Questions To Ask Yourself Before You Move In Together
It’s not uncommon these days for couples to want to test the waters before entering a big commitment like marriage. Should this sound like something you’re interested in, please weigh your options before making that leap. Here are some questions to ask yourself before you move in with your love.
Am I comfortable?
Sure, moving in with someone is not the same as a marriage proposal, but it’s a big deal. Make sure you feel okay with the decision and not pressured to do it in order to keep your relationship.
Am I financially stable?
If you’re desperate for a roommate, your boyfriend or girlfriend may not be the ideal choice. Don’t set yourself up to rely on your boo if you’re short on cash. It makes you too dependent on them–which can make it hard to leave.
Are we solid?
You may not want to move in with someone if you can’t stay together for an extended period of time. Why complicate an already complicated situation?
Who am I linking up with?
You may think you know everything there is to know about the person you’re dating, but chances are you probably don’t. Most folks keep their finances a secret, which means you may be in for a rude awakening.
Are we on the same page?
What does living together mean to each of you? When do you see yourself taking the next step? It’s important to get an understanding of each other’s needs so you don’t assume anything.
Have we been together long enough?
While there’s no amount of time together that will guarantee your relationship will work in the long run, don’t rush into moving in together. If you’ve only been each other for a few months, you should keep on dating and stick to separate living quarters.
Where will we live?
Will your new residence be closer to someone’s job or equal distance? Do you like the city or the suburbs? Both of you need to come to a mutual decision.
How are we covering costs?
Do you expect a 50/50 split, or is one of you going to pay more than the other? How do you plan to cover other bills and living-related expenses?
Can I cover things if something unexpected happens?
Heaven forbid something like a job loss happens–or you decide to call it quits. What do you plan to do? Do you make enough to cover things on your own?
Whose name will be on the lease?
This is where things get a little tricky if you two don’t work out. You can decide to put one name on the lease or both. Just make sure you have a written agreement about who has to move out if you should separate.
How will we split our stuff?
Y’all remember that “Martin” episode Martin and Gina finally decided to live together? His apartment was full of boxes and two of the same items. Don’t let this happen to you.
Am I ready for more pet peeves?
Honey, you need to prepare yourself to be annoyed. You’re going to see and experience new habits that will more than likely make you angry.
What happens if I’m not feeling it?
Just because you move in together doesn’t mean you’re going to have a happy ending. Be honest with yourself if you start to notice your relationship is headed south.
Can our relationship survive?
What happens if living together doesn’t work out? Sure, you can leave the home, but should you also leave the relationship? If you can’t live together, is that a sign that it wasn’t meant to be?