespectful, but it's counterproductive to tell someone to wait for some divine intervention to happen.

        When I said that her Kitty is drying up, I wasn't speaking of her private parts. I should have been more clear.

  • http://www.facebook.com/whattodo30 Michelle Denise Hopkins

    This is very much prevalent in the deep south. I am a caramel complexion and I remember when I used to hang out with these biracial girls and I wanted to have their complexion and hair. I had long hair and a not so dark complexion, but the fact that they were lighter and a had a softer grade of hair, I wanted that. The best thing to do is, date people who like you for you, also dont hang with people who dont like you for you.

  • Sassy N Classy

    Oh wow, that "you stayed in the oven too long" comment was so disturbing. Sometimes I wonder how and why humans cannot get over skin color. I don't think we as humans will ever get over it, however, because even those who think they don't have a problem with it will say something in their lives that will contradict that. I'm proud to be black but people do not consider me black because I'm light skinned. That hurts. Sometimes I even wish I was darker because I want so bad to prove them wrong and prove that black is indeed beautiful. Countless times do I hear at school black girls saying " I have Indian in me" or even worse "I'm lighter than you are!". Until we as black women stop relaxing our hair, putting on weaves, putting in colored contacts and trying to make our skin lighter these stereotypes will NEVER go away. By doing these things, we are acknowledging that something is wrong with us. There isn't. We need to accept our natural beauty. Besides, when we do those things people look at us like "oh, she is trying to change herself". When we don't, " oh, she is dark and ugly". Black women, let us stand up for ourselves and for change.

    • Fab

      I agree with most of what you said and it is really sad that as a Black community we continue to destroy and degrade ourselves with these false archaic concepts but regarding the weaves, contacts, relaxer etc I completely disagree. I don't have or wear either but I believe that those things are a style choice most of the time these days, some people genuinely believe they look better with straighter hair or longer hair not because its what white people have but because they think they look better or more attractive with it. Its the same way white people also make their hair dead straight, put in extensions and weaves and even go so far as to inject crap in their lips to get thicker lips and even paint their skin to make it appear darker- they don't do it because they want to look mixed race or black but because they think they look better with it.

  • anna

    This state of mind of the illusion that we are different from one another starts from young We* have to be Aware of how we raise our sons and daughters because i remember being teased by my siblings for being lighter and so i used to sit under the sun light to further brown my skin but for our darker sisters it is much worse living in this society of course I am more accepting but still I am working on completely loving every blessing given to me from our Father GOD i believe it is something we Must strive for that is Self-Love* in order to teach it to our young i genuinely hope that we raise the awareness of our own destruction because only through that realization we will be able to see our true enemy and free ourselves from the hellish ways our people live …REMEMBER this society stole our ancestors and try to keep our True history from us so this society was/is Not built in our favor but in our demise which makes it hellish and hell is not our natural home raise your children wisely

  • brittanii

    I cant wait to see the entire documentary. What makes me sick is that it is our own people being ignorant and bringing our dark skinned sisters down. Dark skin is and always has been beautiful. That ignorant sh*t (at around the 4 min mark) is a prime example of someone who has been brainwashed by our music and our ad campaigns to thinking that the only women worthy to stand by his side are light! I'm am a light skinned woman who has brothers and sisters of every color in the rainbow and I have ALWAYS thought that my darker skinned sisters were the most beautiful things on the earth. This whole light skin vs. dark skin thing makes me sick to my stomach…i hope our people stop this and get it together.

  • homie

    I think the pain goes on both sides, no one can decide their complexion. We as black people have much self hate, what I will never understand is that some black people hate ligh skinned blacks but love white folks.

  • wise one

    i miss being in Africa too!

    • lulu

      what apart of africa yall from cause in Nigeria skin identity war is a very prominent issue

      • wise one

        Southern Africa, skin color isn't even an issue, except with the uneducated (and even those who engage in it are few)…

  • blah

    Its on point, the whole topic is very sensitive. But I wonder when a documentary will discuss the reversal of black discrimination. There are dark skin black people in the community who do not like light skin people. I have experience the discrimination myself, and I still have the scars of memeories that I encountered from dark skin women rolling their eye at me for being light skin black objectifying me, black people asking when I was younger if I was part white.

    The pain is on both sides, skin color issues affect all of us. But I hear stories of what light skin women experience, that would be interesting to hear.

