Here are a few reasons why you’re selecting men who won’t keep a relationship with you:
You chose what was available, not what was healthy
You may find yourself in the repeated circumstance of choosing men that happen to be in your gym, your work, your school, your area, and just men who are there for “being there” sake. Of course it’s great to meet new people, but after taking the time to get to know them, you shouldn’t feel pressure to date them. If you date whatever’s available, as opposed to seeking what’s healthy, and sorting through the stacks for true gems with great souls and a sincere interest in a relationship, you’ll find often that your “man” will not be able to sustain a relationship with you. Obviously, if he wasn’t a gem in the first place, then his inability to keep a relationship with you is a good thing–but why endure the unnecessary cycles?
He’s protecting you from himself
Sometimes, it’s just not personal with relationships. Sometimes, your pattern may be that you choose men who find you incredible and amazing, but know that they’re not worth your mind, body and soul. As a favor to you, they won’t foster a relationship with you. Relationships are all about matching your gifts to the right man’s gift. If you fail to do so, you will wind up with someone who can’t–and won’t–keep a relationship with you. This outcome, of course, is good for you, because you don’t want someone who’s wrong for you. But–why endure unnecessary trials?!
You’re too scared of letting him go
As you can see above, when a man who isn’t right for you fails to keep a relationship with you–that’s a good thing. But, some women are so desperate for a relationship, they send every indication to the man they’re seeing, that they can’t let him go. They suffocate him, they forgive him for unforgivable transgressions, and they puppy around, hoping that he will stay forever. That energy of clinginess, suffocation, fear of independence and inability to let go, can trigger all sorts of panic neurons in a man’s body. So, if you want him to stay, stand up for yourself politely and strongly, don’t have his child after two months–or as a “tactic,” check his dysfunctional behaviors without getting loud and boisterous, and be thoroughly unafraid to let him go, if he acts the fool. Given that premise, he will not only think twice about acting the fool around you, he will also be more comfortable keeping a relationship with you.
