“I’m Only Attracted To White Women” And Other Lies Some Black Men Tell Themselves

May 27, 2015  |  

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I’m not a fan of blanketed statements. One size fits all, generalized sayings that people come up with to justify an opinion have a penchant for the absurd. Case in point: I had dinner recently with an old flame who, despite attempting to rekindle our relationship on numerous occasions (that night included), decided to reveal to me that he’s only attracted to white women. Pump the brakes. Do not pass go. Do not collect $200. Cue Childish Gambino singing “hold up.”

This individual and I have a complicated history, mind you, but he wasn’t saying this for shock value or out of spite. All the more reason his statement was equal parts slap in the face and genuine confusion.

I’m all for dating who you want to date, bedding who you want to bed and loving who you want to love. Attraction, after all, is not a simple, formulaic thing. But for him to say that he’s only attracted to white women, despite the fact that he’s happily dated me and other Black women before, is highly suspect. You mean to tell me that out of all the Black women living on this third rock from the sun, he suddenly finds none of them attractive? To me, there’s strategy and thought behind this negation; a flat out decision he made to deny connection to the women that look like him, birthed from a place of pain, frustration, or God knows what else. Sadly, he’s not the first Black man to have uttered such a statement, nor will he be the last. But when did attraction to Black women become so taboo, so off limits for some Black men?

After the shock had settled, I asked him to further elaborate. He couldn’t. Perhaps he knew his conjecture was riddled with flaws and contradiction. And when I asked him about it several days later, he had the nerve to be hurt as if I had said something with equal, lasting weight. He doesn’t owe me a response, and I certainly don’t expect one anytime soon because I know the answer may require some serious digging and sincere reflection. Then again, he doesn’t have to find what he said problematic. If he truly considers himself to be attracted solely to white women just because, then, hey, so be it. But you and I both know that ain’t true. What bothers me most is the underlying insinuation. What his statement suggests is what we’ve all heard at some point or another about Black women being deemed heavy-laden and burdened, angry, and argumentative. Sure, that can describe some of us, in the same way it can describe some white, Latina and Asian women, along with women of other races and ethnicities. Herein lies the problem of generalizing. There’s also this perceived notion that white women, in particular, have an innate lightness of being, a trait that, in the eyes of some Black men, skipped Black women completely.

I find it ironic the fact that he (and other Black men who share his sentiments) succumbed to the labels that have long been placed on Black women. Especially considering the sheer hate, lies, misconceptions and stereotypes that are spread about Black men in this country on a daily basis. Not to mention the fear. How many times has the sheer presence of a Black man spawned some supposed threat, particularly in the eyes of law enforcement? Are some of us feeding into all of this negativity, not taking it upon ourselves to know fact from fiction and not to generalize?

What I know for sure is that there is no science behind what makes two people attracted to one another. Attraction is a multi-layered thing that ebbs and flows over time. But in order to connect with another person, that requires being honest and truthful. My old flame suggesting that we rekindle what once was and in the same breath telling me he’s only attracted to white women? There’s not a lick of sincerity or truth in those words, and I’d have to be out of my mind to go for that.

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  • Praetorian

    Considering that black males make up about 5 percent of the population but the majority of those claiming to be gay, I’m suprised he didn’t say, “Sorry, I’m only attracted to men.”

  • Praetorian

    Considering that black males make up about 5 percent of the population but the majority of those claiming to be gay, I’m suprised he didn’t say, “Sorry, I’m only attracted to men.”

  • Uncle Willie

    Yet ANOTHER bitter angry Black Woman rant about Black Men smh Aren’t yall tired of looking stupid??

  • Benjamin Stephens

    From my personal experiences American Black women are the worst. Not all but most are just fucked up in the head and morally currupt.

  • Lorna Brain

    You Americans are weird, your exceptionalism trapped your flawes even to the point of discussing relationships. Black this, white this Jesus Christ

  • Jessica2248

    (1) I don’t need all black men to praise me, to make me feel worthy…..just the one I am married to; (2) I don’t need to put another woman down, just because a black man is attracted to her (whether he be handsome or “tender eyed”); (3) You have to be happy with your own choices, and not let someone else dictate to you what your choice SHOULD be. (4) I really don’t need or care to hear anyone’s explanation of why they date, marry, or bed whomever they choose. Your business, not mine.

    • Conversationalist

      Well said.

  • Omar Oku

    LOL at the fact that this site deletes my comments. lol LMOA this is crazy. really really madamenoire. we are deleting and editing comments now.

  • Neco84

    If you can’t love one type of woman without dogging another then you’re the one with the problem, not us.

  • Invitado

    White Latinos are only attracted to other white Latinos and would be disowned by their family members if they dated a black Hispanic. That would be considered below them. White means upward mobility.

  • Neco84

    The funniest response to Black men dating White Women came from a White guy I dated. I asked him, Be honest, what do you really think about Black men dating White women?
    He said, “Honestly, what is their to be envious about?? In my opinion, and this is just my opinion, I don’t find those women attractive. If anything I’m like, You can have ’em! And most of the time, as a white guy when we see that. We are thinking, That dude seriously thinks he’s got a winner? Look at her”…..
    Ouch!

    • Herm Cain

      Because blk men sit around giving a f**k what a racist devil thinks grow up blk woman were not fooled your bitter let it go

      • Neco84

        I rarely date black men…. I want my kids to have a father 😉 lol! J/k
        I really don’t care. Date whoever you want. I just think you all dogging Black women is hysterical! Not like you’re dating a dime.

        • Masterpieced

          You are dogging all black men as absentee fathers. That is just as sick.

          • secret87

            Wheres your father?

            • Masterpieced

              Deceased now, but he raised all 4 of us WITH my mother until his death of cancer.

      • secret87

        Your screen name says it all, he cheated on his blk wife with ugly ww.

    • Conversationalist

      So you dated the spokesman for all white men?

      • Neco84

        Not at all! But if you’re dating someone for the pure fact that you THINK their women are more attractive???? God sir…. I think a lot of men of that race beg to differ. If you’re dating because you find a genuine connection. By all means! Who cares what people think about your girl! But if your ONLY means is to show a white man you can get their girls??? You have failed miserably. Love is love… Who care what others think about your girl. But with that being said, know your intentions.

  • Kevin

    Madamenoire I don’t think you know how an OPINION thread works. You post these articles then if someone doesn’t fully agree with you the comment gets removed. GROW UP and stop changing the comments to make it look like everyone agrees. What kind of site is this? Agree or get out? What a joke, that’s why so many black people are close-minded because we don’t have a chance to have real conversations. Just put a sign up on your site that says BLACK WOMEN (mostly over 35) ONLY. You all are a joke. Which is ironic because this article is about the differences between black and white women of course there’s only one side on this thread. I hope enough people read this before you delete comment again.

    • Mr.CommonSense

      Exactly Kevin!! I agree with everything you said…Most ONLY have a one track mind, and buy into and believe everything this silly site feeds them…Some can never accept or hear another persons opinion on ANYTHING, because black women know EVERYTHING RIGHT!?! I swear, sometimes I truly believe black people are, our own worse enemies.

      Also, Its almost like this site wants all black women to all think alike…. which is toxic and not normal because we all come from different backgrounds and walks of life, we all have different experiences and opinions, and some people might not like or agree… but thats the beauty of open discussion… Get over yourselves MN!!