    • Alma

      I agree both light and dark suffer the effects of this redundancy. The luxury you have however is folks telling you that the girls who gave you a hard time were jealous. NO ONE tells a dark girl "oh they just hating on you cuz they're jealous". And yes, some of them ARE jealous, and some hate their own dark skin waay more than they hate your light skin. They know the same people who will fawn over an average light skin women, will treat them with total contempt, as though dark skin is a curse and an obstacle to black evolving into a more non threatening shade of beige.

    • Kitty

      Blah you can do the documentary of how painful it is to grow up in the black community light skin. Right now light skin women are represented more in the media in a positive way then dark skin women. Black young men are being brainwashed to feel that lighter is better then darker. It is not the other way around. All of our hues should be accepted. Beauty is in features and face shape not skin color. Dark skin women are being pushed out of the spotlight and dark little girls are being taught to hate themselves. The darker skin issue is of course more pressing for more people on a global scale.

    • peaches

      WTH are you fussing about? People ALWAYS have something to say about light skinned women and it's more positive than their darker counterparts! Pray tell, when do black folks never STOP talking about light skinned chicks to really get to the heart of the matter as to why dark skinned girls are so unwanted and demeaned by their own people?

      It's idiots like you that always wanna talk about the "poor little light skinned/mixed girl" who can't find her place in the black community, when in actuality, they are the most talked about! GTFOHWTBS!

      Go make a doc and talk about it instead of complaining about why all of a sudden the spotlight is not on light skinned chicks.

      • peaches

        Ashley, you can take my statement any way you like. All I'm saying is as soon as dark-skinned women voices her concern regarding her skin tone, then here come the patronizing comments and those who wish to sweep that under the rug to concentrate on 'poor little light skin girl in the black community.' or 'more important issues at hand.'

        Light skin girls get validation for their issues, but dark skin girls get the 'there are more important things to worry about in the community' . Light skin skin girls get validated with the 'she jealous cuz you light' speech, while the dark skin girl gets the side-eye and told to get over it 'cuz we all in this together.'

        No we are not. And please don't act like this isn't the case because it clearly is. Why else is there a documentary out about dark skin girls and why they are treated like crap by their own people?

        Why are we so quick to diminish the voice of the dark skin girl? Yes, I am aware that light skin girls have their issues, but their blues are not like mine. I identify as the dark skin girl and my voice is always being shut down because it's not that important. I'm sick of it, so take it how you like.

        • Ashley

          "I am aware that light skin girls have their issues, but their blues are not like mine."

          I understand what you're saying exactly and I'm happy that this documentary is in existence. The start of change has to be acknowledging the very root of the issue, the thing that some consider to be "boogeymen" or "skeletons" in our cultural closet. There will be a time and place to acknowledge light skin but now is not it, not yet.

          Cuz really, that's what it boils down to: being afraid/ashamed of the dark (complexions). As soon as we can acknowledge that major part of the culture, hopefully everything else falls into place for being discussed and (hopefully) resolved. But thanks for writing in response. It's been way overdue for this kind of discussion. Hopefully, we can use this docu to resolve it. ;-)

          • peaches

            Ashley, you can take my statement any way you like. All I'm saying is as soon as dark-skinned women voices her concern regarding her skin tone, then here come the patronizing comments and those who wish to sweep that under the rug to concentrate on 'poor little light skin girl in the black community.' or 'more important issues at hand.'

            Thank you for your input as well, Ashley. And you are right that this conversation is long overdue. I hope that it will continue. Much is at stake if we choose to turn a blind eye to this.

          • peaches

            Sorry, but that first paragraph should not have been there. Please disregard.

            The last three sentences is my reply to you.

        • Alyss

          I'm sorry that you've had to deal with hateful comments and ignorance laid at your door step because you're "dark skinned". However, as someone who is considered "light skinned" by some although personally I never thought about it until I was denied admittance to the sorority of my choice because as it was later explained to me I was too pale to qualify even if my personality was a better fit for that one than the other "black sorority" ; I don't understand how you can suggest I've been validated for my issues.

          Don't lump us all in the same crab barrel just because we are lighter than the paper bag and therefore you think we must have it easier. I happen to have a younger sister who has much darker skin than mine and I have always envied how amazingly smooth and blemish free her skin was. Maybe it makes me a freak but forever I've wished I had that skin instead the easily sun burnt skin that needs concealer to hide blemishes and will inevitably wrinkle more as I age than those lucky enough to have more melanin. I've also been jealous of her ability not to have to prove she's black enough or quantify how black versus some other ethnicity she is. And then there's the fact that being lighter I'm assumed to think highly of myself and thus am often perceived as uppity.

