Rocking Out With a Short ‘Fro

March 27, 2011  |  

By choice, my hair hasn’t fallen past the top of my neck since 8th grade. Short just does it for me. Almost any woman can appear to be beautiful with a head full of hair. But not every woman can rock a short cut, caesar or fade and be stunning. After a bad break up in 2006 I cut my hair Halle Berry short.  Shaved in the back, tapered on the sides and spiked in the front was my look for nearly three years. Fast forward to the summer of 2010 I decided to go natural.

As I transitioned from relaxed to natural, my hair was the longest it had been since 1999. I was absolutely terrified of doing the big chop (BC), which in the natural hair community is cutting all your relaxed ends usually leaving you with a teeny weeny afro (TWA) depending on how much new growth you have. My fear of having little to no hair wasn’t at all logical, as I had worn my hair super short before. But short and relaxed is the exact opposite of short, curly and natural. There was a mountain of excuses of why I couldn’t wear a TWA- a ‘fro is unprofessional, I’ll look like a boy (read: unfeminine) I won’t be pretty and I’ll hate my hair.

Despite my biggest fear of not looking feminine, after six months I was beyond frustrated with the two textures. On New Years Eve I walked into the barbershop and had my hair cut off. When the barber swung me around to face the mirror, my relaxed ends were gone and I knew I had made the right decision. My ‘fro was beautiful. Cutting my hair, once again, dispelled the notion that after women cut their hair short they are instantly ugly.

I cannot count the times I’ve heard men say they prefer women with long hair or that a woman with short hair looks like a dude. Unfortunately, some women have psychologically been brainwashed to also believe our hair is our “glory” referring to 1 Corinthians 11:15. We subconsciously attach our beauty to our hair because of the importance society has placed on it.

I’m all for women rocking whatever they want. The fact that Black women can wear their hair short, curly, long, relaxed, natural, straight, weaved, wig, ‘fro or braided is what makes us unique. But I do want to encourage women with short hair or who want to cut their hair, not to worry about losing their femininity. You are still feminine with short hair.

Research was a major part of my transitioning period. I read threads on hair forums, watched hours of YouTube hair tutorials and visited numerous natural hair websites. One commonality among most of the women transitioning was the fear of going through with the BC. And the reason most didn’t want to do the big chop was because they thought they needed long hair to look feminine. Despite how beautiful (and feminine) Chrisette Michele, Solange and Amber Rose look with low cuts, women hold on to that notion of short hair meaning more masculine.

If you are feeling unfeminine with your new cropped ‘fro, accessorize. Have fun with experimenting with makeup. Try a new eye shadow or lipstick that pops. Add a dash of blush to your cheeks. Another trick is to wear jazzy earrings. Whether they hang long, are big hoops or studs, your earrings will add flair to your hair.

But honestly confidence is key. Knowing you are beautiful already without makeup, sans earrings and minus the gaudy accessories. You are a fabulous woman whether your hair is 1” or 12”. Rock your short ‘fro with pride!

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  • Neady45

    Im 27.. and 2 days ago did tha BC! I wore my hair processed all my life. Starting at age 5. But decided to want to grow locs and with that being said.. had to cut off my hair. I have not even an inch of new growth but I’m not completly bald neither. I was so self concious at first. Tha guy I’m talkn to happend to be tha first to see tha reveal. Seeing how he’s tha one that faded me up. I was unsure how he really felt. He say he likes it. Ive gotten mixed views on my new doo.. esp on fb. All my women friends luuuuv it. None of tha men replied! So it really made an inpact on me. Until I said f it. I am not my hair.. and walkd outside with a lil eyeliner on my earings and my sex appeal and felt bold n beautiful! And now reading your excerpt gave me that extra umpf I needed to accept my new look regatdless wat a person thinks..because I’m still that same fine chick that used to wear relaxers n weaves..but now its my true beauty that yu have to find in me. Thank u for this.. I wish I could send yu a pic

  • AmbiVictoria

    I personally am not for short hair for my look, but like it on other women. I had to read this article because the picture of the woman above for the article is gorgeous. It's like a modern day portrait of Queen Nefertiti or Queen Cleopatra.

  • goingbacktomynaturalroots

    I have been wanting to go back natural for months it took awhile and I transitioned with braids but got tired of the salon wait to wash my braids and or redo due to new growth. So last night I took the braids out went to my former beautician to shape up my hair needless to say it is a close crop. People perceive women with short hair as even being– gay even when my hair was short and straight. I just like the low maintnance of short hair so I can take care of more important things. One has to be secure to one wear a natural and two-a short one at that! I can easily flip a wig when I want to without the chemicals when I change up and I like to change my hair!

  • Nina M. Cunningham

    I LOVE this article. I recently decided to cut most of my hair for my short afro look and I came to realize that I should have done this a long time ago. I am in love with my natural look and I am in love with me 🙂 However, I can rock a fade and look FIERCE!!! You have to have the confidence and know that the style does not make you. You have to know that with or without hair your beauty will shine. I decided to go natural because my daughter does not like her natural hair and I want to show her that HER BLACK IS BEAUTIFUL!!!

  • carolyn

    I did the BC in December, for my birthday. I was nervous, not going to lie, but afterwards, looking at my bald head, I knew I made the right decision. I feel more feminine now than when I had hair! Remember, this is your journey and nobody else's. Do what makes you happy.

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  • Mel

    This article came right on time! I am plotting when to transition. I am doing a ton of research. Reading this solidified everything I already know.