      By the way, MN, you do know about the First Amendment, right??(no pun intended). Maybe you should try allowing people of all races, genders to exercise it here!!

    • Guestest

      To be honest, this site is more so for black women than black men.

      • Kevin

        Haha clearly, I’m just saying even though its for black women you would think they would want to hear what men, especially black men, have to say about topics like this. Our comments were just honest and the site isn’t even allowing black women to see it. I feel like that’s hurting their own audience.

        • Taz

          Ummmm not really. Its geared towards black women…WOMEN. MADAME NOIR. Black women. If anything men need to sit back and learn about what black women really think by viewing this site.

          • Kevin

            So women don’t want to know what men really think and instead would rather make assumptions? Makes sense

            • Taz

              But you have to acknowledge that its not geared towards you so you cant get mad it the site dosent cater to you.

              • Kevin

                Not catering to men and not allowing men to have an opinion are 2 different things

            • secret87

              We know what you think. Rap lyrics, who you drool over,and youtube, who you marry when your rich,ect.

              • Kevin

                Keep generalizing and stay single sistah girl let the church say Amen

                • secret87

                  Im not single :/ and I don’t go to church…but amen..?

        • secret87

          Its called madam noire not mr. Noire. There are sites for blk men who lust and worship white women. Its not here.

          • Kevin

            Wow your man left you for a white woman huh? I’m sorry. Don’t be salty to all black men though. That helps no one

  • ???

    Why are you shouting?

    • Neco84

      Lol!!

  • Faith

    It is amazing to me that these black men don’t have not one problem of dating women of other races who are loud, gold digging, unattractive, don’t have no job, do drugs, drinks like they belong to AA, fight, lie and cheat, call blacks the “n” word (even the black guy they date call them the “n” word), angry and don’t have a problem with it. But when it comes to black women, they don’t want to even be bother. They look the other way. Now if the shoe was on the other foot, a black girl says that she only attracted to and dates white men or men of other races. Don’t tell me that black men would not have not one problem with that. They will be upset. This is a really double standard and black men have a tendancy to talk out of both sides of their neck. Black men don’t have not one ounce of a problem hiring black women, working with black women, supporting black women, but when it comes to dating, they don’t give black women the time of day due to the previous behaviors afored mentioned. I want to personally thank the mainstream media for continuing to work overtime to keep up my black people brainwashed.

    • Uncle Willie

      we dont care about you lmfao you dont see us creating blogs about this type of stuff

  • mmmdot

    Rather than building a nation where their own Black offspring would be safe, these self-hating black “males” are taking the wimpy backdoor out and are deciding to deliberately breed their features out of their lineage. Rather than confronting their oppression at the hands of other men directly, these black “males” avoid that by doggishly lapping up white men’s table scraps and ensuring their future generations ARE those other men. Pathetic, sissified LOSERS. Always looking for an escape.

    They need to stop blaming Black women for that fact that their bitter, insecure behinds crave white acceptance to the point that they feel they have to take on white factory farm looking
    bxtches [typically the ugly fat kind with polyester clip-ins that NO white men want, so they turn to these LOSERS who they use as big black buck sexual fetishes ] to validate themselves as SOME kind of “man.” And it isn’t working anyway – everyone still thinks these black “male” bums who take their inferiority complexes out on WOMEN are nothing but bxtches. Period.

  • Rachel B

    Bottom line. Black men in America will never prosper until they make right with black women. They have disrespected and disregarded who God put on earth to partner with them. You know what’s sad? They have other women thinking they are superior to us. The prototype of Eve in Genesis. I was on Instagram and Savannah James posted this bad picture of her and Lebron the other day and it was reposted by another site. A little girl that said she was Iranian, that looked like a bug, had the nerve to say “Oh I pcitured him with a fly Spanish chick”, like Savannah James is not naturally beautiful and stylish. You know we ripped her but these are the thoughts black men are promoting through hip hop and You Tube. No other race of men does this. I say sistas should continue to be educated, look good, maintain your weight and open up to love with anyone and anywhere. To hell with them. We are socioeconomically doing better anyway.

    • Mr.CommonSense

      Did this article touch a nerve? But you stated whose socioeconomically doing better??? See here we go on this war of whose doing better bm vs bw LOL… you see how the media/news has your nose wide open and now you dish out “whose doing better”?? They got you and tricked you. To enlighten you, neither of us is doing better, what kind of wealth do blacks have in America? answer me that..? What multi billion dollar corporation do any black own? What major oil company is ran by a African American? You think because you might have a mortgage, you pay your bills on time, you might drive a bmw/benz or you might have a degree or 2, that you are doing better?? LOL youre silly. When blacks as a whole start having power, and start owning oil and tech. companies theeeeeen we can start talking about “whose doing better” until then, bm and bw both arent where we need to be…. Look at the big picture sweety…

      • hollyw

        Stop trolling. Your desperation is showing.

        • Mr.CommonSense

          trolling? Im a logical thinking black male, if anyone can disagree with what I said in the previous statement please do, and elaborate on why my comment is wrong..please…

        • Kevin

          Trolling as in having a different opinion than all the black women on here?

    • Uncle Willie

      Black Men are doing better without Black Women, when we date Non Black Women we tend to be better & be more motivated. So you can keep telling yourself lies all you want lmfao whatever helps you sleep at night

      • Raykel White

        Black men have some of the highest divorce rates when you marry out. Better? For how damn long? LMAO!

  • Kevin

    Everyone has a preference. Yes sometimes the preferences come from deeper issues like self hate or not thinking that they’re attractive but let’s keep it real a lot of that can come from being turned down by your own race. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again a white girl has never called me too dark, told me to comb my hair, or told me i have “good or bad” hair. I’ve only heard that from black women. Not to mention, when Sistas turn a brotha down they turn him DOWN. Not speaking generally but I feel like a lot of black women and white women for that matter have certain standards, the guy has to look a certain way, make a certain amount of money, etc. Then after turning down the dudes, that are too dark for you, too light for you, not tall enough, not buff enough, you have an epiphany in your late 20s and look around to see dudes you’ve turned down looking happy in a relationship whether it be with a white or black woman. The difference is in the numbers, there’s literally more white women in the U.S. so there’s more that break away from that mold whereas the number of black women that break away from that mold (before their 30s) is so small that a black man depending on where he lives could literally go through life and never meet a black woman that he really vibes with. So should he be with someone he doesn’t fully vibe with just because she’s black? No, and I wouldn’t expect a black woman to do the same either. It also doesn’t make either of them sellouts, they’re just being human. With that being said this dude is an idiot, I’ve been with basically women of all races so that stigma of being the black guy that likes white girls kills me because it’s just not true. Not to mention he’s pretty crazy for admitting that to a black woman lol. But all in all please black women don’t take it the wrong way but this is an article about black women, if it was about white or hispanic or asian women i’d get on them too.

  • hollyw

    LOL this reminded me of this foine arse man online who had reached out to me, showing his interest, but by the time I’d gotten back to him, he had added a disclaimer to his profile politely stating that he was no longer seeking black women for relationships hahaaa guess I was too slow…Or just in time!!

