Since When Does ‘I Love You’ Mean Fancy Gifts?
Is it me or is Valentine’s Day getting more expensive by the year? I love the additional attention, but don’t need a holiday to declare my love for my husband and others in my life. It’s really crazy how much people are willing to swipe on a credit card as “proof” they adore that special someone in their lives.
Valentine’s Day has always been circled on my calendar, but not for the reasons you may think. Even when I was a single gal, I had no problems treating myself to chocolates and sending fun cards to friends and family members. It reminds me of my time in grade school and how teachers would encourage students to make (or purchase) little cards and treats for their fellow students. I’m not sure if they still do it, but I can remember the looks kids would get and the feeling of being remembered — even if it was just for a day.
Unfortunately it doesn’t work the same way when you’re an adult.
Some ladies I know have serious problems if their boyfriend or spouse doesn’t go the extra mile by sending flowers to their job, or taking them out on a fancy dinner. I won’t even touch the jewelry aspect. In the seven years my beloved and I have been together (three years married), we have done a pretty good job mixing up going out and enjoying a home-cooked meal (I can burn). The funny thing is I’m always conscious of pricing on those occasions we go out even though he says it’s okay. For some reason it’s hard for me to wrap my head around paying $40 for a piece of steak when I can make filet mignon for two at home in half the price.
Valentine’s Day to me is about celebrating time with the one you love, not how much you spend on them. All of us are guilty at some point of neglecting our relationships due to work demands or personal issues. It’s good to have a day out the year that makes us stop and “smell the roses.” This doesn’t mean you need to go on a shopping binge to proof a person’s worth.
So I say use that Groupon to lower the cost of dinner. It might not be a good look if it’s the first date, but if you know the person, there’s no shame in that game. Or stay at home and enjoy a gourmet meal you two spent time preparing together. And if you choose to indulge a little, go right ahead assuming your budget allows for it. Motherhood can also change your outlook on things, but the older I get the more I enjoy a personal touch. It means more to me to find an hidden “I love you” note around the house instead of a bouquet of flowers that will die in a couple weeks. I also think about ways to please my spouse instead of what I’ll get in return.
Just some food for thought.