Tamika Fuller Denied New Custody Trial: “Every Day That Passes When I Don’t Have My Daughter Feels Like Eternity”

April 13, 2015  |  

tamika fullerThe day after we ran Tamika Fuller’s heartfelt essay on her custody battle with Ludacris, the mother of the rapper’s youngest daughter was set to appear in court in request of a new trial in hopes of winning back custody of her child. Unfortunately, Tamika was denied a new trial and when we reached out for a statement on her case she told us this:

“Sadly, on April 9th the judge denied my motion for a new trial. Every day that passes when I don’t have my daughter feels like eternity. After being discouraged with the court system, I decided to share a personal account of my situation on Madame Noire, it was never meant as a media blitz but rather my side of the story in protest of my daughter being taken away when I felt powerless against her father’s machine. My side had not been shared up until this point and rumors that I was a bad mother or receiving 7k/month child support or asking for 15k were distressing me, none of which are factual. I’m back to working full time, but even that isn’t enough to cover the many expenses that come with this fight. I was hesitant to set up a Gofundme page but since my story ran I’ve received overwhelmingly supportive feedback from women and mothers across the country who have offered assistance and want to help with launching my organization. I plan to use donation money to start setting up my non-profit “No Mother Left Behind” with a mission to educate, enrich, enlighten and empower low income mothers and also to help bring my own daughter back. I’ve read and appreciate all the messages, prayers and similar stories that I’ve received. You have all made me feel less alone. We are all in this together. Thank you.”

As Tamika pointed out in her original essay, she is far from the first woman to have a child with an entertainer and find herself embroiled in a nasty custody battle so we reached out to Tamika’s lawyer, Lisa West, to get some clarity on the situation and advice on what other mothers in similar circumstances can do to protect themselves and their children. Here’s what she told us:

MN: In your opinion, what was the deciding factor that led to Ludacris being granted sole custody of he and Tamika’s daughter?

LW: I believe the deciding factor was money: Ludacris has it; Tamika does not.

MN: Why was a new custody trial denied? What next steps will you take now as a result?

LW: The judge gave absolutely no reason for denying our motion for a new trial.  Our next step will be to appeal.

MN: What is the basis of your argument for why Tamika should be granted custody?

LW: Tamika should be granted custody of Cai because the evidence is irrefutable and undisputed that she has always been the primary parent of Cai and has always been a wonderful parent to Cai.  Tamika, through great sacrifice and dedication, has dedicated her life to being Cai’s parent and Cai has thrived under her nurturing and care.  Ludacris, on the other hand, has not dedicated his life to being Cai’s father.  He is most often absent, making appearances, during which times he delegates his parenting responsibilities to third-parties.

MN: Do you think Tamika’s case is representative of a larger issue in the justice system in which money and power overrides what’s right?

LW: Absolutely. It is difficult to believe that our “justice system” can be influenced by money, power and wealth, but it is true.  When one Googles “family court corruption,” the search results referencing tainted family court cases are overwhelming; and, very disturbing.

MN: What advice would you offer women who might find themselves in a similar situation?

LW: I would advise them to attempt to formally settle the matter before going to court by retaining an attorney who does not have the reputation of colluding with the opposing party for the attorney’s own benefit and who is willing to challenge the system.  I would further advise them to be ready to fight for as long as it takes.

To donate to Tamika’s Bring Tink Home Go Fund Me page click here.

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  • Katialaloca

    That’s why parents need to work things out fairly for their kids regardless of how they feel about each other. If they did that, then they wouldn’t have to go to court.

  • namedmesunshine

    Tamika Fuller, your deception is costing you a lot. you need to be honest with everyone, admit that you were wrong for abandoning your first born and begin the healing process from there. You are not being honest and that’s why everything is working against you.

  • ttt

    According to another website, she now has to pay his legal bills.

  • Simba711

    Meanwhile if Luda was raising another man’s child , people would praise him. This lady didn’t even want joint custody.

  • james

    IfIf a father who only made 800 dollars a month was crying about not having sole custody and had abandoned one of his children in the past was crying, we wouldnt even be here…

  • Apple Lee

    She does have joint legal custody, he has primary physical custody. But of course Tamika and her attorney won’t tell that part of the truth when they’re setting up a Go Fund Me page.

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  • Wakando Shamar Taylor

    Luda didnt answer any of their questions he didnt mention her name period! If he did why didnt her lawyer present evidence of him talking in the media?

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  • fran

    I no longer respect ludicris(s). And how can a mother be denied a hearing concerning her child. This is too cold.

  • marieRN

    When he laid down with her & made a baby, its obvious that her financial situation was not an issue at that time. Celebrity men can be petty, he f***ed up then tries to make the women suffer to correct his wrong. WAY TO GO LUDA lol. $$$$$ is all that matters.

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  • Jenna Potts

    Oh. I didn’t know any of that. Well then, yeah. No joint custody

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  • Family law attorney

    That attorney is treading on thin ice. I highly doubt a judge based this custody determination on “money.” In my opinion, allowing an attorney to put this stuff out to the media hurts the client – you’re just gonna piss off the judge.

    • Apple Lee

      The attorney only care about herself and taking money away from the baby for herself via Luda’s money. Every time the attorney goes to court with Tamika on frivolous motion, she will definitely ask for some exorbitant legal fees from Luda.

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  • Isis80eve

    Number 1 this child’s mother was never in a relationship with Ludacris. This is why he feels no compassion toward her–she was just a booty call. Perhaps, all women should practice safe sex and be more mindful of who you allow to become the father of your child. All Ludacris is trying to do is not have baby mama drama, so he can move on with his life and new wife. Too many women are having babies for guys they just decided to hook up with one day, pretty much strangers. Yuck!

  • Maddie

    Advice to other women? How about having some self-respect! Get an education and get a job. Your source of income should not come from child support payments. This woman already had children with a famous person but no, that wasn’t enough. She spread her legs for Ludacris as well. Why didn’t she use protection? It’s sad that she lost custody of her child but if you live your life a certain way, you gotta deal with the consequences of your actions!

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  • ebaiden

    okay, before I’m spoon fed with a biased side, let me just say where I stand. Women, if you cannot financially support yourself and THEN use ALL the child support money on ONLY your child(ren) then, I’m sorry… you shouldn’t have sole parental custody. Hey, that’s how I feel.
    If the bulk of the money is spent on rent, weaves, entertainment for you, then… the child NEEDS to go to the main financial provider, because lets face it, the main financial provider is supporting the child without actually being there.
    Now, if the custody is given to the main financial provider, but he/she is pretty much physically absent from the child life, then I believe in this case a shared parental custody is appropriate.
    If the main financial provider happens to be abusive, then I think that its appropriate for the non-main provider parent…. provided he/she is proving to be back in the work force to financially support her/himself and with additional funds support the child.

    • curtis

      True, but couldn’t I argue that custody should always be shared if both parents are deemed as decent parents?

  • Shakespeare’sMuse

    Judges don’t care one way or another what happens to Black babies. I don’t see how what the women did 20yo ago has ti do with right now. A lot of unwed mothers drop babies off because they aren’t ready to be a real parent and/or are selfish & running the streets. He only asked for custody after child support was set at $7k. He didn’t want to come out his pocket for 18 years. And they have joint custody so the judge didn’t think she was the worse of the two, he just ruled for the party who had the most $ and split baby in half.

    It’s not impossible that Ludicrous has bonded with & come to love his daughter but I think it’s fishy that he married spur of the moment & wife got conveniently pregnant since break baby was born. Stepmothers don’t usually cotton to kids born because their man cheated. What happens when the new prince/princess is born? Maybe break baby gets ignored because they’ll have their own child together. And men do things for spite. Tamika wouldn’t have an abortion so he decided to fix her. A man running around making babies haphazardly & lying about his income to shirk his lawful obligation is mainly concerned for himself & shouldn’t be nominated for father of the year.

    • curtis

      What happens to kids when they are with their mothers and stepfathers or mothers boyfriends? They get raped and mistreated many of the times

  • christianingrey

    This is sad, but he always kept it

  • lillyblu1

    The ATL judicial system is against African American women and if the father has money as Luda does they can pretty write their own ticket

  • Jules W.

    Did he take care of his first child as the primary parent? No Does he degrade women with his lyrics – yes Did he run around cheating on both women – yes Did he pay for the decision – yes This is not fair and equal justice and you would think black people would be up in arms. But when its a black woman that is treated like crap its not the black man’s problem. Sad!

  • debra waters

    Luda is a scum bag. That chick he married should also be ashamed of herself. Give the woman back her child. Some American Men of African Heritage should be looking in the mirror twice, the women they dehumanize the most Look like their mothers.

    • Jules W.

      well said

    • curtis

      The problem is it HIS child too. Half his, half hers

  • Lala

    I support you Tamika!! Even though it’s clear Ludacris’ PR team is out heavy on the comment boards. I pray for you and getting your daughter back.

    • curtis

      Why? Are you defending her just because she is a mother? What if Ludacris REALLY is the better parent? It’s all about what’s best for the child, which isn’t always the mom. Most times it is, but not always. Lala it is some EXCELLENT Dads out there.

  • Sarah Jane

    make up your mind people the same people saying she was getting 7k/month (105k total for 15 months ) are also saying she’s broke and doesn’t have a stable home since she’s moved apartments 3 times so she should lose custody lol. which one is it?

    • Kim

      It’s both. The fact that she was getting 7K a month and still could not create a stable living environment demonstrates that she is irresponsible with money and not acting in the child’s best interest.

      • Jennifer

        and where is any proof anywhere that was receiving 7k/month? I’ll wait….

        She ran thru 100k on what? she doesn’t have a house, I don’t see her in any designer clothes. maybe she’s stacking her millions in the Cayman Islands lol

  • pat m

    Reading this makes me so sad for her. If the judge really had the childs best interest at heart why not grant both of them custody. Money isn’t everything and karma will get Luda when he raises a child that hates him for pushing her mother aside.