  • Ret2Go

    Sounds to me like he’s only interested in black women sexually. He hoped you would bite and give it up. I could careless who black men choose to date or bed. Any brother who feels it necessary to say this while attempting to get at me gets a big hearty laugh and a clap. White lady, you can have this guy.

    • hollyw

      Ikr! It is SO obvious when black men deign to speak this trash directly to a black woman (yes, even on here), as if we’re going to magically say, “Wait, hold on right there, black man! Let me show you what you’ve been missing!” Um Byyye!

      10x out of 10, a person of one race who has strategically began to date outside that race is so jaded and jacked up, mentally, tuh…You can have him!! Lol dead serious, I have yet to see ONE brother with a white woman and thought, Dag, another one gone…NO, another one off our hands! Go spread that weak character and mental health amongst the white folks!!

      • Mr.CommonSense

        I agree…. but both with black women and black men…. A little do they know, dating is hard for all people, black, white, asian, etc.. We all will encounter liars, narcissitist, arrogant male and female douche bags during dating… its part of the process…. people should just move on and keep looking…

        • hollyw

          Naaah, there’s definitely a trend occurring with black people, and black men, in particular, so if you don’t want to acknowledge that, that’s on you 😉

          • Mr.CommonSense

            I cant agree…sorry…where I live in MD, near DC…there is NOTHING BUT black love everywhere!!!!! Black people getting money… and i dont mean little 40k a year money, I mean 130K per person a year money, black couples owning businesses, black couples owning 4000 sq ft houses, ….so all you anger black women, yall need to relocate or something… get out the hood, get out the gutter, get out of whatever lonely country-city or state you live in and get near some black men that are doing something with themselves..

          • mmmdot

            THANK YOU!

      • Ret2Go

        What really bothers me hollyw is how these guys have not dated all black women. There are millions of us here and abroad. To make a blanket statement about not dating black women when we are all not the same is the biggest load of crap. If you have no success with the 20 chicks you’ve dated in your hometown, have you tried the next town? State? Country? No, but you dislike all black women? Fawk outta here! I have had my fair share of horrible black men experiences. I have dated outside, but that was the choice I made at the time, I didn’t do it because I was mad at black men and hated myself. I did it because he was generally a nice guy, he was very attractive, and at the time i was kind of small. Like 125 lbs small. The black men I encountered where not happy with my size and lack of things they like on women. The only guys attracted to me, where not black (lation men, asian, and white men). So it was be lonely or enjoy the company of men who found me attractive and interesting.

        • hollyw

          My sentiments EXACTLY. That’s why I see these men as weak-minded. Black women get FAR more shxt from their men than black men do!

        • BlackIowan

          The only guys who ever gave me attention were non black men… Then I said screw it I’m not waiting around anymore for a black guy to like me and not see me as his sister, and now I’m seeing a white guy.

    • Uncle Willie

      Most men are only interested in Black Women sexually, thats all you have to offer

  • Stephanie Nerette

    I think this dude was just trying to get a reaction out of the writer… Certain Black men believe Black women have an inferiority complex regarding White women. Some might (seeing that there are all sorts of people in the world) but I’d venture to say that most don’t! And a man that would tell me something just to get a reaction out of me is only proving that he’s immature and THAT I’m not attracted to!

    • Ang

      I agree 100℅

    • Omar Oku

      No i think the writer is trying to get a reaction from you ladies here, readers, and build up traffic at this site. i kinda feel bad for the good black women. yall are like the kids in the middle of a bad divorce. smh. Writers and articles like this are ust creating insecurity in women and beef between blackmen and blackwomen. But the writer needs her bills paid and this site needs people commenting. and Black man vs black woman round 20900022292949292922 keeps going on.

  • quashi

    Another creepy article about black men dating white women. Is there anything else to obsess about. Get help!

  • Guestest

    Date whoever you want but don’t bash your own race in the process. SOME of the black men who do date out need to learn that! I don’t care who black men date because at the end of the day i only want one man so why should i care about who other black men are dating around the world? It’s not like i’m ever going to meet them anyway.. Especially those celebrity men. Black men don’t even date out as much as people want to believe so the white woman isn’t taking sh*t from me.

    • hollyw

      Ikr that’s my motto, I only need ONE lol. These fools being locked down by a (usually mediocre-looking) white woman is not my concern, no matter how hard they try to stare us into thinking it is lol smh…

    • Neco84

      The funniest response to Black men dating White Women came from a White guy I dated. I asked him, Be honest, what do you really think about Black men dating White women?
      He said, “Honestly, what is their to be envious about?? In my opinion, and this is just my opinion, I don’t find those women attractive. If anything I’m like, You can have ’em! And most of the time, as a white guy when we see that. We are thinking, That dude seriously thinks he’s got a winner? Look at her”…..
      Ouch!

      • Anna

        Please. That is a pathetic blatant lie which jealous pathetic white men say to make themselves feel better. They are just the same as jealous pathetic black females. Both bitter racists. Those white males get likes of Honey Boo Boo mother. Black men get white beauties like Ludivine Sagna, Doutzen Kroes, Page Butcher, Nicole Trunfio, Nadine Coyle, Kimberly Walsh, Jessica Oyelowo, Melanie Walcott…..

      • Uncle Willie

        So you got a thrill from that huh?? lmfao pathetic excuse for a Black female.

    • Omar Oku

      My girlfriend is Asian. and i love her alot.

      • Guestest

        Great! Now go tend to her and leave us black women alone, please and thank you. 🙂

        • secret87

          Thank you! Loooool.

      • Neco84

        I’m sure she’s great and your kids are gonna be half BLACK!!!!!!
        *Gasp*
        Don’t be TOO disgusted PLEASE! What if one if them is a girl???!!!!??? Can you imagine? A half BLACK girl?! How awful!
        Please! Lord in heaven! Please don’t allow her to date a black man! Because that will just mean more black WOMEN! And that is the last thing this world needs!
        Lmao!!!!
        You’re gonna HATE your kid if they end up dating Black! Lmaoooo

  • Mr.CommonSense

    This again?!?! MN yall are really trying hard to stir stuff up huh?? LOL… by any means necessary?? Yall are digging deep again….

    Coming from a black man, certain men do have certain preferences, and I can respect that.. and no one should judge someone on there preference in a mate, race wise…But I do think the black men and black women that date “ONLY WHITE PEOPLE” or “ONLY A SPECIFIC PERSON” have some deep deep deep very deep personal/psychological issues, maybe they were teased about there complexion as a youth, maybe there were emotionally or phsyically abused by someone from there race or mother or father, maybe they had several bad dating experiences with the same race of men or women, whatever it might be…. people are the way they are for a reason. All species and all races are naturally attracted and drawn to there own kind… its natural!! But for someone to totally disregard and not be attracted at all to there own race shows they have some DEEEEEP issues within and I rather not deal with someone like that.

    And for the black men that says white women look better then black women…. YOU CRAZY!! Beauty comes in all races and yes some black women are a hand full to deal with, some attitude, some mouth…but Black women do have the crown and the cape. Just my 2 cent..

