White Women Are #Winning, Step Your Game Up

April 21st, 2011 - By LaShaun Williams

A writer by the name of Andrea Michelle published an article in UPTOWN magazine titled, “Why White Women Are Winning.” As you can imagine, black women (if not already) will soon be up in arms defending their “choice” to remain single.

Whether or not (most likely not) they will admit to it, black women generally struggle with admitting to falling short in areas that have proven to be strengths in other groups of women. White women, in particular, marry in far greater percentages than black women; and, more and more of them are marrying black men. Thus, black women who want to get married need to understand that they have to step up their game. Statistics and unbiased observation show that, when it comes to the wives club white women make up the Winners’ Circle. According to the CDC (Center for Disease Control and Prevention):

While 17% of Hispanic and 12% of non-Hispanic white women have not married by age 35, 42% of non-Hispanic black women have not married by this age.

Among the first things the author lists as a roadblock for black women is our perception of marriage:

With the odds in their favor and a societal veneration of marriage, white women will more than likely find who and what they want in partnership. Therefore, they have the luxury of approaching their dating life with a more optimistic attitude and more discerning requirements for potential mates. Do communities of color hold the same hallowed respect or feel the same societal pressures to form the ultimate union? Precipitous erosion of the black nuclear family and generational, single-parent households suggest a different perception of marriage. Equally as troubling is a potential systemic shift in the psyche of young black children regarding marriage. A 2006 account of one Washington Post journalist’s visit to a DC-area middle school unveiled that some among our future generations already believe that marriage is for white people.

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  • http://twitter.com/tweetyminx Miss douglas.

    Have just come across this article and its absurd but true-white and other women are more likely get married then black women,in the black community-the now generation-are happy to cohabit and have children but dont give a thought to marriage.
    The man is the instigator in most proposals so the question is why are black men not marrying their women and in all fairness black men may not be doing as well economically as their male counter-parts so a lot of black men are not in a position to offer marriage and many in the black community dont hold marriage up with the same esteem that others do..black women of today tend to to be very relaxed where a white women know’s what she wants in a relationship,demands it and then expects it.
    Black women need to wise up and not settle,if she can’t get the opportunities offered to her by her man,like other women gets..then she simply has to move on ,not settle and be happy to have children out of wedlock.
    Black women win the battle because they appear stronger when it comes to the family unit,A lot of children are going round with no father influence,in regards to white women ,white women are the new black women -taken on black womens burdens,,black women know about black men ..and white women are just finding out..

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  • pipi

     lol I feel sorry for the black woman in the picture with the white dude. I’m sorry, but his look is really creepy. Like “Ima rape you” creepy.

  • Skye

    One of my white male colleagues asked me why are so many BM running to WW.  I turned to him and said, why are so many WW running to BM?  He gave me a puzzled look and said “well it’s more acceptable for whites and blacks to date”.  I said to him, you just answered your own question.

    It’s interesting that most people look at it one way.  As if BM are cavemen, dragging the poor white women by the hair and forcing her to be with him – LOL.  WW are flocking to black men because they want to be slammed and focked.  They play the innocent little WM.  I grew up with them and they are the skankiest, nastiest women out there.  Do not believe the hype.  DO NOT LET THEM DEFINE US.

  • Skye

    Not sure about this site but Bossip is NOT run by African Americans, it’s run by a middle eastern company. My understand is that they are responsible for many of these ethnic sites.  They put out derogatory content and folks fall for it.  You get the point.  I stopped visiting Bossip when I discovered these facts.

  • Skye

    Screw you black man.  Black men and white women are perfect for each other.  They are the two weakest species on the planet so naturally they will be drawn to each other.  Both are whiny insecure bi%che$.  No other race of men so blatantly put down their women.  Black men are just weak.  They have always thrown us under the bus instead of taking responsibility for their ways.  Black men, If you like white women, go for it, stop making the excuse that “black women are terrible so I need to get a white woman”  why do you need an excuse to be with her?  If you find one that you click with, just be with her and move on, love her for her, not because you can’t find a “good black woman”, so freakin weak.  And silly ass white women, when he use the excuse that there are no “good black women” he’s saying to you, that you are second best, he’s settling for you because there are no “good black women”  because if he found a good black woman” he would not be with you.  Do you get it.

