White Women Do It, Too: 8 Things Black Women Can’t Get Away With

April 16th, 2011 - By LaShaun Williams

It seems like every week there is a new study about black women ranking number one in something perceived negatively—abortions, births out of wedlock, multiple baby fathers. And, among the popular defenses is that black women are not alone in these statistics. “White women do it, too” is one of the most common excuses.

Black, white, yellow, brown—we are all one in the same in that we come from the same species; but, it would be silly not to acknowledge that we do come from varying creeds. We are culturally and genetically bred differently; and, society has been conditioned to see black and white women in conflicting regards. Thus, we are impacted differently by similar actions.

Here are common things white women do, too, that we just can’t get away with:

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  • Lunas_wolf14

    I really don’t understand what this article it trying to achieve. As a list, it has it’s faults. Is it really socially acceptable for anyone to “give it up” on the first date? Where are the suggestions on how, as a society, we can address these stereotypes? Where’s the discussion on how popular culture contributes to the stereotypes? The article seems unfinished.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Chelsea-Redding/602358866 Chelsea Redding

    Women who are saying this isn’t true have lost a man for giving it up, talked loudly on the phone, and every other thing on this list. It ALL TRUE! To the point where it’s scary. Black woman stereotype number 9, “closed mindedness”

  • Diane

    DAMN! There are so many white women reading an article for black women!

    I am taking an history class. I am African and here a bunch of stereotypes about us every single day. I do not talk. why don’t you all stay quiet? If you know you don’t do that why do you all mind? 

  • Josie

    I am a black woman. 

    I do not think the author wanted to be racist. She/he just wrote what we see on the television.
    That’s how it works there. Blame the media, not the black people.

    We are all victims of stereotypes everyday. But honestly, what can we do? this is how this society is.

  • Erika

    This was one of the most ignorant and uneducated articles I have ever read.

  • annoyed reader

    This is the dumbest thing I ever read. None of these are true. Just because white women do it doesn't mean it's accepted or 'ok'. ANYONE who laughs loudly on their phone is annoying, plastic surgery can go right or wrong on anyone and they're called SKINNY jeans for a reason. Not all black people are 'thick'…I've seen skinny black girls wear skinny jeans and it looks fine. I've seen fat white chicks wear skinny jeans and it does not look good. You put yourself in a stupid stereotype. And for the record, no one really cares what you do. Be responsible and live your own life. If you believe there is a stereotype why don't you prove everyone wrong? If you had confidence you might not play the white vs black game. Stop complaining about what 'white people' think and try making a change and doing something about it.

    • Udolipixie

      I see the annoyed part in your username not much on the reader part.

      “Not all black people are ‘thick’…I’ve seen skinny black girls wear skinny jeans and it looks fine. I’ve seen fat white chicks wear skinny jeans and it does not look good. You put yourself in a stupid stereotype.”

      No you put the stereotype out there. She didn’t state or imply that all black people are thick she was implying that no matter what shape a black woman is she has a plump butt and plump butts are not designed for skinny jeans.

      Her words:
      “These were not created with shapely, plump backsides in mind. Slim, slender, thick or fat—low-rise skinny jeans are a black woman’s recipe for plumber’s crack. ”

      Nothing about all black people are thick. More like all black women have plump butts and skinny jeans don’t work with plump butts.

      • Guest

        Um.. plump and fat are the same thing

      • Allison Matthews

        …that’s still stereotyping..to say all black women have plump butts….

  • techlilinu

    Is Montana Fishburne really whoring? She is beautiful, young and she's Lawrence's daughter. Why would she choose pornography as a career? This makes no sense.

  • WeRallBeautiful

    EXACTLY! I am not racist. I do not care what color your skin is, I expect the same from everyone. Be restpectful of EVERYONE. This jealous crap is ridiculous. This racist crap is insane. Who makes this stuff up? And you cannot clump everyone who is NOT black into the WHITE category. Women need to stop being jealous of each other and learn to appreciate the diverse beauty God has bestowed upon us. Why are some people so hateful? If you are insecure about yourself, your physical being is not the issue. There are beautiful people who hate themselves, and ugly people who love themselves. I have had female friends of every color. They are the hardest to keep because jealousy so often rips those relationships apart. Yes, your culture is an important part of who you are, just don't force stigmas and so-called stereotypes upon yourself and say it's 'The white man/woman keeping you down'. That is irresponsible. If women are at each other's throats, then it keeps ALL women down. You are building walls around yourselves and around everyone else. Stop it. Get a grip.