    • curtis

      Why don’t people argue joint custody when the men lose these battles?

  • sweetbabyboo5

    I don’t believe any parent should have full custody unless there’s serious issues with one.

  • shaunnam5

    To those who say stupid things…like low income shouldn’t have kids, or, she was just a rebound n*t, or if she couldn’t afford to fight to give up, etc….. I call bullsh*t!!!! You don’t know what was said to her by him , and pregnancies happen even when your careful, and low income people are a lot times better parents, and her income post breakup should have nothing to do with whether she is the better choice for custody, and the whole point of child support is to level out the difference of income levels of both parents, so unless she is abusive, allows someone else to be abusive, a current alcoholic or drug users or homeless, or emotionally neglectful, there is NO reason for him to get full custody period!. Especially since his lifestyle takes him away from home more than hers takes her away from home! The whole point of shared parenting is to give both parents equal time with their child , if they can’t get along then the courts should step in, but just because he has a better house an income doesn’t make it better for her to live there, his lifestyle has a higher risk of negative effects for a child to grow up i need than a low income family does. Check the statistics. And speaking from experience it’s easier to replace a male role model than it is to replace the female, and that’s why i need general the mother gets custody.

    • thanos769

      She is basically homeless. She’s lived in three different homes in the last few months. She abandoned her first daughter to run to Cali with a drug dealer. Income is definitely a factor in who should get custody and the whole point of child support is to provide for the child. Not level out the difference in incomes.

      • Shelly

        so is she homeless or rich on 15 months of child support? make up your mind Tanya

      • Jules W.

        Just stop!

      • shaunnam5

        Did not know she had done those things and agree they make her less fit for custody, but as far as income goes, making less money should not decide who is more fit so long as she is a stable , loving parent, who has a job in order to provide stability and child support levels out income to provide for the child not for the mothers personal use is what I meant to say, it’s supposed to go to food cloths housing school sports etc

    • curtis

      The statistics are that kids that grow up in single parent homes are much more likely to commit crimes. Have you seen all these kids getting killed by their mothers lately just in the last couple of months?

      • shaunnam5

        I do not believe that being a good single parent leads to kids commiting crime, however having a absent or neglectful parent does, and more fathers commit violence than mothers

        • curtis

          Not in the black community. Most kids are killed by their mothers, because over 70% of the time (statistically true), fathers aren’t even around. I do agree with you that absent mother or father will lead to the likelihood that a kid will commit crime. I don’t care how good a single parent is, you can’t be mother AND father, and the two are irreplaceable.

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  • Wakando Shamar Taylor

    I see alot of people riding for this chick im not riding for her or luda they both got issues she rt he out promoting and doin other stuff and leaving her with third parties but aint this the chick that abandoned her other child/children to leave with her drug dealing boyfriend out of state and left them with family then moved back to atlanta and was back for nearly 3 years before her kids and her family knew she was back ? Her own family was against he!r if she keep her mouth shut and get her business together cause accusing the judge of being paid off aint going to get u no love from the courts she will eventually get a new trial

  • Tanya

    you keep calling her a gold digger (could you be a tad more original?) but you do realize she could have gotten WAY more money from Ludacris if she had the abortion right? He was talking about buying her a house giving her thousands of dollars, anything she wanted. She chose that baby because she didn’t want to have an abortion after she heard heartbeat. I read her essay and know a mother’s love. If she really was a “gold digger” she would have went into court asking for 30k/month. She didn’t do that did she? No she didn’t take him to court at all. HE took her to court and she responded by asking him to be open about his finances she never stated any specific amount. Very un-gold diggerish if you ask me

    • Happy

      @ Tanya she wouldn’t have gotten more money from getting an abortion. He would have given her maybe 50k. But she wanted a payday for the next 18yrs. Thank goodness she failed. For people see their children as a money making machine instead of getting an education then getting a job and bettering their life. So happy the judge saw through her bullshit.

      • tanya

        okay so if that’s the case why didn’t she take him to court immediately when her child was born and ask for 500k/month? dont’ worry I’ll wait

        • Happy

          @ Tanya she was already get 7k a month but she wanted 15k a month. That what got her in this situation. Besides she has been the only person talking all this while, Luda has not told us his own side of the story. And the person who usually runs first to the court of public opinion is usually the guilty one. Again she has visitation rights so I don’t know what she is ranting about. Besides Luda raised his first daughter and she turned out ok so that shows he is a good dad and can be trusted with his little girl. Tamika did a shity job with her first child so the chances of her doing the same with this Child is high

          • Monica

            where did you get that she was receiving 7k/month?? never she never got that. check your facts. why would a woman making 100k/month be working part time or struggling or living in a small apartment. stop believing everything you read and use common sense.

            • Monica

              sorry 105k/year. Tamika would have been overjoyed at even getting 3k/month to help with bills

              • Sarah

                and people keep bringing up her first child. the one she had in High School. hell I wouldn’t know what to do if I got pregnant at 18….I would be scared as hell and most definitely give it to my parents to raise until I matured as well. Teenage mothers are never ideal. But all Luda’s mistakes are fine. having unprotected sex with thousands of girls while on tour…making 3 more babies he doesn’t claim…passing on STD’s being a weekend daddy to Karma and cheating on all his girlfriends? and wanting Cai aborted then ignoring her for a year? oh yeah he’s a helluva guy.

                • sarah

                  let’s not forget all his date rape songs and has used B$#$% and H#@#$ more times than we can count. yeah would love to have him as a daddy.

                • thanos769

                  She was 20 and she supposedly left the child with her parents to run to Cali with a drug dealer. Then came back and didn’t contact the child for three years.

                • gapeach0614

                  Why put the child off on your parent? You make em, you raise em. Don’t have s*x unprotected if you don’t want kids. It’s that simple. Parents already have to provide for you and then you place another burden on them by handing them a baby to raise that was not created by them? Please! Girls do that all the time. They leave the kid to “better themselves” but end up making a new family with someone else meanwhile the first born is calling grandma Mommy.

              • thanos769

                Ludacris filed papers saying he made 25,000 a month. I’m sure that equates to two or three thousand a month. More than likely some girlfriends got in her ear and told her that the other mother of his child was getting $7000 so she asked for more and he took custody.

                • Sam

                  right she spent that 100k she got from him on Birkins bags. umm yawn…not

                  • thanos769

                    Never said she got 100K but even she said in her essay that she wanted to get paid like he was paying his other woman($7000 a month). The point is if he filed at 25K a month and the courts only gave her $1000 a month something is wrong with that calculation.

                  • thanos769

                    And even she admitted that the courts took her past transgressions into account when making the decision. She gave herself away when she said she’s been a good mother to her daughter for the last decade. Too bad her daughter is 20.

                • Sam

                  Luda only makes $300k a year? baaaahaaa yeah right. He wasn’t being honest and she called him on it

                  • thanos769

                    Yeah but then he raised her and look where it got her.

              • thanos769

                Isn’t Fuller the same woman who abandoned her first child to go run around the country with a drug dealer? Left the child with her parents and didn’t even tell them when she returned for 3 years? Moves from house to house?

            • Happy

              @monica well you don’t have the court documents so how do you know she didn’t get 7k every month. I read her first rant and no where in that long story did she deny reciving 7k. She said she wanted more money because he spent money on his other children. If it was a lie she would have denied reciving 7k since she likes talking. She had her first child at 17yrs ok we forgive her but how has her life changed from when she was 17 yrs till now that she is 40yrs, that is more than 25yrs later. Not much difference. Did she become a lawyer in 25yrs NO. Did she become a Doctor in 25yrs NO. Did she become an investment banker in 25yrs NO. Did she join the military in 25yrs NO. Did she get a college education in 25yrs NO. So you see her life has not changed much between now that she is 40yrs old and when she was 17yrs old. So do you see why the judge thinks she is not a fit parent ??

              • monica

                she did deny receiving 7k/month above. reading is fundamental. If she had $100,000 stacked in the bank from child support IN ATLANTA where everything is cheap why would she be working part time? why would the judge say she had no money to support her child? why would she have to move apartments 3 times? I feel like I’m dealing with Montessori School Drop Outs here. use common sense.

                • Happy

                  @monica you are the one who needs a lesson in reading and comprehension. Nowhere in her long rant did she explicitly deny getting 7k. What improvement has this woman made in her life in the past 25yrs? I will wait for your answer.

                  • Jules W.

                    She took care of the child for at least a year so what was the problem? He was not giving her that kind of money – that’s clear

                • thanos769

                  Common sense would tell you that she was getting more than just some woman who had a baby by a cop. And if she was only getting $1000 a month its because she couldn’t show the court any expenses. Ludacris is famous. Its well known that he’s a millionaire so how is it that she didn’t get a decent amount of money in support?

        • thanos769

          Because the courts don’t work like that. its child support not alimony.

  • Gina

    More men should seek custody of children born in these “payday” situations. Maybe then these gold diggers will think twice before “intentionally” getting pregnant for a check. This has become a career goal for young females nowadays. If the daddy is rich then it is like hitting the lottery. Of course this would mean that the man is willing to take custody of the child and will be a good father. It is really hard in a situation like this because in most cases the man does not want to be a father and the female only want the baby so she does not have to work. In the end, it is the child that suffers. I still think child support should be to take care of the child only and not the female. Most of the money should go in trust fund for the child. Gold diggers should not be rewarded. Just my opinion.