    • Kevin

      Be careful if you don’t agree with MN they’ll just remove your comment(s), trust me i know lol

      • Mr.CommonSense

        hahaha, I know right… been there done that, Ive maturely disagreed with someone in the past and stated a very logical reason without vulgar language and I still got flagged and removed lol.. I figured the staff who operate this site are probably 80% black women, and we all know most (not all) woman have a hard time with the brutal and honest truth and they have a very very difficult time agreeing to disagree and just moving on without backfire or without “getting even”… its sad..

        • Kevin

          Just happened to me last week but the woman I was debating with didn’t have anything removed. Hmm haha

    • secret87

      People getting upset, but this topic had you type the most :/
      If they made a topic on best tasting frosting it would get zero replies. I seen many topics where there were zero comments.

      • Mr.CommonSense

        Annnnnnnnd your point is???????????????

        • secret87

          And my point is deep down you enjoy these topics. Your here.

      • Kevin

        Yea well it just turns into Black Men bashing time especially when MN deletes all the comments that don’t necessarily agree or have something intelligent to say. So we can’t even talk about it and share opinions so to me it’s pointless but to every scorned black woman or black woman that hates the thought of a black man with a white woman (which is basically everyone on here) this is their sanctuary

        • secret87

          Not true. This site very pro black male.

          • Kevin

            Right, to the ones that agree and would never date a white woman

    • Kevin

      Haha and there’s goes both of my last comments. I don’t think MN knows how OPINION threads work.

      • Mr.CommonSense

        Wow…. mines is gone too!!!!! MN yall crack me up!!! This is exactly what black men are saying about some of yall “very well educated, so called strooong independent” black women yet some of yalls mindset is soo jacked up… its scary!! Yall cant even agree to disagree on a basic topic…. My statement was nothing negative but stated truth and it was deleted…. how old are you women running this site? Because classy, grown, secure-within professional women dont get bad when they disagree, but they can agree to disagree and move on…. Yall need to Grow up!!!!!

        • Kevin

          Lol it’s crazy but all the black men bashing comments are doing just fine

  • bryan

    The guy described above was just a child lashing out because the author did not give him any play, I’m a guy, I’m tell you as a guy this was a sick game he was trying to play. He wanted her to be like “please, please don’t go to the white woman, I’ll change you back , here you can have me!….” LOL. All these tricks men play (I played some myself back in the days) i’ve warned my daughter about.

  • Anna

    I date interracially and would never say I’m only attracted to white men or aasian men, etc. I know there a great handsome black men out there. It sounds like this guy was trying to get to the writer. Most people who date interracially don’t broadcast it. Only people with issues do that ignorant stuff.

  • Omar Oku

    LETME GUESS , BLACK MEN WHO LOVE AND DATE WHITE WOMEN ARE SELL OUTS AND UNCLE TOMS, BUT BLACK WOMEN WHO LOVE AND DATE WHITE MEN ARE SISTAS WHO COULDNT TAKE IT ANYMORE AND FOUND SOMETHING NEW, .AND ITS DIFFERENT RIGHT. SMH. THE HYPOCRISY IS UNBELIEVE WITH YOU BLACK WOMEN AT TIME.

    • cc

      I don’t care everyone can date who they want.My only issue is the black men who date white women and talk badly about black women to their white women.It’s all over youtube.I’ve heard it with my own ears also.Date who you want but stop talking reckless about black women.

      • secret87

        Two years ago on the bus two blk men gave each other a high five he had a obese white woman in his arms. Didn’t care about the blk women around or how sad they looked.

        • Omar Oku

          BLACKMEN DATE FAT BLACK WOMEN TOO THO. MOST THE BLACK WOMEN I SEE ARE THICK, OR BIG GIRLS, AND 90% TIME THEY MARRIED TO BLACK MEN, DO YOU SHAME THOSE WOMEN FOR THEIR SIZE TOO, OR JUST THICK WHITE WOMEN?

        • AnnelliDAREAL

          But why the h e l l would any decent, confident, GOD fearing Black woman be sitting up looking “sad” that two silly Black “boys” are on a bus, high-fiving each other over a heavily fat white woman? I don’t feel not one bit sorry for those women as they should have never been bothered by those silly self hating Black males to begin with……..

    • Guestest

      Maybe if black men dated out without bashing black women they wouldn’t be called “self-haters” and such. But, No. They cannot date out without talking down on black women to make themselves feel superior for dating out. Only a low number of black women swirl and when they do the excuse is because black men had never approached or gave them any attention so they went to “other”. I don’t doubt it.

      • Omar Oku

        The truth isnt bashing its the truth. non blackwomen on average, respect blackmen AS MEN MORE.

        • Ang

          Then why dont you ask yourself why? I’ve never heard a song by a rapper calling non-black women out their names. I’ve never seen black men disrepct non-black women the way they do black women. But I also never see non-black women defend black males the way black women do. Dont see too many white, Asian, latina women protesting when police kill unarmed black men. You are crazy if you think other women care about black males more than black women. Even though a lot of black men dont deserve our loyalty, they usually still have it. Cut the crap.

          • Guestest

            He’s delusional.

          • Omar Oku

            Honestly i hate it with a passion too when rappers call women, B word, H word, women are person, equal to men, human beings who deserve love and honor and respect/. So i cant disagree there. but the rappers are calling all women those bad words, white women, asian women, spanishwomen middle eastern,. its bad, i wish they stop/

          • Anna

            Don’t you lie. Us loving, caring white/nonblack women love and cherish our black hudbands. We would fight for them. It is you racist black females who betray and mock black men constantly. You are not worthy of them. We white/nonblack women have special strong connection to black men, our love is soul deep.

        • Neco84

          Correction…. I think they ALLOW more. What man doesn’t want a woman that is all, Awwwwww poor baby! He can’t help it! I think, as the black women has grown to be the head of the household We have become less and less able to take the BS and want a man to step up. We ARE minorities too. And women at that. So we have less sympathy towards Black men. That can be good and bad don’t get me wrong! But we are no longer gonna take the BS and it seems that non minority women baby Black men.
          Black women say ” Man up! Be a man!”
          Non minorities say ” Well…. He’s doing what he can.”

        • Maggie

          Thats because on average they don’t know you. You are a foreigner to them. They have little to no inkling of cultural differences or background as a black man. They are ignorant to who or what you stand for. They have little to none to add to what your feelings or thoughts are as a black man in this world. Their ignorance is bliss. Such large differences b/n a black man and his ‘respectful’ other account for why those unions don’t last. Good luck

          • Omar Oku

            Being nice to some one has nothing to do with culture or race. I am nice to black women, i help them carry their bad. on the train or bus i get up and give them my seat. if you coming to me with the he hates black women dance. AM not that guy. so chill.

            • Maggie

              I understand but my comment was deeper than ‘being nice to someone.’ A stranger (like your carrying bags example) can be nice. How much weight does that have in the longevity of 2 people who need to have overlapping qualities to make it? Or maybe you don’t believe that 2 people have to have overlapping qualities. Eventually its going to be a lot of work for anyone to be with someone who is very different even though they are ‘nice.’

    • hollyw

      Grammar, much? Naw just playing…I’m sure the general consensus is that both genders who strategically date are just too jaded/tired/damaged and prob should’ve just taken a break from dating to begin with, but uhhh…yeah, those black men do tend to be sell-outs more often than not 🙂

      • Omar Oku

        Can you dunk a basketball? if you cant they why do you care why black men are sleeping with.

