Anatomy of a Powerful Black Woman (A Relationship Guide)

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March 28, 2011 ‐ By China Okasi

We all know women are sometimes not given their full due in society, but when it comes to black women, the stereotypes and assumptions can be staggering. The number one rule when dealing with a powerful black woman, i.e. you, your mother, your sister, your friend, is: never, ever–ever underestimate her. Treat her with respect, and don’t expect that if you mistreat or slight her, that you’ll just escape the forces that protect her. If you didn’t know about this woman before now, here are some traits that clue you in to the anatomy of a powerful black woman:

Style
It’s not really a matter of how much her outfits cost, or which designers she bought them from; this woman’s aura transcends fashion and goes into style. It’s the way she presents herself and everything that comes from or by her. It’s the patterns she sets and the ones chooses to follow. A powerful black woman doesn’t just dress to impress. She is the impression herself.

Grace
Forget Charlie Sheen, it’s the powerful black woman who is truly tiger-blooded and filled with Nefertiti D.N.A. Because power for her derives from an inner wisdom, she really has nothing to prove. Her story is already evident, and she is sensitive to the stories and struggles of others. She is stern, but graceful and thoughtful in her approach. Grace is a key aspect of her spiritual makings.

Charm
Jay-Z always said he could sell water to a well, implying that he’s that charming or skillful a salesman. When it comes to powerful black women, you can multiply that sort of charm by a billion. Powerful black women are charming because they know their audiences…whether it’s their husband, their children, their parents, their colleagues, their lovers,their friends, or their enemies. And they speak just the right language to whomever’s watching or listening. In the end, they always win.

RELATIONSHIP DOS & DON’TS
If you ever date, run into, work with, stumble upon, marry or become engaged to a powerful black woman:
– Do study her traits, using the guidelines above
– Do bow in her presence
– Don’t induce her wrath
– Don’t discuss her weight
– Don’t over-step your boundaries with her
– Don’t get too comfortable, until she gives you permission
– Do cherish and keep her, because she will literally be the best thing that ever happens in your life
– Don’t take this guide too seriously, but do understand what it really means about recognizing the powerful black women around you

 

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  • John

    Who needs one of this type of women. They are nothing but a pack of stress. Good for the corporate world, a nightmare at home.

  • Denise

    Every word spoken was so true thanks for putting it out there.

  • Sophia

    But Black men are learning that Black women are no longer waiting for them to realize their worth. One to the next.

  • Nina

    I love it!

  • L-Boogie

    I really like this article. So often Black women are treated like sugar.honey.ice.tea. Nevertheless, at least us women can uplift each other. Thank you.