    • SingleSuccessfulMom

      Just my opinion. Not much in this case shows she is a golddigger. She has supported herself and the child without his help and only asked for him to be honest about his income so that he would fairly have to pay a reasonable amount to help so she didn’t have to work a million jobs. That isn’t wrong. There has been no proof of the gossip of her exact amount request so I won’t even go there but I am a single mom. I was engaged to his father when we found out and he bolted and I haven’t heard from him since. I work three jobs while trying to finish school. To be sure my son sees me enough I rarely sleep. I do everyhing in my power to give him a good life. This while his father is partying and going on trips like he is some frat boy instead of the man he is. People like you are why I have multiple jobs instead of one job and a fair portion of help from him. Because regardless of truth as soon as you see pregnant girl and guy with money you automatically assume golddigger. It isn’t possible one of us could actually love the guy we were with for something other than the money. I don’t believe all men should be kept from their children but I do believe men like this who are only using custody as leverage against a gilted ex should not be given the time of day.

      • thanos769

        She’s not an ex anything. He was paying her more than what she makes in a month. Its not his fault that she’s only bringing home $800 a month. If he told the courts how much he made she would surely get thousands a month. According to one article Ludacris told the courts he made $25,842 a month. How is she only walking away with $1000? Something isn’t adding up. I think she wasn’t happy with the two or three thousand she was getting because she probably heard that the other mother of his child was getting $7000. And in your situation why haven’t you taken the father to court?

        • SingleSuccessfulMom

          Well she is an ex lover if anything. But you are right it isn’t his fault she can’t make more than that herself. But depending on some factors that aren’t open to us it may not be totally hers either. For example, child care is expensive it can easily cost her entire paycheck just for that. Depending on where she lives there may not be many job openings with her skill sets in mind. It is expensive to raise a child. I easily spend a few thousand a month on just basic rent, car, food, gas, utilities, food, formula, clothes when he has growth spurts. I am not saying she most definitely isn’t trying to get more than what she needs…but I am saying as a mother I can see wanting to be secure for my child and not wanting to worry about being able to cover all the bills. Wanting the child to not want for anything.
          In my situation it would be a very political, very public issue in which I would most definitely be forced to give my child to a man that wanted my son aborted and I now do not trust. I did not know he was capable of feeling that way when we met and because I don’t trust him to take care of him I don’t find it worth risking putting my son in his care for financial security. I would rather take care of my child on my own.

          • thanos769

            First of all have you taken into account her past history? She abandoned her first child for years. She lives in Atlanta. The city with more wealthy blacks than anywhere else. I think the problem may be that she doesn’t have much of a skill set because she may have spent her early years just wilding out. Its expensive to live period but it doesn’t cost thousands for formula and clothes. The rest are bills we all have to pay if we’re responsible adults. I think the courts looked at her past history and her transient lifestyle and figured that with thousands in child support she’d leave the baby with some sitter while she went out and partied. Its one thing to hold a baby to get sympathy and an entirely different thing to actually be a good parent. I think the judge said we can leave the baby with Ludacris and know that she’ll have a good home or give this woman a bunch of his money and hope that she does the right thing with it and they chose Ludacris.

            • SingleSuccessfulMom

              I have. But as I have said before I believe in second chances where second chances are deserved. She has taken care of this child, held down a job, not partied so I don’t believe it is fair to assume just because she comes into some money that she will suddenly dump her child. I can’t speak for her reasoning with her first child but if she were under the influence of drugs it could account for the issues she was having then and just now doesn’t feel worthy to try to parent them. Cases like that have happened. All I know is that as much as I have seen with this particular child she is doing good by her. So I feel she deserves to be given the chance to keep her. Not just be given visitation and be put at risk of owing him child support because he is the primary care giver now…which is very legal and very plausible.

  • Jenn

    I think what’s going over everyone’s head is Luda doesn’t want that child. nobody is even talking about that, only about money. He only filed for custody after he realized he would have to pay actual child support. what a coinkadink…

    I know men who adore their kids…they’re at the birth, they’re not making their 9 month pregnant mother work full time, they are very involved in that child’s life. You mean to tell me for a whole year Luda didn’t give a rats az and now he does. Puleeeze

    • SingleSuccessfulMom

      My point exactly! Thank you! I am so tired of men dumping their girlfriends or fiances when an unexpected baby is on the way and then when they get tired of or scared of paying they decide as payback they will take the child. It isn’t right.

      • thanos769

        She was neither a girlfriend or a fiance. She was a one night stand. He never loved her and she never loved him. He’s entitled to custody just as much as she is.

  • Latosia

    The Gofundme account was just leaked today I think, therefore she has like $100 in a few hours. not really that laughable. you guys couldn’t get a penny in a month

  • Steddy

    I do not know this story at all but why are folks acting surprised that the more money you have, more benefits come along with it? Seriously folks, who says that the baby is worse off w/Luda or even Tamika for that matter? Obviously, the courts felt that baby Cai is better off w/her father…people automatically assume that the kids are better off w/the mother. A lot of women everyday, look for the proverbial payday by getting knocked up by a celebrity or otherwise wealthy person but gets the shock of their lives when that person actually steps up to the plate w/o direct benefit to the other parent…he uses nannies and other services that he can afford but she seems bothered that the baby isn’t w/her which prevents her from receiving the funds…

  • curtis

    She was definitely Hoisted by her Own Petard on this one. She threw a grenade, which hit the wall and bounced back and landed right in her lap. The old golddigger side piece routine didnt hit this time

    • SingleSuccessfulMom

      Tell me if she is a golddigger than how is it that she works full time. has apparently done so all her life. yet the thing he is currently with can mooch off of him and keep reproducing yet she isn’t a golddigger?

      • thanos769

        She thought she hit the jackpot but it back fired. Now she has no choice but to work.

        • SingleSuccessfulMom

          She has apparently always worked though..so I don’t see that as being the choice she is making only because she didn’t get some supposed pay day.

          • thanos769

            Its not a choice. Its a necessity that she’s hoping to avoid by getting the big pay day. You think she would keep working a $800 a month job is she were getting 7K a month from Ludacris?

            • SingleSuccessfulMom

              Maybe, maybe not. I can say I would.

  • thanos769

    She’s just upset because the courts took away her meal ticket. She thought she hit the gold digger lottery but Luda snatched the check right out of her hand. We don’t know if she’s a good parent or not but she’s getting the sympathy vote from women. The court decisions lean 99% in favor of women but a brother finally caught a break and its a tragedy. She’ll get visitation rights like any parent and there’s no reason for Ludacris to dish out thousands a month so this woman can live well above her means.

    • SingleSuccessfulMom

      She is upset because the court took away her child! A man that cares nothing for the child except how much it costs is sitting at home all day with a nanny instead of a mother who loves her. I would be upset too!

      • thanos769

        That’s her version of the story. The courts decided that it wasn’t totally true.

        • SingleSuccessfulMom

          No a man with power and a girl with a past decided. He has money and she has bad decisions from her past. She has done nothing but take care of this child what happened when she was younger and obviously not thinking rationally should not be a deciding factor. People do grow up and change.

      • thanos769

        Yet this is the same woman who abandoned her first child to go run the country with a drug dealer. Then moved back to Atlanta and didn’t contact the family or daughter for three years. The same woman who’s a transient who moves from house to house. The same woman who can’t get a good job.

        • SingleSuccessfulMom

          A mistake in the past no matter how great does not mean you are not worthy of a second chance. Also, do you know how hard it is to keep a good job when you are a single parent if you have no support system? No one reliable to watch the child while you are at work that doesn’t take your whole pay check to afford? Many businesses are eager to remove single mothers from their payroll.

          • thanos769

            You call it a mistake. I call it proof of not being responsible enough to be a primary parent. Abandoning a child is not a mistake and i’m sure in your situation you realize that and would not give your ex a second chance. I’m sure being a single mother is one of the hardest jobs in the world but there are terrible single mothers just like there are terrible dads. Everyday there is another story of mothers killing their kids, starving their kids, abandoning their kids. Just like every guy who makes a baby isn’t fit to be a father; every woman who delivers a baby isn’t fit to be a mother. If this woman stepped forward and said she didn’t want support like you are doing I might believe that she was sincere but the elephant in the room is that if she gets custody, she gets rich. She was bad off 20 years ago when she had here first child and she’s bad off now at 40. What has she done to improve her situation? Where’s the first father? What’s a 40 year old, struggling, single mother doing allowing herself to get pregnant in the first place? That in itself shows irresponsibility.

  • Happy

    Nobody has given her a dime on her go fund me page hahahahaha. People can see she is a joke. Go and and get a job loser. She wants to teach women how to take care of themselves, she needs to take care of her self first.

  • Kay

    She has gotten only 25 dollars in 3days I am happy people can see through her bullshit. Gold digger. Next time if you don’t have enough money to have a child then use a condom stupid

    • Jules W.

      Now go to the mirror and repeat those words to yourself.

  • Lola

    we’re sympathetic because THE FATHER DID NOT WANT THE CHILD. did you read her essay? Right now he’s on a huge press run and isn’t spending anytime with her, he’s been in ATL what no days this month and 5 days last month? She’s with the nanny 24/7. That’s why we side with the mother because the mother wants the child and Luda just took the child in spite so he wouldn’t have to pay anymore child support and because he hates her for having the child. Which parent would you rather be with? the one who cries herself to sleep without you in her arms, or the man whose completely indifferent and didn’t even show up for the birth. C’mon now with all this “men deserve custody too” yes some men but not THIS man.

    • curtis

      He doesnt deserve custody becuase he is currently working? Trying to provide for his child? You do get that he wont always be this busy. This is probably his last Fast and Furious movie and he likely wont make another album for another 2 to 3 years at least. So are you saying that whoever has the most time should automatically get the child?

      • Jules W.

        Yes, that is what she is saying!

    • thanos769

      Why not? His life is no different than the many female actors and entertainers who have children and are on the road most of the time. We’re only hearing her side of the story and that’s a questionable side at best.

      • Jules W.

        Usually those mothers take the kids on the road with them. Is the daughter who he cares about so much on the road with him?