    • secret87

      Its true. Black women are not on YOUTUBE openly putting down blk men,nor in music either. Blk women want love. Black men focus on skin tone reason why white women and black men have the highest divorce rate compared to other interracial relationships and same race relationships.

      • Omar Oku

        Oh lord yall black women sound like a broken record, its like what25 years yall have crying about white women. spanish women. guess what. their 4.4 million more white women than white men. So when a black woman dates or marries a white man she is taking white men from white women. Yet you never see white women crying on social media or tv about that fact. why they have class and a life.

        • Kevin

          Be careful man if you don’t agree with the black men bashing theyll remove your comment. This site is clearly for older black women

          • Herm Cain

            They’ll get rid of it quick old shriveled immature b******s LOL

          • Omar Oku

            The truth will set them free tho. blackwomen need to go where they areloved. open up to interracial dating do you. be happy and leave us black men be,PLEASEEEEEEEEEEE!

          • Ang

            Oh please. They do that with every topic. The regular readers already know the moderators here are a trip. Which is why the comments on this site are declining. Half the time they leave up the comments that bash black women and delete the ones that defend black women. This comment is probably going to disappear.

        • Neco84

          I think the whole, “Why do Black men date big white women?” statement comes from the thought that if you’re so desperate to date a white chick….. At least date a HOT one.
          Also, any man who is attracted to one group of women but not another. And dogs the other group is automatically suspect.
          Look there’s a difference between
          “I LOVE strawberries! My favorite fruit!”
          And
          ” I LOVE strawberries! All the other fruit is BS!!! F all the other fruit!”
          You sir are the second. You can love something without dissing someone else. It makes you look less genuine, suspicious and in need of asking…. What did the other “fruit” do to you?? You sound bitter. Do you ONLY like strawberries because you hate all the other ones?

          • Mr.CommonSense

            E_X_A_C_T_L_Y!!!! Your fruit statement is spot on…

          • Omar Oku

            But 70% of black women are obese and big women. lol so if a black man marries a big black woman its awesome, but when we date big white or asian women its because we are desperate., GIVE ME A BREAK, GOD, LISTEN TO YOURSELVES BLACK WOMEN YOU SOUND LIKE 10 YEAR OLD GIRLS. I AM DONE,

            • Neco84

              Again with the, I love strawberries but hate every other fruit???
              To each their own.

            • Neco84

              Not capable of loving something without hating the other but I sound like a child???? Hmmmmmm lol

            • Neco84

              You sound desperate and pathetic. Love white women! Love what they represent and what they’re about. STOP TRASHING EVERY OTHER WOMAN TO SUPPORT YOUR CLAIM! You sound bitter!!!

            • Ang

              Why are you addressing your comments to “black women” instead of the ONE woman you are responding to? Do we all share one brain? Do we all know Neco84? Maybe that’s why white people judge all black people based on their encounters with a few black people.

              • Omar Oku

                Because women of other races dont have an issue with who black men date. they are busy with their lifes, and kids, and jobs, and schooling and whatever else they are doing, seems alot of blackwomen really really into who black men are sleeping with.

                • Ang

                  Lol. Oh okay that explains it. You are more messed up in the head than I thought. Got it. Good luck in life. And good luck getting that Asian girl’s family to approve of you. They probablyay already disowned her for being with you. Carry on.

                  But seriously, sorry that you hate your mom and grandma so much that it tainted your outlook on all black women.

            • secret87

              I seen a blk man with a white woman who needed lotion on her legs,fake blonde,no arms ,pulling out her food stamp card for her. Blk men seem to worship anything white no matter how bad. They even love the ones whose stomach hit their knees,driving in scooters,with their mix race kids helping because mommy too big and tired to reach the chips herself.

          • Ang

            Well said.

            “You can love something without dissing someone else. It makes you look less genuine, suspicious and in need of asking.”

            So on point. I have no problem with people dating outside their race. But when anyone automatically excludes their own race there is usually some deep rooted issues. The flimsy justifications is just deflection from their own inadequacies.

        • secret87

          Um I seen the dirty looks ww give to bw with wm. White women are not innocent.

          • Omar Oku

            OK cool story bro/sis.

          • Just Observing

            Dealt with that many times. I’m simply not attracted to BM anymore and haven’t been for some time. I like being treated like a lady, which is what I get from non-black men. That’s just the way it is.

            • secret87

              Im in the same place. I want to be treated like a lady not a atm that you can use and abuse.

              • Masterpieced

                brainwashed clean!

            • Masterpieced

              You are just as bad if you think NO black man cannot treat you like a lady. The whites have done a great job on you.

              • secret87

                No black men proved it. They want to man handle us,but treat Becky like a princess. Were out! And Becky be big and sounding hood,but gets better treatment.

                • Masterpieced

                  White men but us in chains, slavery and then discriminated against us. But, you forgive them. SMH

      • Omar Oku

        black women joined feminism movement and bash blackmen on twitter., kola boof, feminista jones 40 black women feminists on twitter who do nothing all day , than bash black men.

        • secret87

          White women started it yet silence.

        • Neco84

          Wa Wa Wa! I hate Black women so I love white women!
          Lolol

      • The Truth Hurts

        Black women diss Black men on record all the time. It’s just so common that you don’t even notice it. Listen to various R&B songs about how men are all dogs, cheaters, abusers, and how women are so much better and morally superior to men. From groups like Destiny’s Child and almost every other female artist.

        And there are plenty of Black women on YouTube who bash Black men constantly.

    • Tay

      Uh…..contrary to popular belief, most of us black women just don’t care who you date or what you do. Seriously. We’re way too busy trying to handle our own business.

      • Kevin

        Really? Couldn’t tell by these comments LOL

        • Neco84

          Date whoever you want man! As long as you find them attractive that’s all that matters. Its not all about looks so I get it. Just because everyone else doesn’t think she’s cute doesn’t mean you don’t!

          • Kevin

            You’re preaching to the choir. I just thought that comment was funny because if you read all the other comments 70% of them are women very upset about it lol

          • Conversationalist

            Are you fine?

            • Neco84

              I would like to think so. Men of all races hit on me. Mostly White and Black men though. Not many Asian or Latino can’t lie.

              • Conversationalist

                What woman doesn’t get hit on? You mentioned appearance. Are you fine enough to get more than guys trying to get laid? Or do you actually have a man, or husband?

                • Neco84

                  Husband is Italian. Children with dual citizenship. Funny…. He doesn’t talk stuff about White women. It’s odd that he can be attracted to me and not talk stuff about White Women isn’t it….. Interesting.

                  • Conversationalist

                    Whose husband is Italian? Whose children have dual citizenship? Your comment is interesting, as you have already expressed in other comments, that you are not married, and have no children.

                    • Neco84

                      LOLOLOL! I’m sure not married but that’s what the Italian I did date said

                    • Conversationalist

                      So, you just lied as a defence mechanism in response to the previous questions. lol

                    • Neco84

                      The statement was still made by a white man. Regardless if it was my husband or not. Why you so mad about what he said anyway? Does it matter what the dude thinks about your girl?

