Subtle Signs Of An Unhappy Couple
If you have a friend who doesn’t share much personal information, it could be hard to figure out whether or not she is in a relationship that is making her miserable. But your friend may silently be begging for you to help her out! Here are 15 subtle signs of an unhappy couple.
Lots of apologizing…for each other
One person is always apologizing for the other’s behavior. They’re apologizing to a server for their partner’s rudeness, or apologizing to a parent for their partner being so abrasive. They’re apologizing for exposing anyone else to the foolishness they have to put up with on a daily basis.
There’s a lot of stuttering going on
If your friend stutters when she speaks to her partner, that’s because she’s afraid. She’s worried if she says the wrong thing a fight (maybe verbal, possibly physical) will result.
Excessive sharing with strangers
Does your friend tell any guy who will listen about personal things happening in her life? When somebody is in a healthy relationship, they don’t feel the need to overshare with strangers—they just confide in their partner.
Always trying to play matchmaker
Playing matchmaker for other people is an easy way for someone to ignore their own relationship, which is bad.
They’re impossible to meet up with
If your friend is in a bad relationship, she may be hard to meet up with. The constant fighting in her relationship either takes up all of her time or leaves her too depressed to come out.
One person in the relationship always comes out solo
A couple can’t be together all of the time, but if your friend’s partner never attends social engagements with her, that can’t be a good relationship. Close partners want to be involved in one another’s lives.
Constant phone checking
People in bad relationships are always worried there is another angry text on their phone, so they check it constantly.
A lack of opinions/preferences
If your friend suddenly “really doesn’t care” where you all decide to eat/go out/hang out, she may be trying to satisfy her difficult partner.
If your friend knows in her heart that her relationship is bad, she’ll feel guilty talking to the opposite sex. She thinks she may accidentally flirt, or her conversation with another man will be perceived as such.
No knowledge of the other’s schedule
It’s a little weird if your friend has no idea whether or not her partner will be available for a dinner some evening in December. She can’t tell you anything about one night out of four weeks worth of them? She and her partner probably don’t hang out or coordinate schedules enough.
Complete knowledge of the other’s schedule
On the flip side, if your friend knows every little detail of her partner’s schedule, someone in this relationship could be a bit demanding. He might insist that they share some Google calendar and never make plans without one another.
Lots of talk about moving away/new adventures
If your friend has been in a long-term relationship and is talking about how nice it would be to move to another country, travel the world or volunteer on another continent alone, it doesn’t exactly sound like she’s thinking of settling down with her partner.
Going home separately
Happy couples go home together at the end of the night at least 90% of the time. Under rare circumstances, one person may need to sleep solo, but happy couples want to be together!
Obsession over detail
Does your friend freak out if a bar doesn’t have the type of beer her partner likes? That may be because her relationship is so miserable it can barely survive one little thing going wrong.
Blaming the other person
Happy couples don’t blame one another for things that go wrong. If your friend goes on and on about how much her partner screwed something up, she can’t love him that much. When you love someone, you see and respect their good intentions.