    • Jules W.

      Well said!

  • John Milton

    Wow, after almost a century completely filled with women automatically getting custody and stealing children from their fathers (where they are usually much better off) this woman cannot get ANOTHER trial, without any showing of anything wrong with the first one. Oh, the men of America are sooooooo sympathetic.

    • Jules W.

      Its funny that men who treat women like second class citizens decide they want the kids all of a sudden and get them. So lets talk about who has more rights.

  • ibdw

    The worst of it is that this child is growing up without her real mom on a daily basis. Most definitely Euxodie is not going to love her bc she was conceived by another woman with her man during a break. Besides she is pregnant with her own child. I think it is definitely going to affect this child for some time. I do feel sorry for Tameka and I hope she wins custody of the child back. Regardless to what happened when she was younger with the 1st child people change and mature. If she was being a good mother to the child than why take her? Doesn’t seem fair to me. Sounds like politics and money got involved in this situation.

    • curtis

      So, in your opinion, men should not have equal rights as a woman when it comes to custody? The child should automatically go to mom?

      • SingleSuccessfulMom

        A man that didn’t even attend the birth of his child and has had nothing to do with said child except the child support payments should not have equal rights to the mother that has always been there for the child no.

        • thanos769

          Plenty of fathers don’t attend their child’s birth and we have only her word as to whether or not he has had anything to do with the child.

          • SingleSuccessfulMom

            So my ex fiance that has done the same thing has the right to take me to court someday for full custody? Even though he has made no effort to see the child? That is good to know thanks.

            • thanos769

              Every parent has the right to apply for full custody. Especially if they can prove that the other parent is not raising the child properly or in the proper environment. Your ex may not make any effort to see the child but hypothetically if you were a drug addict, constantly abandoned the child, or abused the child he could definitely get custody.

              • SingleSuccessfulMom

                I do see that point. But in this case I haven’t heard anything specific supposedly showing her unfit. Have I just missed it or is it something that was claimed but “can’t be discussed” which tends to mean the claims are crap.

              • SingleSuccessfulMom

                Something I didn’t think of at first when I was replying…many states actually have laws regarding abandonment wherein for a set amount of time if the father has no contact with the child or refuses to comply with helping the mother he loses right the custody and only has parental rights to support the child. Visitation or custody become the mother’s decision and no one elses.

                • curtis

                  Do you believe that the only a way a mother should lose custody is she is unfit? What if she is fit to be a mother, but the father is a better fit for the child? We, especially in the black community, don’t value fathers AT ALL and we worship mothers. We are the only race like that.

                  • Jules W.

                    Because usually fathers are deadbeats in the black community. And yes mom should be first in line. She carried the kid for 10 months and gives birth. When men can do that then you can ask for primary.

  • Simone Mackey

    That is foul

  • Sheila

    Eudoxie is the one who doesn’t work and walks around with Hermes Birkin, Celine and Saint Laurent bags – if anything she’s the gold digger. Tamika’s been working full time since she was 18 years old and doesn’t wear designer ish. Just stop

    • curtis

      She is automatically a golddigger because she is with a rich man? And likes shopping?

  • Attny Carol

    7k a month for 15 months (Cai’s age) is $105,000 so why would she be broke and the judge say she was only making $800/month? Why would she even be working full time or part time if she made 100k/year. Think people think.

    • Trisha_B

      Child support is not income. You need to rethink everything you just implied

    • thanos769

      You just explained her whole reason for wanting custody. She doesn’t want to work. There are plenty of men with normal income who get custody and the women don’t even fight it because there is no great amount of money to be had.

  • Attny Carol

    Tamika would have been over the moon if she got 7k/month. That’s how much he gives his other daughter Karma’s mother. Just use common sense if she got that much money why would she be struggling financially living in several different apartments and having to borrow his car because she couldn’t afford to get hers fixed. DUH

    • thanos769

      But this is exactly what she wants and what she thought she was going to get. If she’s only making $800 a month and moving from apartment to apartment she SHOULDN’T get custody. How is she the better option with her financial situation and history of not being able to care for a previous child?

      • SingleSuccessfulMom

        Because she shouldn’t be having to live off of that. The man that created that child should have to be equally financially responsible regardless of if he wants to be part of its life or not.

        • thanos769

          Its called CHILD support. Not mother support. He’s done her a favor by relieving her of all financial responsibility. We don’t know if he wants to be part of the child’s life or not and I’m definitely not going to take the word of the scorned mother. And the child support is never equal. She could never contribute what he can dollar wise.

          • SingleSuccessfulMom

            The point of child support is to help the parent, usually the mother, that has custody of the child. The fact he had nothing to do with her until she asked for help should tell you his real motives here. Men like him are the same. They use women and regardless of if the woman is ok with it at the time or not they are still responsible for equally supporting the child they created. The child doesn’t need a mansion or bentley as a toddler. But like all mothers she wants to be able to take care of her, to be able to stay in one affordable but safe place. That isn’t too much to ask. He tried to buy that child’s death. He shouldn’t be allowed anywhere near her.

            • thanos769

              No. The point of CHILD support is to cover a fraction of the cost brought on by the child. Its not to put the mother in a new car, or a new home. If she can’t provide for the child on her own she shouldn’t be having kids. He was paying her court ordered child support. She wanted more and he took custody. This woman has a terrible history with her first child that she abandoned and I’m sure that went into the court’s decision.

            • curtis

              So what if a woman has an abortion on her record? Should she not be able to ever have a kid because she aborted one before?

  • Attny Carol

    Luda was giving her $1000/month in child support. She stepped to him and told him she was having financial trouble and if she could get a little more. He was pissed then took her to court, so she counter filed and never asked for 7k or 15k she just asked for him to be honest with the court about his income. She NEVER got 7k/month or even close to that. Check with the courts

    • Angie

      MOST attorney’s I KNOW would NEVER comment on a gossip site about a OPEN COURT CASE NOR ! Tsk, Tsk!

      • Attny Carol

        I’m in law school and not even attached to this case in any professional manner so really don’t give a flying F. But all you have to do is follow the trial to know wzup. And I’m a feminist which is why I care

    • Angie

      NOR do they have the time to comment. Their USUALLY busy at 2pm-3pm in the afternoon in a judges chambers or court room.

      • Jules W.

        Check the facts – you might be surprised!

    • thanos769

      If she was asking him to be honest about his income she WAS asking for 7K or 15K because that’s how much she would have gotten. This woman has been in financial trouble long before she had the baby. She saw this as her golden ticket.

      • Jules W.

        How do you know? Were you in court? Did you personally read the filings?

        • thanos769

          She stated in her essay that she wanted child support like the other woman was getting which is $7000.

  • Naima

    GAPeach0614 = Sandra Rose if you guys didn’t know

    • gapeach0614

      Aww y’all must really like me and my opinions! Y’all forgot all about the topic at hand and focused on me. Keep it coming and I’ll do the same with my comments!

      • Jules W.

        Hi Sandy. Your pimp called and said you are needed

        • gapeach0614

          Nah I’m your pimp. Where’s my money?

  • MC12

    I love how everyone here is so mad because father won the custody battle. Why did she ask so much money in child support? 7K wasn’t enough? This is her own fault.

    Did Luda win because he’s rich? So what? Usually women win custody battles simply because they’re women.

    It’s not like Luda is taking her away from Tamika. She has visitation rights.

    • MonicaElise

      She denied getting 7k or asking for 15k in the article above. Said those were rumors. Don’t know if it’s true. Just pointing it out.

    • Angie

      DADDIES have rights too!

      • Jules W.

        When daddies give birth then they have rights. Until then take a seat!

        • Nikki

          Your daddy issues are showing.

          • Libera_Free

            Very much so, that’s what I mentioned above.

        • Angie

          AS STUPID AND IGNORANT AS YOU SOUND….STOP PUBLICIZING IT!!! REALLY, STOP!!! ITS NOT EVEN FUNNY TO PRETEND TO BE AS STUPID AS YOU ARE!!!!

          • Jules W.

            Who is sounding stupid and ignorant with their comments? You.

  • Linda M.

    God got something for you Ludacris, and it ain’t heaven

    • thanos769

      God gave him custody.

      • Jules W.

        No a crooked judge and the devil did that one

    • Libera_Free

      You don’t curse people in the name of the father. With that comment you need to be concerned about your own salvation.

  • Linda M.

    ugggh I hate him, absolutely abhor him. He is evil for this

  • Shalinda

    sending you prayers Tamika. Be strong!

  • Shalinda

    I ride for Tamika all day. She is a beautiful spirit and her essay was totally heartfelt and real. I see these pics of her and her daughter and haven’t seen not ONE of Ludacris and Cai. Perhaps he’s too busy promoting his new movie to take Cai to the aquarium, or the park, or the zoo, or well anywhere

    • nick

      Probably has her in a room with a nanny all day….besides, do you really think Excalibur wants another baby to shine before hers???Everybody is so fixated at this child’s conception(i.e. sidepiece, no protection, golddigger, etc., ) but no one says anything about him being a better parent emotionally…just financially

    • curtis

      So because you havent personally seen pic of Luda and his daughter, that means she deserves the kid over him?

      • gapeach0614

        A pic means nothing! It’s worth 1000 words but doesn’t tell the story

        • Jules W.

          He said it did with his first daughter when all these pics showed up all of a sudden cause he wanted custody.

          • gapeach0614

            Yawn!! Several comments later you’re still attacking me. Go to bed!

  • nick

    The only way she’ll get her baby is if he dies, or has some huge amount of conscience, or if Exodus just plain doesn’t want her, or when she runs away at 13….he has the money, PERIOD, & apparently rich musician dads in Atlanta have clout with the legal system….She needs big, big money and a Gloria Allred to get her baby back….its sad, but true…I hope she continues to try though…her daughter will know she did….

