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When two people meet and begin dating, things start out smooth and both parties involved are having a great time. But after a while, when people get to know each other better, feelings grow and they establish a certain level of comfort. It’s during this time that assumptions are often made about the status of things.

Making an assumption about your status in love can be an easy thing to do nowadays because many people are unclear about how to express what their expectations are for a relationship. Communication is big! They also fail to take the time to get to know a person by actually courting them before having sex with them, so people end up struggling to communicate openly and honestly with one other.

Here are a few of the assumptions people are unaware they make while dating because their changing feelings (and loins) have caused them to ignore common sense.

One assumption people often make when dating is thinking that they’re in a monogamous relationship with someone without coming to a mutual agreement. This happens because people want to fulfill their desires for love as quickly as possible, but fail to have the necessary conversations to see whether or not the other party is ready to move forward with them.

The second most popular assumption people make in dating deals with sex. You should never assume that you’re exclusively involved with someone just because you’re sleeping together on a regular basis. Besides, it’s rare that solid relationships are built on sex.

Thirdly, don’t assume because you’ve met a few friends and family members that you’re ‘in.’ While it could mean that you are a strong candidate in his book, it doesn’t necessarily mean that that’s where things stand.

This next assumption is one for anyone who’s currently dating: Never assume that you’re the only person they’re seeing unless you’ve agreed to exclusively date. In today’s technology-obsessed world, people often befriend or follow a new love interest on the low, so just because you haven’t seen another prospect doesn’t mean that there isn’t one. Always be clear on what it is you both are doing and don’t feel like you can’t date other people.

One final assumption that shouldn’t be made in dating is based around terms of endearment. Just because someone calls you “baby,” “bae,” “boo,” “sweetheart,” “pumpkin” or whatever pet name makes you blush doesn’t mean they necessarily take you seriously. Remember that these words are just that–words.

To assume certain things on your own when it comes to where things stand between you and another party can be detrimental to your heart. So while in the dating field, always be cautious and never assume something is going one way because, in reality, it could be going in a completely different direction.

Liz Lampkin is the Author of Are You a Reflection of the Man You Pray For and an advocate for single women. Follow her on Twitter @Liz_Lampkin.

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