          There's no it's easier for one side of the bag than it is for the other. We're all damaged by several hundreds of years of stupidity based on skin color. For me this documentary is not just for "Dark girls" but for all us black women who have to deal with the crap we have to deal with simply because of the tone of our skin. So please don't be so quick to dismiss a "lighter skinned girl" because she comments that she too has faced discrimination. No it may not be the same words used but it all comes from the same ideology that black is not beautiful/intelligent/etc. And why take her statement as diminishing your voice when she may just be trying to show solidarity/empathy with you.

      • http://twitter.com/WomanofProverbs @WomanofProverbs

        People can think what they want but you don't have to own it…..I know there is a lot of pain associated with this issue and it's not just a matter of "getting over it," but when you learn that God loves you the way he made you no matter what, you learn to love yourself. This is not religion but a way of life. Your gifts, creativity, love for yourself and humanity, your kindness, all the qualities that make a great human being no matter what the color skin, hair texture of face. We should not let bitterness win…….I realize it's strong…but just because something appears strong doesn't make it true……U are beautiful and act like the God that's in you. Those men that don't think the women that are similar color to them to be beautiful are not important…..there is someone, somewhere who does. Be beautiful, be u, be unique and be the person u are meant to be…..love will come and flood open the gates. No, I don't have a special love in my life, but I no doubt know I will when the time is right. Keep believing God. Satan is powerful but not greater than the God in you.

    • guest

      i remember being called yellow girl too or bleach….

      • shelly

        i remember as a young child being called Light, bright damn near white

    • Caydence James

      @blah – Whoa, I seriously didn't even know that light skinned black folks went through anything like that….the rolling of the eyes, yes because most darker skinned girls got skipped over for light skinned girls (even when the light chick wasn't pretty) but somehow I didn't think you all cared because of the benefits you seemed to get on light skin alone. But to be asked if you're half white when you're not? Dayum!

  • ItsJust4Decoration

    "they look funny beside me…" well yea anyone would until he get a haircut and a swift line up o__O And he used "they" with a taste of disdain as if dark complected women aren't his people. it is really a sad shame. I hope one day we do better, but it is so deeply engrained I don't know how we can.

    • geemoenettie

      For REAL!

    • http://www.facebook.com/amira.matthews Amira Matthews

      I was ready smack that fool upside the head. I hope I Never hear such foolishness come out of my lil brother's Mouth.
      he's six. I would be so ashamed. All the women in the video are beautiful. To me it doesn't matter What Your skin color is its the way you treat others and carry yourself. The darker skin tone is just a beautiful as a lighter one. So that guy that made that Comment has lost any appeal he might have had once he opened his mouth. Its sad that this is even an issue in the black community. This type of thinking, that lighter is better, ( bull if u ask me ) should have been left back in the days of slavery. At the very least the civil rights movement. To all the women in that video Don't listen to the fools out there You are perfect the way you are. If the black community around u cant see it let others of a different one do it in their place. Love to you all :)

  • http://missymadame.wordpress.com Miss A

    That's cools that the documentary also discusses the issues of natural hair within the black community – how lighter women, who sometimes have an easier time embracing their hair if it has looser curls – might go natural easier…Curly Nikki, etc. Whereas darker women, who may have tighter curls might have more issue embracing their hair.

    • Checking In

      Do you know where the rest of the documentary can be found?

    • hey

      Curly Nikki is not light skin.

  • http://www.aol.com Kara

    Take time to be respectful and complimentary to other black people you see.We do not hear it enough that we are beautiful but Black is Beautiful in all its forms.

  • Mynda

    So powerful… I usually have a lot to say, but I think that's it for me today. Just… so powerful.

  • Chumba

    whoo…chick in the pic is black as hell..:P..just kidding black is beautiful.
    …Best Buy went Bankrupt so they working with Apple to give away these $1,000 giftcards for ANYTHING Apple at their store!! I use 2 emails & got 2..lol http://goo.gl/CPe0B

    • Pearl

      what does BestBuy have to do with your opinion of the topic at hand?

    • Alma

      I get the feeling the point was lost here smh