    • Sarah

      speak the truth! You know Eudoxie looking at that child with a side eye. No love will be felt. You see Eudoxie uploading all these photos of HER pregnancy. not one mention of Cai. that poor girl is going to grow up to be traumatized in that household.

      • Trisha_B

        Why would Eudoxie post on the child? Has Luda? Maybe they are keeping this baby private to protect her from all this craziness. B/c if Eudoxie posts on the baby, you guys will only dissect the picture & turn it into something negative smh. Stop looking at social media & small snap shot into people’s lives to explain things b/c often times it won’t work. There are people who posts pics of their kid all the time & don’t take care of them. Luda doesn’t even post on his oldest daughter

  • Kenya

    Sandra Rose’s piece on this hearing was totally wrong. It’s not even remotely what happened. I think Luda has her on payroll and his publicist leaks whatever they think sounds best to her. She is not reliable whatsoever

  • gigli

    Men
    get done like this all the time, just cause it’s a woman it’s sad or a
    shame. Please knock it off, maybe next time she won’t be so greedy.

    • gameer

      THANK YOU! Its all tears now.

    • Angie

      PRICELESS!!

  • Unity ForeverForward Johnson

    I have no sympathy for her considering she already has a child she can’t afford to take care of. Why isn’t she fighting to be a good parent to both her children? Go to school, get a trade, join the reserves, something to show you can and want to do better by your CHILDREN. Then come back and fight for custody. It might work in your favor then.

    • gapeach0614

      My thoughts exactly!

      • Angie

        MINES TOO!

    • MonicaElise

      You’re absolutely right that she needs to get her sh*t together financially but I still empathize with the heartbreak of losing her child and I hope she can do what it takes to get her back.

      • kiss

        Dang! She din’t loose her child! The child is just with HER father! sshe’s not dead!Stop it!

        • MonicaElise

          I meant lose in terms of custody not death

          • thanos769

            She’s not the best option so the child isn’t with her. She has visitation rights. This would happen in many more cases if the father had the means to take primary custody.

    • Angie

      THANK YOU!

  • primer

    sandra rose posted on this Friday, she has a more in depth as to why the motion was denied…

  • Kiki

    if you guys notice gapeach is not commenting anywhere else on MN….he/she is only on the Tamika strings….I think he’s either part of Luda’s legal team or PR team. No other reason they would be so heavily invest in solely hating on this poor woman who lost her child to a man that had never visited his baby or was there for birth. insane logic

    • gapeach0614

      Lol thanks for the acknowledgement! I love how my opinions greatly impact you guys! Follow me why don’t ya since you’re so intrigued by what I comment on.

      • Jules W.

        You need help!

        • gapeach0614

          You do too. Look at how you’re insulting me on EVERY COMMENT!

  • Raze

    I want to feel sorry for her, but I just…can’t. Let’s just wait and see how this will turn out.

  • Jenna Potts

    Joint custody maybe????

    • txgrits

      I read that they do have joint custody he has primary custody. So she does get to see her daughter..

      • Angie

        She ONLY mad she not getting a FAT pay-check!!! GOD don’t make mistakes!

    • curtis

      Why don’t people argue joint custody when it’s the woman that has primary custody? No one cares about fathers, which is sad

  • Trillary Banks

    I just hope she doesn’t give up or give in. Bring Cai back to her mom.

    • curtis

      What if Ludacris is the better parent for real?

    • Nikki

      Why, so she can put her through the same emotional damage that she put her 1st child through? Her first daughter tried to testify for her but ended breaking down and crying about how her mother abandoned her.

      • Libera_Free

        They don’t want to acknowledge that because they want to discredit Ludacris. Wait until this Woman’s first child comes out and speaks on her mother. Then what will be the excuse. Cause you know the more she speaks out the more networks are going to try to reach out to her first child.

  • Aj

    Good for him! It’s not going the way she planned with the big fat check (my baby’s daddy is rich sceme) she knew she was a side piece, who wanst a side piece to have a kid for them, nobody if he is rich or not!

    • gapeach0614

      Amen!

    • Angie

      THANK YOU!

  • Tesla

    gapeach are you Eudoxie in disguise? I noticed you ALL over the comment boards on that essay Tameka wrote. You had like 200 comments. just curious your huge investment in this matter and your severe dislike in a woman you claim not to know. in any event count me in for a donation, if I lost my child because I was out of work or cut back to spend time with my daughter I woud be livid with the courts. Fight Tameka!

    • gapeach0614

      Oh so you’re a fan. You’ve noticed my comments. Hey there!
      Idk this woman. I find this story interesting is all. As long as the articles keep coming, I’ll keep commenting. I’ll be sure to continue to entertain you. Have a great day!

      • Jules W.

        Tell your daddy to take care of you Eudoxie. What about all those sibs you got. Where the daddy at?

        • gapeach0614

          same place your daddy is

    • Angie

      WHO in they RIGHT mind CO-SIGNS this FOOLERY!!! LUDA was famous when this chic met him…WHY DID SHE BELIEVE SHE WAS DIFFERNT from ALL the other groupies????

      • gapeach0614

        She fell for that sob story essay that’s all lol

        • Angie

          AGAIN…..She is TOO OLD for that…When your younger and have no life experience I will have empathy BUT this chic HAS kids ALREADY and let a KNOWN NON-COMMITTED RAPPER hit RAW….EVERYTHING ABOUT this says….PAY-DAY!!!

  • gapeach0614

    Advise women to use protection next time. She made it clear that her income was still low after returning to work full time. She already can’t afford to fight this battle.

    • COGal

      Good parents never stop fighting. By your assertions, no low-income or poor people shouldnt have children. I agree that you shouldnt have kids that you arent prepared to care for, but you can’t base that entirely on income. Wealthy people also neglect and abuse their kids.

      Stop worshipping this rapper’s money. His financial status shouldnt be the sole qualifier. Shared custody is what’s best in this situation.

      Oh, and btw, Mr. Bridges should take your advice regarding protection. ALL of his kids have different mothers.

      • gapeach0614

        Who’s worshipping his money? Does it not take money to feed, house, clothe, and care for a child? Children can’t live off love alone. And you’re right, low income women shouldn’t have children. If you can’t afford to feed yourself then why have unprotected s*x knowing the possible outcome? She knew their friendship was nothing more than a rebound n*t. They’re both too old for this s***. This lady is in her 40s. She didn’t have her first child for the first few years. Wtf was she doing? She wasn’t trying to better herself by going to school, joining the military, or working. Having a child young isn’t an excuse to put the kid off on your parents; Your child, your responsibility.

        • COGal

          You speak like you were laying on bed right beside them! You can only hope, right? LOL

          Maybe you should’ve reached over and strapped it on for Luda..then neither one of them would be in this mess! LOL

          But that beautiful baby girl is here now and she needs to have equal access to both parents. Clearly you believe that you are perfect in life as well everyone else should be.

          All Women have the right to control their wombs. Some unfortunately continue to breed themselves into further poverty, but alot change their circumstances for the better.

          Make sure when you speak on the poor not having kids you include Men…who tend to have multiple kids living in multiple homes.

          You always troll on here. You’re either a kid..young-minded..a bitter male.. but Im not engaging with you any further

          • gapeach0614

            Well if you don’t like what I say then by all means, please scroll past me. Like I said, I’ll continue to keep you entertained since you seem to be so intrigued by my OPINIONS. I must’ve really ruffled some feathers! Tsk tsk. You let a complete stranger’s opinions get to you lol. Again, have a great day!

            • Jules W.

              You need to go home and take care of yours.

              • gapeach0614

                Jules I see you’re a fan too! You made it a point to insult me on every comment in the wee hours of the morning. I’m on your mind so hard you can’t sleep lol. Unlock the door so I can entertain you til you doze off. Call me all the insults you want. Idk you nor do I care to. Keep em coming. I’ll be sure to do the same with my comments. Muah!

          • alani

            Yes ignore this person who is playing God. Her attitude is one similar to Margaret Sanger, a Eugenicist who over saw the sterilization of Native and black women. Sanger was also the founder of Planned Parenthood which is located by every Urban School in America. It is not just about income for them it is about race. This society first does not educate young people about Birth Control and then punishes them, by allowing them to fall into poverty. This is a society that spends billions of dollars on wars, while their own citizens are uneducated and living in poverty. That is the real shame. I hope that these people will sit down and work out an agreement as that child needs both parents. Ignore the troll!

            • txgrits

              interesting you say that this society doesn’t educate young people about BC, but there’s a planned parenthood by all the urban schools? that’s kinda of an oxymoron isnt it? Regardless of someones income level and background at some point in their lives they have seen what’s right and wrong, how to use protection, and know what your self worth is. Even young adults..

              • Angie

                SOCIETY is NOT RESPONSIBLE for people’s BAD CHOICES! Folks all on facebook and twitter….hollering: Im grown, I got my own, I don’t need nobody BUT they the FIRST ones to get a check, food stamps, section 8 and say my baby daddy aint SHYT……YOU PICKED EM!!!

                • txgrits

                  I wasnt sayin society is to blame for anything, i was responding to the previous person comment saying how this society doesnt educate young adults. I agree that people should be held accountable for their actions, no matter they age.

                  • Angie

                    My apology…I misunderstood! Have a Wonderful Day! 🙂

              • alani

                By the time a young woman gets to Planned Parenthood she is already having sex. They dispense birth Control Pills, IUD’s, and Abortions. I have no problem with young people using protection (condoms), it is the pills and the IUD’s. Please do some research on the Dalkon Shield which was dispensed through Planned Parenthood in the 1970’s. Many inner city women were rendered sterile with that IUD. In fact it was tested at John Hopkins University and their subjects were African American women from the Inner Cities of Baltimore. Many of them died or were rendered sterile, even before Planned Parenthood started giving it to young women. Planned Parenthood is there to maintain the status quo which is why you will only see them in poor and disenfranchised neighborhoods. If they really cared they would provide education to mothers who decide to keep their children.

