How to Cope with a Clingy Girlfriend

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April 23, 2011 ‐ By

We all have or had a friend or two that  just loved us to death. And at times that’s what it felt like, like ole girl was literally sucking the life out of your body. While there was something that attracted you to her in the beginning, the more time you spend with her the more you realize that she’s straight out of a Destiny’s Child cut…a bug a boo. If you want her to back off a little bit but still want to maintain the friendship, here are a few quick tips to let her down …gently.

1. Start hanging out with other people

Don’t always limit your social activities to just you and her. If you’re in a group of people you can blame your ignoring her on being polite and socializing with all of your other guests, associates or other friends. If you notice that she’s pouting during the group outing, you can later question her about her behavior and explain that you don’t belong to her. You had friends before her.

2. Explain that you need your space

While you’re having the “I don’t belong to you” speech you might want to mention that you work best when you have your own space. Explain that your strongest friendships have lasted with people who gave you a moment to breathe. She’s most likely the persistent type, meaning your words will go in one ear and out the other; that’s ok, you can use that conversation as a weapon next time she’s trying to be in your face. “Girl, remember when I said I need my space? This is one of those times.” It may sound harsh; but if you keep acting like everything is ok now, you’ll explode later and may even lose a friend.
3. Don’t talk about her with someone who can’t be trusted

If you don’t want to lose her as a friend altogether or if you don’t want to hurt her feelings, don’t express your irritation towards her with another one of your friends who can’t be trusted to keep their mouth shut. Chances are if she repeats your conversation, your words will be taken completely out of context. After all you were frustrated. Plus the big mouth probably won’t mention the fact that you said the girl has some good qualities. If you haven’t noticed by now, the good news never comes with the gossip. Go to someone who doesn’t know her and release or better yet go to the “vault friend” the one who protects your secrets like she’s guarding top secret, government information. She’s the one that can handle the venting rant and keep it between you two.

4. Think about her positive qualities

When you feel like you can’t take anymore, think about what first attracted you to her as a friend. She might really be working that last nerve, so you might have to make a list. If you think about her story long enough, you might find that there’s a reason for her clingy behavior. Maybe you’re the first genuine person she’s met. If so, try hard not to be another disappointment. Empathizing with her and her situation will help you to have more patience.

5. Limit your time together

Most people are more tolerable in small doses. Give yourself a break from her. If you two hung out last weekend, let a few weeks go by before you link up again. If you’re one who likes to keep it real, make plans either alone or with others to be unavailable. When you are out together, make sure you arrive separately so you can dip whenever you’re ready.

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  • Brant!

    Sucking titties.

  • raven

    i never had this problem but ill use this advice when i do

  • Tiffany M.

    I just told the girl straight up that I didnt wanna be friends with her. If she can't respect my space then I dont want her as a friend anyway. I spoke to her about her clingy ways and she didnt listen. Sometimes it's best to let those kinds of friends go…..

  • Shim God

    yeah nothing worse than a clingy girlfriend…get rid of her..QUICK!
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  • Kim

    I would not deal with that. I have a life. I would just ignore the calls. U never know what CRAZY will do to you.

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  • http://laneewrites.blogspot.com Poppy

    I think this was a great article, I have a very clingy friend & I've been trying to figure out how to break our bond just a little bit. Thanks for the tips!! And I like that I didn't to click next to read the full article, much better :-)

  • Matrice

    I am so happy I didn't have to keep clicking next just to read the list!!

    • Shim God

      i've been telling them that was annoying for the longest..and they were just doing that for pageviews for ads…smh

      Me and my girl going on vacation…Travelocity giving away $1000 Giftcards for anywhere in US..just for giving them your email..haha..My whole fam got 1 http://goo.gl/8IQWl

  • menissance

    #6- DUMP THE B!TCH :-D