A few days ago, acclaimed journalist and ghostwriter of Jay-Z’s Decoded, Dream Hampton’s “The Trouble with Chris Brown” mysteriously disappeared from BET.com. The piece was posted shortly after his Good Morning America behind-the-scenes performance; and, after a little work presumably on the part of his “enablers” (as Hampton so adequately referred to his manager, publicist, etc.), the commentary was removed.
Addressing real issues isn’t always profitable; but, more disheartening than BET’s permissiveness is the slew of young women and girls that make up Team Breezy, female bloggers and Twitter followers who have unwaveringly stood by Chris Brown amidst domestic violence charges and uncontrolled, violent outbursts. They are the 1.9 million @chrisbrown followers who drove his new album F.A.M.E. to number one and, instead of holding him accountable, relentlessly displace responsibility for his actions onto others.
Chris Brown’s unhealthy man-child syndrome is that of a sickness and the symptoms are a lack of self-control, anger and violence. At this point, he is just as likely to do what he did to Rihanna to the next woman. He is just as apt to throw another chair through a window. Then, go out and party later that night before asking for forgiveness in the morning (as revealed on the Wendy Williams Show).
What type of young women have we become that this sort of man is attractive, that this is what we defend?
We deserve more.
Women have to stop accepting (and defending) less and start expecting more from our young men. Hold them to higher standards for your affection and they will rise to the occasion. It is not O.K. to be belligerent and disrespectful; it is not O.K. to hurt other people; and, I’m sorry doesn’t make everything go away.
Chris Brown fans are quite possibly the most influential “enablers” of all and at their own dismay. For, their love for Brown is simply a testament to young men and boys across the country that this is what women want; and they can expect to see the same behavior manifest itself into future dysfunctional, abusive relationships.