                • txgrits

                  So what they dispense multiple forms of BC, everyone has a CHOICE it what they will allow. And as far as educating young women.. that’s a parents role, if a parent isnt available, some family member, church member, school teacher, hell they can even google to find out how to educate themselves. young women and everyone you choose to have sex should be held accountable for their own actions, point blank…

                  • alani

                    You and I disagree! I am sure that the Jewish People would not want anyone associated with Hitler to dispense medical advice to them. Do you know that Margeret Sanger and other White Supremicist helped the Germans Sterilize Jews. I am sure that the Jews would not approve of any medical care that Hitler supported. Who ‘Inspired’ the architects of the German Sterilization law?

                    “The leaders in the German sterilization movement state repeatedly that their legislation was formulated after careful study of the California experiment as reported by Mr. Gosney and Dr. [Paul] Popenoe. It would have been impossible, they say, to understake such a venture involving some 1 million people without drawing heavily upon previous experience elsewhere.” (2) Who is Dr. Paul Popenoe? He was a leader in the U.S. eugenics movement and wrote (1933) the article ‘Eugenic Sterilization’ in the journal (BCR) that Margaret Sanger started. How many Americans did Dr. Popenoe estimate should be subjected to sterilization? Between five million and ten million Americans. “The situation [in the U.S.A] will grow worse instead of better if steps are not taken to control the reproduction of mentally handicapped (meaning Blacks and Native Americans). Eugenic sterilization represents one such step that is practicable, humanitarian, and certain in its results.”

                    Where does this fit in with the Bible stating to be fruitful and multiply? It is sad to see us rallying behind the racist agendas promoting genocide against our own people!

                    • txgrits

                      yes we do disagree… your speaking on matters that happened ages ago in Germany, I’m talking about present day 2015 matters here in the US. and present day.. everyone has a choice in what is done to their bodies.. what they should be held accountable for, point blank… And I am well away of Margeret Sanger contributions.. i wrote a term paper on it.

                • curtis

                  You mentioned Pills and IUDs. What about the at-least 10 other birth control options available to women?

            • curtis

              Im sorry but Black women know about birth control. They just dont take it.

              • Jules W.

                What about men – snip snip 15 minutes in the doctors office is all it takes. Why can’t you guys take care of that one? Why is it all on the women but yet you turn around and say the mother does not have more rights?

            • thanos769

              They have an agreement. He’s the primary parent and she has visitation rights.

              • Jules W.

                Correction – the nanny and new wife are the primary caregivers.

            • Shakespeare’sMuse

              The idea that PP is located primarily in predominantly Black areas is a lie. Black women do not have more abortions than White woman & Margaret Sanger fought for women to have access to birth control so as to control their reproductive output. Yes, she was a Eugenist, so were many people during that period of time. Ever heard of Phrenology? That was a popular movement as well in early 20th century. Look it up. Sanger was a controversial person but many of her comments sre taken out of place to suit certsin agendas. And abortions are only 3% of what PP does!

              Poor women, unmarried women need access to birth control & abortion if they choose. A womwn/man who can’t afford kids shouldn’t be populating the world with their offspring. Kids shouldn’t be raised on welfare, food stamps, WIC, ABC vouchers or live in the projects. I know single, never married women who have 6, 7, 8 kids, no money or job, living from pillar to post, dropped out of school and all they care about is the next man they’re gonna lay up with. Children born haphazardly are victims of neglect & exploitation. Poverty is the greatest evil & disadvantage in this world.

              And our schools don’t have a PP located in every building & barely teach sex educstion. If more Black men/women used common sense, discipline, determination, respect & self love, out of wedlock births & poverty rates would decline in our community. How would that be a bad thing?

          • curtis

            Very true (regarding the men with multiple kids in multiple homes). I remember watching the special about the man with 34 kids. You may have seen this too. Another guy had like 28, and said many of the baby mothers KNEW they had lots of kids before they themselves got pregnant. Its a trip lol

            • COGal

              I know before the end of my lifetime we will probably start seeing real attempts to legislate sterilizing deadbeat parents. And Ill vote for it everyday for someone who has double digit kids and can’t provide.

              34 kids?! Outrageous.

              • Kimberly Campbell

                The man that had 34 kids was a movie producer and sent every mother money, but did not see the last child. So, don’t use him as an example.

                • COGal

                  Why do people continue to mention money!?

                  No damn parent with 34 kids can spend the QUALITY TIME it takes to parent kids! I’ve never heard a successful, moral person talk about the amount of $ a parent threw at them.

                  If $ defined good parents then how can you explain rich kids who overdose on drugs, or kill their parents in their sleep.

                  My mother is gone and she provided a very comfortable life for us. NONE of my memories of her have anything to do with $.

                  That’s what this baby is going to yearn for. Her Dad may be a great father, but a bond with your mother is something entirely different.

                • curtis

                  Oh! So because he sent money means everything is okay? Part of the problem is women like you see fathers as nothing more than someone to pay for stuff. Think he had time to spend with all those kids? Some of those kids HATE him

        • Aj

          And you are so right.

          • gapeach0614

            Thank you! There are 3 sides to a story. Gotta look at it from all angles. Use a c*ndom! Its that simple

            • Angie

              IF she ALREADY have kids that she cant raise WHY have MORE? She is TOO old to try and point fingers! SHE KNOW BETTER…She know how babies are MADE….Its her body, her life and her decision….NOW SHE MUST LIVE WITH IT!!!

              • gapeach0614

                Right! That’s what I’m saying. She was probably gonna put this child off on her parents like she did her first one. At 40+ you should know better.

              • Jules W.

                You might want to watch what you say you may get that same attitude back one day!

                • Angie

                  PLEASE GET AN EDUCATION AND COMMON SENSE BEFORE YOU MAKE A PUBLIC COMMENT….I SURE HOPE YOU ARE NOT BLACK!!! PLEASE LAWD…I HOPE YOU DIDNT FINALLY MAKE A MISTAKE!!!

        • Kimberly Campbell

          Gape,
          You’re an idiot!!! Where in the world did you read that she was going to pawn her child off onto someone else? Ludacris is allowing a third party person to care for their daughter and I guess that is okay because he has the money? So, if she wants attention from daddy all he has to do is go out and buy her something really nice instead of paying attention to her, right? You’re absolutely right kids can’t live off of love alone, but who’s to say she can’t afford to take care of her daughter? You don’t know what kind of work she does. All she said is that she doesn’t have the kind of money that Ludacris does, and by my calculations it does not take millions to raise one child!!!

          • gapeach0614

            It takes more than $800/month. And why the name calling? That’s so unnecessary. She would have to put the child in the care of someone else for at least 8-10 hours in order to provide for her. It’s called daycare…. right or wrong? She mentioned she’s back working full time but is still behind on bills because she keeps fighting an expensive battle she already lost. Ummmm…. doesn’t sound like she can afford to care for the child to me. This woman isn’t stable but still has some custody of the child. The father is and has full custody… the right choice. Case closed.

            • Jules W.

              And the know it all has spoken. What would the world do without people like you? Stir the pot hon -its what gets you going right?

              • gapeach0614

                The world needs people like me to keep people like you entertained.

        • kitahowell

          She was in high school and her parents helped her briefly while she was in college bettering herself… She works to take care of her child. Luda didn’t help her at all while she was pregnant or during the first year of the child’s life. The ony factor in this case was that she was not a millionaire… But can’t afford lawyer fees that are 100,000 eiher… Tamika don’t give up just keep God first!!!

      • Herm Cain

        Stop playing ignorant you know his status wasn’t the sole qualifier this is the same woman who lost custody of a previous as well as got greedy and unreasonable on top of being broke Ludas had custody of his oldest daughter and it seems she’s raised just fine stop being emotional logically the child’s better off with the dad

        • COGal

          You and gapeach0614 riding this dude harder than Women! You know all this personal info first-hand?

          I didnt say income was the sole qualifier..read it again slowly. I said it shouldnt be the only qualifier to judge a parents abilities.

          Ole knee-jerk-reaction-paying-child-support-negro.

          It’s hilarious how you and other bitter betties see this as some sort of victory, but it hasnt changed your situation in the least! LOL

          • thanos769

            Income isn’t the sole qualifier and it wasn’t in this case. I’m sure the judge looked at her situation and her history and decided that Ludacris was the better option. Why can’t women accept that?

            • gapeach0614

              Right!!!!! Just because a woman gives birth doesn’t make her a good/fit mother.

              • Jules W.

                True – look at yours. It shows she did not do a good job.

                • gapeach0614

                  Yours didn’t either. Takes one to know one huh?

            • COGal

              The best option is shared custody. If there are CURRENT concerns of abuse/neglect then I can certainly understand.

              If this mother still has visitation those concerns clearly don’t exist. Now, if the baby isnt being cared for or provided for properly when she’s with her mother that’s when I question sharing custody.

              • curtis

                Would you say the best option is shared custody if SHE would have won primary custody? Or are fathers chopped liver?

                • COGal

                  Read all my posts stalker. I’m always advocating shared custody when both parents are appropriate.

                  I never understood why courts give primary to one & visitation to the other. Why only visitation?

                  If there’s unsupervised visits then clearly there are no safety concerns. If parents live on the same city they can both ensure that kids get to school, doctor appointments, etc. I know divorced parents that have equal time.

                  • curtis

                    Totally agree

            • Jules W.

              Because its an unfair decision. The next time you guys get your behind beat by that cop don’t come calling to the ladies to help you. Just accept it.

              • curtis

                Those guys getting beat by the cops were all raised in single parent homes with no fathers. We see the consequences

            • Libera_Free

              They don’t want to accept it because they have daddy issues.

