Toya Talks New Book “How To Lose A Husband” On Wendy Williams
Ooo wee. If we thought Toya was going to take the high road during this separation between she and her husband Memphitz, we might have been mistaken. In promotion for Reginae’s episode of “Super Sweet Sixteen,” she stopped by the “Wendy Williams Show.” And since her personal life is really juicy these days, she also talked about her marriage and how she’s handling things.
And child, she kept her cool for most of it but there was some drama. Check out the highlights from the interview below.
Do you think the party was too extravagant?
Reginae is a great child and it’s her sixteenth birthday. Everybody do it big for their kids’ sixteenth birthday party…if they can. If you can go all out, go all out.
What do you think about Wayne and Christina Milian?
I don’t think about that.
Then Wendy got right into the state of her relationship with Memphitz.
Why are you separated?
My husband started to feel like he was living in my shadow. When I met him he was a big music executive. He discovered talent like T Pain, K Michelle, all different types of artists. And to go from begin a music executive to being known as Lil Wayne’s ex wife’s husband…it just started to take a toll on him.
What happened to his career?
He started mixing business with pleasure. He got into a relationship with his artist, K Michelle and it was a lot of allegations that he beat her and stuff like that. The person that you see right now, that’s a person who’s dealing with a lot of hurt and pain and that’s just how he’s choosing to deal with it.
Have her allegations affected your marriage?
I wouldn’t say she affected my marriage. This is how I feel about the whole situation, there’s three sides to every story: her side, his side and the truth. And to be honest with you, no one knows the truth only the people in that room. And you know, we’re all going off the information that we believe to be the truth. So we all are entitled to our own opinion.
How is he mentally right now?
You see he’s acting out on Instagram. How he chooses to deal with his stuff is how he chooses to. How I choose to deal with mine is different. I’m hurt too. I decided to write a book called “How To Lose A Husband.”
Would you like to reconcile?
I would love to work things out with my husband because here’s the thing Wendy, a lot of people get married and when things go wrong they give up on their marriage. You make a vow, it’s for better or for worse.
Did his appearing on Tiny and Toya affect his position at Sony?
Absolutely. I just feel like they didn’t accept him in a tv world. They were looking at him like, you’re more of a behind the scenes type of guy now you’re “mister tv man.” In that world, the tv industry, reality that is, is not really respected.
Memphitz asking Toya to join “Love and Hip Hop Atlanta”
Mona Scott Young asked Memphitz and I to join the show. And to me, that’s not something that I want to be a part of. And I didn’t feel that was the right thing to do for my marriage. We were newlyweds. To go on a show to go back and forth with your ex…I was like ‘No. You go on the show. I’m not going on the show.’
After Wendy and Toya had time to talk all of their grown women talk, she called Reginae out to chat about her recent birthday party, the drama between Birdman and Wayne and her future plans.
The best part was getting my car because I love driving. My security…he’s been teaching me how to drive since I was 14 years old.
I home-school now. This is my first year of homeschooling, so up to ninth grade.
Wayne and Birdman
With me, I love them both and that’s business. My loyalty belongs to my father, anything that he goes through. I love my father and I love my godfather. When my father was in jail, my godfather, he took care of me. So I love them both and I’m praying that they get through whatever they have…
Why Memphitz wasn’t in the show
Toya: He was at her Super Sweet Sixteen. They cut him out of the special, I guess because of what is going on. But he plays a very important role in her life.
Are you going to college or are you going into the industry?
I’m going to, of course, go to college still. But I am going to sing and rap. But right now, with the label goring through what they’re going through I’m on hold as well as my father.
Why did you leave the OMGirlz?
It was business . With the different labels and who to sign with…it was just a business thing.