                    • Conversationalist

                      That could very well be true. It is just kind of weird, that you made up a fantasy about being married to an Italian man, and having two kids with dual citizenship, in response to being asked if guys just hit on you to get laid, or whether you actually had a man, or were married. After making negative comments about another woman’s appearance who actually has a man, it makes you seem…… And that you would go through all that, suggests that you likely have issues with finding men that actually want you for more than a lay.

                    • Neco84

                      Hmmmmmmm…. So you’re saying because I’m not married yet that I have problems finding men??? Is that right Conversationalist? How’s your wife? You strike me as the type of guy to get dumped then stalk their ex on the internet 😉

                    • Conversationalist

                      I’m saying that, you seem bothered that black men date white women, that you are a hater, as you also spoke negatively about another woman’s appearance who has something that you apparently don’t, and also that your responses suggest that you are insecure with your dating life. They are your responses. I am just reading them.

                    • Neco84

                      My dating life is fine. Had my share of dating mistakes. Most recent ex for me lol! But I think it’s a bit foolish to overlook that sometimes racial biased even effects the very people that it’s being used against. For instance, lighter = better has effected the Black community amongst each other

                    • Conversationalist

                      You didn’t respond like it was fine. You went through a bit of trouble trying to deflect the inquiry of someone online, going so far as lying about being married and having children, having comments deleted, and suggesting an ex is stalking you. It is probable, that you actually having an ex, is also a lie, and that most of your comments where you claim people said this or that, are also lies as well. Just more fantasies you are making up, due to your insecurities. Who are you, to disparrage the appearance of another woman, simply because she has a black man?

                    • Neco84

                      Did you JUST make an account to comment under my stuff??? Because um….. That’s what it looks like slick

                    • Neco84

                      Date whoever you want. But for the right reasons

        • Omar Oku

          Kevin they care, and just the fact that this article was writing shows 100% they care, they overly care;. Obsession is more like it/.

      • Omar Oku

        Yeah black women care so little about who adult black men date. That every month, EVERY SINGLE month, they write an article, or twitter, or facebook, or tv, about how black men are dating outside the race. at one point. even the pro black black college going black men will give up. smh.

        • Neco84

          So let me guess…… The ONLY reason you date interracial is because of Black women???? Not because of genuine love but because of hate???
          The minute Black women stop talking about your psychological mess your dealing with you’ll quite hating us??
          You feed off of us making comments! That’s sir…. Is why the discussion is made. Because of the reason.
          I like the Sox because I like the Sox…. Not because I.hate the Cubs.
          Deal with your mommy issues sir. Good night

  • GoldenGirl;)

    Really MN do we have to go here AGAIN!

    • Live_in_LDN

      Yeah it’s been done to death.

      • GoldenGirl;)

        And then some! Ugh….

    • hollyw

      Lol…it’s been a slow week b/c of the holiday…

      • GoldenGirl;)

        Ooh lolm

      • GoldenGirl;)

        Ooh lol..

  • 1Val

    A douche attempted to have booty call with an ex. After she spurn casual sex with him he got in his feelings wanted to “hurt” her by declaring his interest in white women. A classic weak black male move who believes ALL black women suffer from inferiority complex compared to white women. But the joke is on him since a woman isn’t sleeping with him who he desires to have sex with doesn’t concen her.

  • Taneesha Culture Clash Thomas

    i am completely unbothered by any black male that says they’re only attracted to white females…that’s fine… there’s usually a whole bunch of black females in their past that are sick of their sh** anyway… save us from him white women!

    • 1Val

      When I was single, I always asked potential suitors had they ever been with a white woman. A yes answer was automatic disqualification to date me. For me it was as egregious as single fathers, divorced men, ex-cons, bad credit, unemployment, addicts, womanizers, illiterates and batterers.

      • Taneesha Culture Clash Thomas

        lol

      • LogicalLeopard

        Uh….why?

      • ApMillz-CT

        So, if someone has dated a WW you will not date them? Why??

        • 1Val

          My preference and dealbreaker.

          • ApMillz-CT

            Ok.. I’m just trying to understand someone else’s logic.. I grew up in a small town, none of the black men there dated black woman. They would say, ‘black girls doesn’t have hair, black girls are loud and aggressive,’ blah, blah, blah.. They all dated white girls.. Fat ones too.. smdh! Needless to say, I moved out of the town once I became of age. I’ve dated the rainbow.. Now, would I date a man that has dated a white woman in the past, Yes! some only cross the street for a tad 😉 The real ones always comes home Baby 🙂 I just wanted to know why would it be an automatic disqualification?

            • 1Val

              How wonderful you are doing what works for you!!!

            • The Truth Hurts

              LOL, notice 1Val keeps sidestepping your question.

            • Anna

              No, real good black men stick with their white/nonblack women if it is true love. David Oyelowo, Gary Clark Jnr, Aloe Blacc ……love their nonblack wives. Racist black men or nogood black men like Snoop Dog and Bobby Brown are the types which you get. Quality black men would never want a racist, bitter black females who hate and discriminate against white/nonblack women. Same skin colour does not mean love.

              • ApMillz-CT

                Lol! Keep ’em

                • Anna

                  Lol. You keep your Snoop Dogs.

                • AnnelliDAREAL

                  “Anna” is either a t r o l l or a black male who is a s l a v e c o o n……

          • Electric Relaxation

            Me too, girl. I can’t do it.

      • LOL.. you and I agree on something LOL…”When I was single, I always asked potential suitors had they ever been with a white woman. A yes answer was automatic disqualification to date me” I didn’t know black women feel that way however black men of my generation secretly have always felt that way, I would not knowingly date or marry a women who have dated a white man primary because of our history here in America, 99% of black men of my generation are this way however the new generation are different but I didn’t know that high percent of black women was the same way.

        • 1Val

          There are several issues we agree on.

        • loopes

          what is your generation ?

          • I think they called my generation “baby boomers”.

        • Sheik Yerbouti

          In all fairness, you do realize what they call white people who carry the same racial purity standards as you two right? I can certainly respect anyone for wanting to start a family that will resemble the family of their forebears. White people who state they will not date black people are called rac|sts!

          We have so much to do in the US if we hope to make any progress toward everyone being equal.

          • you are right on point I agree with you. I no longer consider people racist for only dating or marrying their own kind cause I am that way although I do have a white daughter in law but for me I prefer my own kind.

            • Anna

              We are all one kind. God made one human race. So sad you have those views with possible mixed grand kids.

          • hollyw

            You are confused. You cannot tell the difference between preference, prejudice, and racism. I suggest you take one step towards that progress by finding out.

      • hollyw

        O.O

        That’s all of em, ain’t it lol..??

        I’ve met virtually NO black man who’s NEVER dated/slept with a white woman.

        • 1Val

          Of course NOT!!!
          Contrary to what society would have us to believe the majority of black men aren’t lusting after white women.
          Perhaps you should broaden your horizons for I know plenty good black men who have never dated white women.

          • Cocoa Rose

            To be fair, many black women have had flings with white men.

            • 1Val

              Great for them.

            • secret87

              About time.

          • hollyw

            Tuh, it ain’t my fault all the ones I’ve met have been with white women, I ain’t dating the fools! Pehaps you should do a lie detector test on those who told you they haven’t..? Cuz I guarantee, if they haven’t, it’s cuz they couldn’t; not cuz they didn’t want to. They’re men first; black, second.