      • curtis

        The ultimate burden on whether kids are or are not born is up to the woman, not the man. Women have over 10 different forms of birth control, men have one, which is statistically the least reliable. Poor people shouldnt have kids, and if they choose to, they shouldnt look to the government to help. Its time people be more responsible.

        • gapeach0614

          This woman is in her 40s and still struggling.

          • Jules W.

            And? Your point? Most of America is struggling

            • gapeach0614

              Yep. I’ll be sure to set you up a gofundme

        • COGal

          Curtis keep your little brain in your pants. Don’t let those gold diggin ladies trap you becuz you lack self control and discipline.

          • curtis

            True, but many of these women ALSO lack self control and discipline…..which may be worse because they are the ones that get stuck with the kids

            • COGal

              I don’t see kids as a burden…a big damn responsibility, but not a burden.

              Women get the kids and Men get the bills. LOL ….that’s the burden with none of the enjoyment your kids can bring.

              Those back child support burdens never expire..even after kids are adults. I couldnt live with the stress of that hanging over my head everyday.

        • Shann Fox

          Men can choose to NOT have sex with women they do not know and do not feel is “mother” material.

          • curtis

            Yes, and she could have chose to not have sex with him. Same thing.

          • nick

            They can but they don’t…they can call women ‘Thots” and other sexually degrading names, but that is what they want to sleep with, look at on a pole, on Porn….skin, twerking, big boobs, not school teachers and astronaunts….they take those home to mom and keep the freaks hidden, on the side, just like Luda did…he has known this girl since high school, and whatever her motives may or may not have been, he has more to lose than she does…a man with wealth should ALWAYS protect HIMSELF! PERIOD! TRUST NO ONE when it comes to reproductive organs, PLUS the fact it could be fatal!

        • Jules W.

          You guys can get sterilized and that’s totally up to you. You have condoms that can be easily purchased in the store. Stop the copouts.

    • Angela Rea

      So it’s all up to the woman huh? Men and women should both use protection! Can’t blame one without the other it takes two to make a baby not one! And how many women get into a relationship with a man get pregnant and the man bolts and does nothing to help. Maybe sex should be against the law unless your married and have a stable income. At least this woman went back to work and is making an effort to support her and the child but with the custody battle and lawyer fees is what is making it hard for her. It seems to me your just a bitter person with nothing better to do.

      • gapeach0614

        Why does everyone think I’m bitter?! And how would the law control ones s*x life? Please! I have nothing to be bitter about. This is Tamika’s problem not mine. Im not the one out there r*w f***ing celebrities. People act like it’s a crime this man has custody of a child he helped bring into this world regardless of whether he wanted the child or not.

        • Angela Rea

          There is nothing wrong with the father wanting be with the child, what is wrong is when the parents can’t come to an agreement for the child’s sake and do what’s best for the child which in most cases the child should be with both parents and share custody. I see to many parents use the child as a way to hurt the other parent and that hurts the child as much as the other parent. And men do this just as much as women do. And i think your bitter because your making it all the woman’s fault and saying that it should be up to them to use birth control when it is just as much the man too. Any birth control can fail nothing is 100%.

          • gapeach0614

            She has some custody of her child. Obviously by the pics you see her spending time with her. It’s not like her mother is completely out of her life.
            Nobody is blaming the woman 100%. If you read the article (which I’m sure you didn’t) the last question asked the attorney if she had any advice for other women out there fighting the same battle. Sure birth control isn’t 100%. Who’s to say any precaution was taken? You nor I know what or who all has been in this woman. They both know better but due to irresponsibility and lack of common sense, these are the end results.

          • thanos769

            The court made what they felt was the best decision for the child’s sake. To live with the father.

            • Jules W.

              A paid for decision which was unfair. Why not shared custody?

          • Jules W.

            Well said Angela!

    • Jules W.

      Yup, its people like you that are a good ad for birth control!

      • gapeach0614

        Your mom should’ve swallowed you

    • debra waters

      he can afford to pay a descent child support. The rules are always different when it comes to women of African Heritage. The fathers who can afford to pay for a decent life style for their children are not made to. Give the child to him. He can afford nannies, private schools, and only see the child when it is convenient for his image. Well why is this not done with the fathers who work minimum wage? Give him the child so he will understand the struggle.

      • curtis

        If its all about money and financial support, why shouldn’t the courts just give the kid to whoever makes the most money?

      • gapeach0614

        ….so you’re saying just send a check every month and be done with it? That’s not being a father. Let it go. He has custody. She still gets to see the child. She obviously isn’t a good fit to take care of her; she can’t even take care of herself. If she had the child she’d have to put the kid in daycare… so don’t down nannies because they are a personalized form of childcare. Let her prove herself. She didn’t better herself while she was absent for the first few years with her first born. She’s passed 40 and still doesn’t have her s*** together. The choice was made. Let that man raise the child how he sees fit considering the fact that he’s the primary parent.

        • debra waters

          He has not proven himself. Yet as usual Money talks. That is all it is about.

          • gapeach0614

            Proven himself to whom????? He doesn’t have to prove anything to society because people like you are never going to give credit when its due. Then again it doesn’t matter. The judge has spoken. He has full custody and will continue to have it unless the mom can prove he’s unfit or neglectful but um….. considering her history, she’ll have a hard time proving he’s worse than she is. Let that child be raised by her father. Father’s can and do raise good women because they end up being their daughters first love. Hats off to the dads out there doing what women seem like is impossible: raising their children!

            • debra waters

              Sure rich drug addicts always pay their way through the system. I truly do not care for this person,do not know him, and do not care to know him. Perhaps you do.

              • gapeach0614

                So he’s a rich drug addict now?! OK I’ll just leave this alone. Have a wonderful day smh

                • debra waters

                  Small minds only see Green. Pitiful.

  • Kiara

    So sad

    • bubbleyes72

      I said the same thing, I can’t begin to imagine what this mother is going through, shame on you Luda!!!

      • Kiara

        Yeah I really feel for her because a relative is going through the exact same thing with her ex my cousin’s baby daddy didn’t even want the kids he is even lying about abuse going on and the baby can’t talk so. I hate when adults that are supposed to be grown use kids as pawn to hurt each other that child needs her mother, that’s all she knows.

      • curtis

        Maybe I dont know all the facts here, but why is it bad for the father to have custody? How come no one ever feels bad when mothers get full custody and the father gets shut out from his kids like. Then, if the father is lucky. he might get to see his kid(s) every other weekend, which amounts to 4 days a month out of 30 or 31 that a man sees his kids. The whole system needs to be more balanced all the way around I think.

        • Kesikesha

          the mother is always the child’s first love, the mother carries the child.. the child needs her mother a father can always up and leave but a mother is always needed and wanted. a mothers connection to her child is far more then a father. can you imagine carrying a child caring for them for years and then up comes the dad and his money and he takes her or him from you.. full custody at that why not joint?

          • curtis

            Just because a mother carries the child she should get custody? That doesnt sound reasonable and thank goodness the courts arent taking that overtly sexist and discriminatory view on this one. It is SO many great Dads out there that handle their business. It is not true that a mothers connection is far more than a fathers, past the toddler stage. Your view is part of the reason why the black community is so screwed up, because for some reason we are the only race that devalues fathers. We see fathers as an option, and not a necessity, which is what they indeed are. The child should go to the better parent, not just the one with the most money either….but the better parent. Period.

            • Jules W.

              The Mom is the better parent. A father does not have that type of bond with the child. Research child development and bonding then get back to me!

              • curtis

                What bond? Beyond the infant stage, kids gravitate towards one parent or the other, and it’s often not the mother. You obviously didn’t grow up with a Dad which is why you think having a father is worthless. No psychologist on Earth would agree with you. The courts neither. Thank goodness

                • gapeach0614

                  Lol somebody introduce Jules to his daddy!

                  • curtis

                    Jules is likely a chick who never had a Dad

                    • gapeach0614

                      Obviously!

                • Bridget Abrandnewme Harris

                  I have 2 daughters and their father and I are still together, which means we all reside in the same residence, and the BOTH gravitate towards me. As did my sons! As a matter of fact, I have 4 sisters and 3 brothers and although we are ALL great parents, every last niece and nephew favors the mom.

              • christianingrey

                That’s some OL BS, been raising a kid as a single dad and I go hard for my lil girl. I ay not have carried her for nine months, but that doesn’t make me any less of a parent. If we take ur logic that means that women who adopt or use surrogates are lesser moms cus they didn’t carry their child. Facts are that being a good parent has nothing to do with gender but with being a good person and stepping up to the plate

              • Jarrod Harris

                If the bond between mother and child is so strong and more loving than that of the father, then explain to me why she abandoned her oldest daughter when that daughter was just an infant???

                I’ll wait.

                The only reason she wants this child is because she wants that $180,000/year in support she petitioned the court for.

              • ebaiden

                The father teaches the child logic…. the mom teaches emotion… look at what’s happening to the community. Overly emotional beings both from grown men and grown women… making logic extremely rare to find.
                It’s no wonder even grown accomplished women have a hard time finding and keeping men.
                There needs to be a balance of both! BOTH!

              • Trendsetter

                So you are saying ALL women are better mothers than fathers. That is the DUMBEST most GENERALIZED statement ever.

            • debra waters

              It is Men of African Heritage that devalue their women. Simply because we do not fit into that category that society is so readily accepting of: Keen features, slender features, less tightly curled hair and lighter skin complexions. American men of African Heritage should stop running from their heritage and run to it.Yet they chose to call us Angry. We should be because we are devalued and dehumanized by our own kind. We are …itches and …oes in every comment they evoke. Once they come into money they abandon their communities and their women. Never fails look around. Even those who are born and bred in the so called Ghetto, abandon the community and take their resources elsewhere rather than staying put and building up their own. Shame on them.

