“I Even Asked Vince Do I Really Look Like A Muppet?” Tamar And The Real Hosts Talk Bullying
You know we love the women of “The Real” for their honesty and willingness to talk about prevalent issues, in ways that other talk shows hosts can’t or won’t breach. And today, on their show the ladies discussed being bullied. Not as children but being bullied now that they’re adults, especially on social media.
Tamera said that her strategy is to love the hell out of people. She said that she finds when she looks at their personal pages, she’s able to determine that they don’t even really love themselves and the things they say to her are really just projections of their own issues.
The discussion was already weighty but it got emotional when Jeannie Mai asked Tamar what she plans to teach her son Logan about responding to bullies.
And that’s when Tamar got emotional.
Jeannie: I do want to ask Tamar, being a mother and being someone who still goes through it today, what advice, if it was maybe Logan or if you had a chance to say something to that person that was bullying you, what would you say to them? How would you deal with it today?
Tamar: Oh God, I feel like a terrible person. Cuz I don’t have any advice to give my son because I’m…
Tamera: …she’s still dealing with it.
Lonnie: You’re still a new mother so you’re still growing.
Jeannie: I get scared. You know they say fight or flight. I flight like crazy. I go and I hide. I think where is the bed that I can hide under to get everybody to just go away. I feel weak. This is really interesting that you say this Tamar because you’re so strong.
Tamar: I’m not.
Jeannie: You come off so strong. I didn’t know that you also have that you don’t know what to do.
Tamar: It’s so crazy that you think I’m strong. I would have never known that you’re bullied and that things that people say affect you because you move in stride like nothing’s wrong and everything’s good and the world is peachy cream and it tastes like strawberries.
I feel like right now in this moment I’m learning from you. So thank you for that Jeannie.
I was just asking my husband the other day…You know when you say Lonnie that you’re just not going to talk about my girls, I know exactly what you’re talking about because a particular person started saying that I looked like a muppet. And people say it so much that sometimes I start to believe it. And so I even asked Vince, “Do I look like a muppet?” And he’s like “Absolutely not.” But this person has the whole world calling me that. And it’s just so devastating because it takes me back to high school and there’s nothing I can do about it. But what I can do is what Jeannie does and thank you Jeannie. I can act like the world is all peaches and cream and tastes like strawberries. And so I’m going to take that with me today. Thank you. Thank you friend.
If you’ve been following our site or Tamar on Instagram or Twitter, you know that the person she’s talking about is K. Michelle. The two have had their fair share of nasty exchanges that K. Michelle has turned into personal attacks, on occasion, when she started likening Tamar to Miss Piggy. Though it seemed like Tamar wasn’t particularly fazed by the insult, the tears on the show, proved that she was.
I know many of you are tired of the bullying conversation. But if people like Tamar who have a little bit of money, a decent family life, talent and a successful career are still affected this strongly by the words of another, then hopefully this discussion and video will serve as a reminder to all of us to be more careful with our words on and offline.
You can watch the full emotional and teary discussion in the video below.