    Don’t fall for it my lovely sisters.  Know who you are and don’t let these weak ass men define you.

    • Me

      That’s why you dont have a black man! Talking like that! Where’s the support you’re obligated to hold to him?

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_LMDJBVQT7URMQNBISXGOF73QTU MixedUpSiciliano

    Not to seem like an angry black woman, but I’m going to be brutally honest because I am tired of seeing articles bashing me and my follow sisters. So…I think the main and most prevalent as to why black women have not married in the racing numbers compared to other races is: We do not take b.s. We are not going to sit there and marry a man who controls us terribly, abuses us, or get married because we’re turning 30 next year. I’ve grown up with a lot of black women, from sisters, to aunts, etc. My Aunt has been married since she was young, has a lovely family, owns a home, etc. Her husband is the sweetest man ever. At any rate, I think most black women are, like I said, not going to settle for any man who comes our way because we want what’s best for us and our future families. I am not saying that we are high maintenance, I am simply saying that we marry (mostly) for love, family, etc. because most BW were raised with “Good Christian Values” (I certainly was not) and marrying a man who treats you like a lady and such. 

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  • shauna

    thats korney I'm a black female and I am outgoing so ummmm WTH lol with this BS

  • shauna

    The article was a waste of typing…no race is better than the next race and I am a black woman and I see and hear stories all the time of white women divorcing and getting played by black men white men and they are also single parents…Please stop with the lifting up of the next race and be real. As long as there is sin in this world nothing will be perfect,. BTW my parents are black and been married for 25 years, my grandparents are married my aunt is married so that is BS :-)

  • http://EbonyEncounters.com GeraldTrueBlood

    Yeah, I agree… There is some type of war on black women in the media but at EbonyEncounters.com let's make love not war. This article is unfair and bias, just as some other articles regarding black women as well as black men. Let's try to keep our black family unit united. EbonyEncounters.com is for professional black singles who want to meet others.

  • LRD

    I'm not white, I am hispanic and I'm married to a wonderful black man. Now, I get all the bad looks from black women all over because "I took one of their good black men!"… Black men are looked at as prizes to the black women, when it should NOT be like that. If black women wouldn't be so caught up in staying with their "brothas", they wouldn't have such a high statistic of being unmarried and single.

    There are so many stereotypes when it comes to interracial relationships, it's ridiculous. I've heard black women talk about me in front of my face saying "She must be a freak because he with her! She probably does anything and everything for him, know what I'm sayin?", now I could have easily turned back and said "First of all, I am a classy lady in the streets and in the sheets, we keep our bed pure because that's what God wants for us to do, we make love but don't get it twisted, aren't sistas the freaky ones?"

    The only reason why the divorce rate is so high is because people are not keeping God as their centerpoint in their marriage.

  • Tups

    @taluio

    Everyone will not be mixed and that is not how God created humans originally but white supremacy is trying to alter what God created.

  • Tups

    The attitudes we have toward each other has been engineered by a 3rd party. WW will win, WM will win as long as white supremacy exist.

  • Tups

    BW are not winning or losing. It's called social engineering.

  • kn7

    But I am speaking from my personal experiences and observations. Alot of the BM that date outside their race feel that WW willl put up with put up with more than a black women will, including being ok with the man not working/no education, cheating, etc. I know a white girl in my clss & she just found out she was pregnant by her black boyfriend. They've been living together for a few months (her apartment) and she's been trying to convince hi to go back to chool, (he's 29), among other things. I understand that some men have potential, but I wouldn't put up with what she puts up w/, (his perpetual unemployment, lying, doesn't hepl around the houe, etc.), especially since he showed his colors from day one, so I don't think he's gonna change since he's damn near 30. I say all that to say that alot of times we hear that back men are dating/marrying outside of their race, but they're not necessarily treating the non black women worse or slighly better, so exactly what are these women "winning", lol?

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