              • curtis

                I don’t know where you live but have you seen all the black women, who go to school, get degrees, and start dating white men?

            • kitahowell

              He wasn’t around for the child’s first years.

            • Hinayana

              How many days each month is Luda at home? What is his performance and appearance schedule? He is in a new movie which will be released soon, how many days did that require SCSI to need a sitter (oh, I forgot, Luda just married his doctor fiancé because it would solidify his image in the eyes of the Court).

              I wish Cai’s mother had moved the court case far from the ATL circus. It is not unusual for entertainers to grease the palms of decision makers.

              • curtis

                What about female entertainers that have kids? Should they lost custody because they are busy working mothers? Money does not usually buy you custody. How many athletes and entertainers have custody of their thots kids? Not many. Why don’t men deserve to have their own kids just like mothers, especially if it is deemed the father makes the better parent? Black women seem to hate fathers, unless it is regarding child support they can get. A lot of these Dads out here are great fathers, and I think we lose sight of that

            • james

              most of the women that lose custody of their kids are drug addicts, women that abandoned them and then arbitrarily decide they want them back, people who have physically abused them in the past. But folks want you to believe that most of the women losing custody of their kids are just innocent. There is a reason for a judge to deny a mother custody. And it wasnt money. How many rich men do you think fight custody and child support and lose? apparently something was going on here i.e. her history of abandoning her older daughter and her lack of gainful employment.

          • Trisha_B

            Not true. In some cases mother & child connection is not instant & takes time to develop. Women’s hormones levels are all over place & sometimes they get distant to their child so the father develops a stronger bond. For example, Tamar mentioned when she gave birth her baby had an instant bond w/ her husband, but it was a struggle for her & it took some time for that bond between her & her son to develop

            • Jules W.

              You don’t have kids do you?

              • Trisha_B

                Why do I need to have kids to say something I’ve seen 1st hand, or something that is readily information out there? Mother & child bond is not always instant just b/c women carried it for 40 weeks. Have you not heard postpartum depression? Where the mother may become distant to child, which then makes the father have to step up more & create a stronger bond

              • Libera_Free

                I do, I have two…one boy and one girl. My son was very attached to me while my daughter was more attached to my husband. I’m not understanding your point.

          • thanos769

            Yeah. Tell those kids in the freezer in Detroit how their mother is their first love.

            • Jules W.

              That is an example of a mother with a mental condition and does not have bearing here. If you want to talk men are by far the more violent offenders. Women might cut some truck tires upon break up but a man might shoot you or set you on fire. Which is worse?

              • curtis

                Have you been watching the news lately? This year already has been a doozy. Who is killing these kids left and right? It’s their mothers. Black mothers.

              • ebaiden

                neither because nowadays women (especially the black ones) have proven themselves to be “STRONG” looking like savages, running people over with their cars, killing babies and shoving them in freezers. Stupid men that show up and kill a woman because she cheated on him arent any better as they act out of….. wait for it…. emotion……… which is not normal if they were brought up by both FATHER and MOTHER…

              • Trendsetter

                These black mothers killing their kids like crazy!!!!!

          • Simba711

            This is 1950?

        • She Codes

          I don’t necessarily think that it’s bad for the father to have custody… but given Ludacris’ lifestyle and availability, it’s guaranteed that child will be raised by a nanny, girlfriend or another relative instead of her rightful parent. That is not right.

          • thanos769

            No different than any female actress or entertainer who has a child. They all get raised by nannies and nobody cries about that.

            • She Codes

              If they have a biological father who is available and willing to have primary custody, then he should have it in my opinion.

              • Jules W.

                Why?

        • Kimberly Campbell

          Curtis,
          It’s not even the father that is raising this child, it’s a third party that is caring for this child because of Ludacris’s career choice. Why can’t this mother be able to have and raise her own child? Like Tamika’s Attorney said, “It’s because Ludacris has money and Tamika doesn’t”. This same thing happened to a friend of mine, her ex-husband’s sister paid the judge $1 million dollars to grant custody to the father because the paternal grandparents wanted them because they were twins. That is why the bible states that money is the root to all evil. It leads to greed.

          • thanos769

            Because Fuller has a terrible past history since she abandoned her first child.

            • Jules W.

              He did not raise his first child either. So should that discount him from this one?

          • curtis

            He is raising his child….With help. Should celebrity women that work lose custody because they have nannies? Why do we not value fathers? It’s HIS kid too, and if the courts determine he is a better parent than her, then so be it.

            • Jules W.

              A court decision that is paid for is a problem. Be careful of how you encourage the abuse of power. Most times black folks are at the tail end of it.

              • curtis

                Well you can’t say that because the court system mostly punishes men. Although more men are getting primary custody than years past, the system you are speaking of still benefits women. When men make bad choices and have kids they can’t support, they go to jail. When women make bad choices and have kids they can’t support, they get assistance. The more kids they have, the more assistance they get. EVERYBODY must be held accountable, not just men.

                • sameboat

                  I am in a similar situation with my daughter’s father. My daughter is 1 year old and after we broke up he just assumed that I would not let him see her so he decides to keep her (since March 13th) and allow me skype phone calls and visits only at his place. Mind you, there is no custody/visitation order and when we lived together I took care of her primarily while he worked full time. I offered him to have the baby every weekend and visits everyday from 6-8pm. He doesn’t even see his other kids as much (every other weekend and once during the week) but he feels what I am offering is not fair. He wants me to sign a shared custody agreement that we each have her every other week. I am going to court next week and pray that he is not trying to get sole custody. I just want shared custody with a visitation plan that we both agree to. I do not discount his fathering abilities at all but he has had her for a month now without me. I just get to visit her for a couple of hours or skype when he decides to answer and when I did try to take her home with me after one visit he snatched her from my arms so violently and called the police on me claiming that I assaulted him. He is not working now and getting assistance for her. I do not see where any of this is fair to me.

          • Trisha_B

            But tamika would have to hire a nanny/babysitter too. Or need to bring the baby to daycare while she works. If she has a full time job, that’s 40+ hours a week that the baby is in the care of someone else. So what exactly is the difference with Luda having her & having a nanny? There is none. There would still be a 3rd party there that is taking care of the baby like w/ a majority of kids in America that have working parents. At least w/ Ludas nanny, he will be able to take the baby with him to work & travel. He can still be hands on but still have the nanny there to help out when he needs to step out for work

            • Libera_Free

              Obviously some of these women have father issues. Whether it was their own or their children’s. You can’t reason with people that are not reasonable. They are allowing their feelings block better judgement.
              At the end of the day, when you make good decisions you have a positive outcome. When you make poor decisions and you have consequences. The choice is there which one will you choose. It seems to me that even though they both made piss poor decisions they only want Ludacris held responsible for his. Seems hypocritical to me.

              • Trisha_B

                Daddy issues is exactly what their problem is. They feel like a man’s role is not needed, but then we wonder why some people are just screwed up. Kids need both parents, but the most stable environment.

        • kitahowell

          He wasn’t around for the child first year nor was he around when she was pregnant.

          • curtis

            We don’t know the details surrounding that. At the end of the day, that is still his kid too. I know Black women have no respect for fathers but it’s his kid just like it is hers. Neither Luda nor this woman seem like model citizens so this is shame on both of them that a child even came out of this lustful grease fire.

          • Trendsetter

            She wasn’t around her FIRST child for years.

        • fran

          you don’t know all the facts.

      • thanos769

        Why? He’s obviously the better parent. This is supposed to be about providing for the child not fulfilling the needs of the mother. She has a terrible history with her other child that she abandoned and I can’t blame Ludacris for not wanting his daughter in that environment.

        • Shann Fox

          Did Ludacris know her “history” before he had unprotected sex with her? People change! Perhaps in her younger days she made foolish choices. Possibly she left her other child with someone more mature with better parenting skills at the time.

          • thanos769

            The point is not whether Ludacris knew. The point is that the courts know. She supposedly left the child with her parent to go run to Cali with a drug dealer. As if that wasn’t bad enough when she got back she waited three years before even contacting the child.

          • curtis

            Fathers often don’t get that same benefit of the doubt unfortunately. When fathers make foolish choices, they often pay for it forever. We must be fair, everyone must be held to the same standard, and fathers are important just like mothers are.

          • thanos769

            Even she said she knew he didn’t want to have a baby with her. They were both wrong on that account.

            • Jules W.

              This man a good father – you must be kidding – he has no respect for women but yet has all girls. That’s God telling him something but he aint listening.

    • thanos769

      This woman abandoned her first child to run with a drug dealer. Moved back to ATL and didn’t contact her daughter for three years. Is basically homeless and moves from apartment to apartment. Can’t get a good job. I know women stick together but common sense tells me she isn’t the best choice as the primary parent.

      • Jules W.

        Men stick together- this man is not a primary caregiver, has multiple children by multiple women, has disgusting lyrics against women, and paid for the decision but yet you men support him. Where are the limits?

        • curtis

          If Ludacris was such a bad guy as you claim, why did this woman sleep with him? Is she a victim?

        • thanos769

          Yet Tamika has multiple children by different fathers, a very shady history, and not much of a future but yet you women support her. Where are your limits?

      • Kiara

        This was years ago though i’m sure if she was that bad of a parent he would have tired to get custody of his child from the jump better yet he would have wrapped it up and not made a baby with this woman.

      • Susan Bratton

        Ahhh, well that explains alot then. I didn’t research her at all, I just figured she was somehow a professional woman, or maybe a model/dancer/actress with a little money to her name. I still believe she should be able to have contact with her baby. Visitation and such. It’s cruel to tear a child away from their mother, as long as she’s not abusive to the child.

        • Trendsetter

          She has visitation

          • Susan Bratton

            Oh, ok. LOL! I didn’t follow, I just knew he was granted full custody.

    • 1Val

      I feel sorry for Tamika.
      She should have called Gloria Allred.