    • WeRallBeautiful

      There is nothing wrong with your skin, or your hair, or your butts (women are SUPPOSED to have curves!) Women of every color have wanted something that women of another color tend to have. Black women like white hair (as do asians), white women want darker skin, hair, fuller lips, rounder butts, etc. Asians want..boobs and height and blue eyes (like everyone else except those who have blue eyes who want green) and. Latinos want to be skinny and not have to wax so often and for some reason unbenownst to me love to shave their eyebrows off or pluck them bare. (WHY!?!?!) Everyone wants to mutilate themselves with surgery, and starve themselves to death, and change everything about themselves who makes them who they are. We are all different. That is a good thing. We are all beautiful in very different ways. What is wrong with that? Why can't we love each other and ourselves and respect each other as human beings?

  • Sara

    Society sucks, society oppresses black women, society oppresses women in general, society oppresses people. all people. especially black women. But those most capable of fighting oppression are the oppressed. Strong, independent, accomplished black women fight oppression everyday just by being themselves. But black women who attempt to degrade white women in order to make a point about oppression are not fighting oppression. I don't know any white or black women who have done sex tapes, talk baby talk regularly, put out on the first date, or anything else on this list, other than maybe walking around with a straight face. And I look terrible in skinny jeans. But that's besides the point. This article is silly and divisive and only reinforces negative stereotypes and sexism. If you want to write about black female oppression, write about something that matters, not skinny jeans and sex tapes.

  • BKJ

    and also…for #2…umm is paris hilton black? b/c last time i checked she was white and she didn't get away with that…that was the most publicized one in the past few YEARS. this article is horrible i'm not even reading this again. it portrays black women horribly and doesn't do anything to combat the "stereotypes" (if they even exist), which if the author actually cared she would post something INTELLIGENT or something that doesn't comdemn people who have done any of these!

  • BKJ

    ok…1st off, this goes both ways. i agree with some of them, but i look at people who do any of these the same way whether they're black or white or brown or orange or whatever. and honestly, racism goes both ways. this isn't to everyone, but those of you that do this, stop flipping out about things that our ancestors did to each other. yeah racism is wrong, but does it make it anymore right to start complaining that white people get away with so much more nowadays? or having SATs say "latin american, african american, and white" where you put in your information? or what about affirmative action? everyone should have the same rights/be viewed the SAME no matter what. it shouldn't be a competition for who gets away with more b/c of skin color. dr. king said he had a dream that one day everyone, no matter what race/ethnicity/religion/color/etc would be able to sit down together at the table of brotherhood…NOT "i have a dream that one day blacks/whites will sit on a higher, more comfortable table than whites/blacks". not trying to piss anyone off, but this is just something to think about…

    • truthteller

      I get what you are saying but at the same time you’re not being realistic stereotypes or racism is not something that is going to go away easily so just because Martin Luther King made the ” I Had A Dream” speech doesn’t mean that people will stop being ignorant and making people of the other races go on the defensive but what you and alot of other people on here that are getting upset have to understand is that the author of this article is NOT speaking about every white woman but just speaking in a general term, so stop being so defensive and actually listen (or read) about what she is really saying (or writing) and if it doesn’t apply to you then no need to act defensive.

  • Samia

    Oh please, this is the most ignorant article that I have read! It just sounds like this author is trying to pull the black card just because she may not be as socially accepted as her "white peers".
    Get over it!
    Number one Kim Kardashian is not technically white, she is Armenian, Scottish, and dutch.
    Number two, your president is black!!! White men did it, so did he!!!
    Please go find something else to do than complain. And please not super loud on your cell phone when you're in the damn store. Some black girls are way louder than the crazy puertoricans

  • Holly

    I found this article somewhat offensive. Many of these claims simply aren't true. I am a white female, but that doesn't mean I can go around with an expressionless face or skinny jeans. Everyone has a different body type. I've seen plenty of white AND black women with small body frames, and plenty with larger frames that don't look good in those jeans. I found the section about "baby talk" particularly alarming. It said something about black men wanting their women to have a brain. I'm sorry, I was not aware that talking to your pet or child in a higher octave lowered your IQ… The author of this article seemed to only continue these ridiculous stereotypes instead of putting an end to them.

  • shosty

    C'mon… Am I really supposed to believe that wearing skinny jeans is dependent on race? Stereotypes about all kinds of people exist… while the author points out (SOME) accurate ones about black women in this particular society, she (I'm supposing by accident) exposes her own stereotypical mindset on white women. It goes full circle. We all do it and we are all victims of it.