            • 1Val

              Do you sincerely believe if a black man hasn’t slept with a white woman it is because he couldn’t do so?
              I so hope you are being facetious in your comments to me.

              • hollyw

                Well, you will be sorely disappointed by those hopes! Lol it’s not that serious…but um, yes. Then again, I don’t see all interracial dating as damning or w/ an ulterior motive as you might..? *shrug*

                • 1Val

                  Actually, I don’t view interracial dating as damning or with ulterior motives. It wasn’t for me but kudos to whoever chooses to do it.

                  • hollyw

                    …well, actually, since this entire thread was fueled by your disclosure to base your selection process on a potential mate’s interracial dating history, it’s pretty apparent that you do view interracial dating negatively, at least regarding black men’s character, and wouldn’t be “kudos”-ing anyone lol…which is fine, I couldn’t care less about anyone’s personal preference, since I was only discussing its prevalence, which we also disagree on and that is fine, so cheers!!

                    • 1Val

                      If you aren’t sensitive when someone disagrees with you…. lol…

                    • hollyw

                      Naaaah just annoyingly technical 🙂

          • Lorna Brain

            Whats wrong with dating one, what makes a man good or bad, does he have to be black??

          • Anna

            That is a contradiction. Good black men do not hate white/nonblack women. They do not discriminate. Those are bad, racist black males who hate whites/nonblacks. Hatred and racism is all what you got in common. That is not love.Normal straight men are attracted to gorgeous women of all colours. There is something very fishy about black men who say they do not find most gorgeous of white/mixed/nonblack women attractive. You racist black females can keep those Bobby Browns and Snoop Dogs. We quality white/nonblack women love and marry quality black men like Aloe Blacc, Chuka Umunna, David Oyelowo, Gary Clark Jnr……..

            • 1Val

              Yawn.

              • hollyw

                This po’ white woman, she just don’t know what to do lol smh.

                • 1Val

                  I’m always amazed by whites hubris. lol. She typed that drivel with expectations black women would care what she has to say.

        • Ang

          Not one????

          • hollyw

            Uhhh not to my knowledge lol…I’m from the Midwest, where “light is right”, one; then everyone wants a “pretty baby with nice hair/skin”, even the white folks, so it is what it is. However, since living in NYC these last 7yrs, virtually every guy I’ve asked (meaning I’m dating them) admitted to at least sleeping w/one. Even if they tried to play it off like it was some lame azz “payback!” scheme…smdh.

        • Ret2Go

          I have. I’ve dated 2. 1 dated and married a Japanese woman, why because how many black people live in Japan? Not many and the ones their are usually military and married. The other dated and slept with a white woman while living in Australia. We are together now and have been for over a year. He lived there while playing Rugby, yes Rugby girl lol. He became too old for football and it is similar. it keeps him in shape and he loves to play. I do not knock men who have limited choices, especially while trying to do big things for themselves. Some brothers have to go with the options available. Out of it, I got to very cultured black men. I can’t say that if placed in a situation, where the choices are limited, I would become a nun lol. I have dated and had sex outside as well.

      • Cocoa Rose

        I can date a black man who has been with white women, because I have been with white men. However, if a black man starts listing a bunch of non black women as his celebrity crushes, I get suspicious if he is color struck.

        • 1Val

          Whatever works for you.

        • Masterpieced

          I agree with you. I do not ask that question.

        • Omar Oku

          Finally an open, fair, smart woman on here. Thank goodness. love this comment.

      • StraightShooter

        This is something I have done also. I won’t date a man that views me as second best. Let these men be with white women, or other “exotic” types.

        • AnnelliDAREAL

          Agreed!

      • secret87

        I understand. Kinda like a bisexual who been with a man….no thank you.

        • 1Val

          lol…now that goes without saying being with a homosexual…lol

      • Beer Battered Sharksticks

        It feels good knowing that I’m not the only person who has that dealbreaker. =)

      • The Truth Hurts

        Sounds like you have issues. Why is a Black man dating a White woman in the past a bad thing? I wonder what you’d think if a Black man said he’d never date a Black woman who has previously dated a White man. I’ve never heard of a Black man with such “standards”, but hey who knows.

        • 1Val

          Apparently, there are many things you have never heard of. Perhaps you should get out more. lol. Nowhere does it state I must justify my relationship dealbreakers. I not public opinion do what is best for me based on criteria I chose.

          • The Truth Hurts

            That’s fine, but the reason you won’t “justify” such a statement is because you can’t.

            • 1Val

              No dear.
              The reason why I won’t justify my statement is because I CHOOSE not to.
              I don’t any man or woman any explanation for how I live my life.
              And I truly don’t care what you think of my opinions.

              • The Truth Hurts

                That’s fine. People who are confident in their convictions have no issue in backing up their convictions. You can’t justify your convictions because you realize how silly it would sound to consider someone un-dateable simply based on the race of a previous partner they had. It’s racist and bigoted. Have a good day.

                • 1Val

                  Not hardly since people confident in their convictions refuse to justify them to others.
                  What you think of me and my opinions is none of my business.
                  Have a blessed evening.

                  • The Truth Hurts

                    No one’s trying to get you to “justify” them and no one’s trying to “change” you. The woman simply asked you out of curiosity, and you still had no answer. I’m not sure why you’d refuse to answer someone’s curiosity. Thank you, you too.

                    • 1Val

                      Simply because someone asks me a question does not entitle them to my answer.

                    • The Truth Hurts

                      You’re right, but I don’t see what harm there is in you informing them if they asked respectfully. You may be hiding something, you’re angry, spiteful, and a combination of other things.

                    • 1Val

                      How does your opinion concern me?

                    • The Truth Hurts

                      You posted your opinion on a public forum with the intention of others seeing it. It is open to being disagreed upon. Why are you so jaded?

                    • 1Val

                      Obviously, I lack qualms with anyone disagreeing with my opinions.
                      lol

                    • The Truth Hurts

                      Yes, you are free to stay mired in your own ignorance. I’m glad most women aren’t like you. That would be horrible, LOL.

                    • 1Val

                      Bless your heart!

                    • The Truth Hurts

                      Thank you!

                • AnnelliDAREAL

                  What, more like Black males (not all), who are not confident in their convictions as to the REAL reason why they date interracially? By now most people (Black folks at least) should know that “self hate” is usually the motivating factor—-WHICH by the way, is disguised as just having a “preference.”

      • The Truth Hurts

        Wait… I remember you now! You were the woman who said a woman should never do anything for men or get men gifts, because it would be “spoiling” him, but the woman is entitled to everything from him. Yes, you definitely have issues and I know many men would want nothing to do with your type. Only a gullible man who knows no better would think such an unequal relationship would be fine. There are many women who enjoy pampering their man. Dating is not a competition of who can receive more pampering and love.

        • 1Val

          We all have issues including you. And there are many men who aren’t my type who I had nothing to do with. The purpose of dating is finding a mate suitable to you.

          • The Truth Hurts

            My issues certainly aren’t to the level of “I would never do anything for the woman in my life because it would spoil her.” Those are very serious issues which would likely require professional counseling and therapy. Good luck to you.

            • 1Val

              No dear, your “issues” are delusions of grandeur.
              By presupposing you know someone in cyberspace to assess their personality.

