I was recently diagnosed with a life-threatening condition. I never thought I would date again due to this, however, I recently met this wonderful guy and we have been dating for a few months now. When is the appropriate time to share this information?
Dear Love Sick,
I’m sorry to hear that you have to battle this illness, and I wish the best of health and care! I think that love is a great healer – its healing ultimate when it derives and emanates from “self.” I hope that more than ever, you’ve been kind to yourself, taken the time to appreciate yourself, and focuses solely on good memories and good people. Speaking of persons, I would encourage you to tell the man you’re dating about your condition, especially if you are close enough now and he may be thinking of getting even closer with you.
Relationships rely on openness and truth as their fuel, so you want to feed your relationship with them, and stay strong as you do so. At the moment, you want to be surrounded by people who are plugged into your reality, and you want to give the same respect of “right-to-know” information to this guy that you would expect if he had an S.T.I. or life-threatening condition. Eventually, it will become too uncomfortable for you to withhold a secret, and you don’t want to place any emotional burdens on yourself. Be free in your spirit, and stay blessed!
~ Madame C.