  • Helena

    wow, shit like this is why we have a problem, if it didn't I might actually address the african american community as part of my culture

  • MakeAChange

    Wow, just when we thought racism was dwindling out we get an article like this. This was only meant to segregate us even more, hope that was at least the intention. Now, take for instance if I, a white female, posted this same exact argument only flipped the races around. Now I'm racist right?
    There is a double standard, no doubt about it. I also feel that white women are more a minority now than black women because we are so shunned to say anything about it.
    It most of these cases, it would be more fair to say "some" rather than "all" in reference to white women…no one race is all the same. All you did was make yourself look bad.
    I sure as hell cannot fit into lowrise skinny jeans, because i have hips. We are not all slim and slender with stick figure bodies. Seems to me you are looking more at vogue magazines than reality around you.
    The 'baby mama' thing is also ridiculous. I work with four white girls, that have black 'baby daddies' and they have no money, get no child support and two of them let their kids see their father through glass at a penitentiary. Does that say anything? No. Because now you think I am fitting them into a different category about black men. I'm not. Any man could fit that description.
    Just keep in mind that before you start bashing a race, splash a bit of reality in it and you will see that we are all the same in one way or another.
    Slavery is over. I understand that this is where the majority of every racist argument is from. Understand that society has accepted the fact to now feel bad and hold black people on some sort of a pedastool out of remorse. You are no longer the minority because you make white folks one by saying things like this.
    We will never fully get over the idea of segregation between races because people post diminishing stuff like this on the internet. I get it. Power of speech. But why not speak about something positive, something to help someone out, something to help people unite. Not a post about why white people suck. And I'm sure you have NOO white friends right? Well, if I can guess correctly, you do, and I bet they haven't read this. Because if they did, they are not your friends anymore.
    Wake up. A change starts with one person. Let that person be you…

  • Carly

    Since when is it ok for ANY woman, or man, black or white, to have sex on the first date? And on that note, if it does occur, keep it to your damn self and there would be no problem "getting away with it".
    The skinny jeans are pretty ridiculous. That has nothing to do with being frowned upon for being a black woman wearing skinny jeans. That is all on you. If someone gives you dirty looks, most likely is because you're black overall, not your clothes. I am a curvy white woman, wide hips with an a*s and thighs to match (according to this article, not many of us exist apparently – another no-no). I don't wear skinny jeans on the regular because unless I wear heels, I look and feel like an oompa loompa. I think it's pretty egotistical of the author to think that people are so concentrated on what she wears ESPECIALLY the type of jeans, and god forbid if they're fitting the world's just going to disown her. lol really??? C'mon now..

    P.S. PLEASE, do not mistake all of us white women for Paris Hilton act-alikes. Or whores. Or insecure plastic surgery addicts. Or any of these things.

  • Glen Nicholson

    I am a white middle aged female, and I'm completely baffeled by the concept expressed here. This hypothosis is only true if you think that all of the above is acceptable for anyone! I work in education. I see all races all cultural backgrounds on a daily basis. If any of the above takes place among any of these groups, the opiinon is negative. Sex tapes are the provence of the infamous and trashy, the rest is common courtesy, and self respect. Good god, I would run a mile from ANYONE who engaged in this kind of behavior! I think it would be fairer to say that MEN, White or Black are not as redily judged for these things.

    As for "mean face", I recall walking out of a Florist's with a serious face and getting snapped at by a woman who said "Whatever it is, it can't be so bad you have to walk around looking so hostile!" I did stop and explain to her that my father had just died , and I was ordering flowers. And yes, I spoke very softly ,so she had to lean in close when I told her to go to hell. It's more effective that way.

  • Get Over Yourselves

    WOW THIS IS SO RACIST! Black people can say whatever they want about white people and its not racist, But one negative thing about a black person and your a member of the KKK! Black Women particularly act like they are better than every white women and that white people owe you something. And the author of this article should look up the national statistics on abortion….maybe that is where the stereotypes come from!

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100002201531131 Chasti Hite

    This article seems a little biased; but regardless though, you shouldn't compare yourself to "white" women or any other woman. Things happen and everybody sees beauty differently. Please don't think that all "black" men think the same, or that everyone in our "socially made-up race classifications" think the same. This article needs to be about all the beautiful aspects of the general so-called "black" woman…no need to cause any more tension between people by posting a comparative article like this.

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