              And arrogance to believe that you a person who does not matter to me I would value your opinions of me.

      • JayinNC

        White guy here. I have always been most attracted to black women but never dated them because of race drama issues. I am 42 and been married to a white women for 10 years. Back to graduate school and was put in a study group of three and the other two were black women. One was exactly my type and long story short I had an affair. She only dated white men and I told her my secret of desiring only black women. She got a job and moved 1100 miles away. Now I can not see myself with white women again. I just wanted to tell you that black women are the ones that are superior in the bedroom not white women! I understand why you won’t date a black man who has been with a white women-it is a different experience and is etched on his brain as black women are now etched on my brain:-) No other white man that I know feels like I do and it was just nice to write this.

        • 1Val

          Bless your heart.

          • JayinNC

            Give a white guy like me a chance who adores black women. It is a freeing and addictive experience:-) You won’t regret it and it will free you of this bitterness towards black men. Just sayin. The pool is much smaller as far as white men exclusively wanting black women but we are out there and to be honest most white men do not know what they are missing;-)

            • 1Val

              Take care.

        • AnnelliDAREAL

          Bye troll……………

  • Courtney Banks

    Certain attractions like that aren’t innate, it’s not an orientation, or something you’re born with. All attraction males and females are ALL rooted in social conditioning and brainwashing. He knows deep down his “reasoning” is crap, which is why he doesn’t allow himself to think about it, which is even sadder. It’s one thing to recognize you have a problem, and it’s another to go out and actively change. That’s not to say he isn’t allowed to date white women, but don’t just stew in your ignorance.

    • LogicalLeopard

      Say that!

    • hollyw

      Tuh, I have heard many black men openly (and unwelcome-ly) express their reasoning, basically stating all the neg. stereotypes out there in black women, then wait for some sort of comeback from me…ummm Alright, sounds good, good luck to ya!!

      • secret87

        Best comeback is you only date white men. Watch tables turn. They depend on blk women wanting them.

        • Neco84

          Ooooo yes I have noticed that too. It seems like they’re main reasoning in bringing up the convo is to stir up jealousy. The minute you claim you do the same and to each his own. As I have done and still do. They pause… Stare at you then have no more words. And if you go into the stereotypes of why, they in turn, start to realize how stupid THEY sound.

          • secret87

            Exactly.

            • Neco84

              Also, I throw the whole suttle shade to catch them up
              “Date whoever you want! Its on the inside that counts! Just because no one else finds her attractive is on them. As long as you do! Looks aren’t everything!”
              And you can tell by their reaction what their motive in telling you is.
              Just cause she’s white doesn’t mean she’s fine. Sorry

              • secret87

                I know. White average men get good looking white women. A black guy has to be wealthy for the same. A white guy said thats what black men are for to keep ugly white women company. Also lol on the inside that counts love that.

                • Mr.CommonSense

                  You and Neco keep entertaining each other LOL… You two act like every black man goes for white women… smh smh calm down.. Its a FACT that most black men prefer black women… its just we dabble into other races to see what its like… some take it serious, others dont, point blank period. Stop letting MN and these silly attack articles stir you up. There’s nothing wrong with being curious and dating outside your race…..

                  • Neco84

                    Absolutely nothing wrong with it! I sure do!

                    • secret87

                      Me too! I don’t go through the stuff my sister does aka baby mama drama, supporting him as he cheats,ect.

                      I will admit there is one good blk man I know who is faithful and always been a hard worker which is my grandpa who respects blk women as they are women. Also my great grandpa was wonderful too,and my pro loving of Malcolm x uncle who passed away yeeeeears ago. And one decent blk coworker who wants to be a doctor is black great guy,but chases after Marias only,but never has openly put down black women.

                    • Masterpieced

                      Damn, you can only name those low numbers. Wow. Are you living in a civilized community?

                  • myly

                    They are speaking of the men that admit to being attracted to only white women. Nowhere in their conversation did it say they were speaking of all black men. Just fyi

                    • Ang

                      Thank you. You would think that was obvious.

                • Girliusmaximus

                  LMAO!!! Dead. I will be laughing at that all week.

                  • secret87

                    I was laughing too,the truth can be funny too.

                • Кing C00L Breeze ✠

                  notice you didn’t say the average white guy is checking for a sister. lol

                • Anna

                  What a crappy lie. White men get trashy white females like Honey Boo mother and Kate Moss. While handsome black men get Doutzen Kroes, Jessica Oyelowo, Paige Butcher, Ludivine Sagna………..Pathetic, jealous white men and black women just keep on making lies. Leave us alone. Quality black men will love and marry quality white women and vice versa.

              • Masterpieced

                I AM GONNA USE THIS LINE! lol

                “Date whoever you want! Its on the inside that counts! Just because no
                one else finds her attractive is on them. As long as you do! Looks
                aren’t everything!”

              • AnnelliDAREAL

                LAWDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LMAO – that is a good one….I got to use that one. Haaa!

          • Well damn, I havent even thought of doing this….Man I cant wait until a black man says this to me!!!

          • AnnelliDAREAL

            Yep – that’s how you turn the tables on them — don’t argue, don’t get upset – just kill them with “kindness.”

        • The Truth Hurts

          A lot of projection from Black women. Black men for the most part don’t care about Black women dating White men. Black women on the other hand are notoriously known for being hostile towards Black men who date White women.

          • Do you know

            Even if it’s not the majority of them (like black women ) it can become violent. Did you ever heard about the stories about black men who killed or beat white men just because they’re with a black women ? Why do you ignore that?

          • AnnelliDAREAL

            Hey, anything to make you feel better about yourself…..Ha!

      • Courtney Banks

        Best part is when these men are victims of racism, or targeted by the cops. They expect these same black women to march for them and stand together with them. You have black women in these streets taking tear gas and pepper spray to the face for those same clowns.

        • secret87

          Not me. They need to start asking non blk women for help.

        • Pat

          What can you expect when the US in fact has an “apartheid” like policy towards black people but will never admit IT

      • Masterpieced

        YES! Do not flame the fires. I have learned to not add to a debate when I feel baited.

      • AnnelliDAREAL

        LMAO!!!!!! And you know that makes them even more furious at Black women; in fact I notice that Black men who are always talking about how they don’t date us and blah, blah, blah, are the same ones who seem to have this strong obsession with Black women. It’s like, if you are “done” with us, then be DONE and shut the h e l l up with all that complaining and whining…..geez, this s h i t is getting old.

        • BlackIowan

          I thought I was the only one who noticed this!!! Why you still talkin about us then? Bye Felicia! Especially on Twitter. Having your hate for black women isn’t going to bring in the white women you adore.

          • AnnelliDAREAL

            Right – and besides, the BEST of Black men are with the BEST of Black women anyways so………….

    • Omar Oku

      Stay mad slim.

      • Courtney Banks

        If you have nothing of value to add, to my thread, please don’t bother. Thank you.

    • Uncle Willie

      White Women are better, get over it. You don’t like Black Men anyway

      • Courtney Banks

        And who was polled when that survey was taken? Self-hating black men?

        • Uncle Willie

          All I need is my White Nubian Queen, so be gone you wig wearing devil!!! #WhiteQueensOnly

          • Courtney Banks

            You do realize White nubian is an oxymoron right?