Surprisingly the usually private Beyoncé dishes on a few relationship tips for women in the April issue of Cosmopolitan UK. When asked how women can feel Hot around their men she responded:
You should put on good music and something that makes you feel great. I love a pair of high, Hot stilettos with a beautiful dress, but you have to find out what works for you – whether it’s doing the whole smoky eyes thing or a natural look. And never be predictable. Mix it up, surprise him, change your hair – be the woman he knows with a little bit of a twist.
She also had this to say about confidence:
The most alluring thing a woman can have is confidence. You can be beautiful but if you’re not secure in yourself, you don’t come across as Hot. You have to feel good about yourself to make others feel good about you. Don’t focus on the bits you don’t like. Look at yourself in a different way and work out what it is you do like.
I applaud her for her bit about being confident by telling women to focus on what they like in opposed to harping on what they don’t. As women we have a tendency of obsessing over what we don’t like instead of celebrating what we love. But when I thought about her “never be predictable, mix it up, surprise him…” piece of advice, I wondered if men cared about that at all.
Obviously Bey knows something about relationships as she’s been in one with the same man for years, and got him to eventually put a ring on it. I just don’t necessarily think being unpredictable makes a difference in the big scheme of relationships. It’s like when people dole out the ridiculous advice that if women cooked regularly, didn’t gain weight and gave their man lots of sex then men won’t cheat.
Do men care in the slightest bit about the superficial things women stress about?
I remember a while back on Twitter there was an ongoing conversation if men actually cared about women wearing matching panties and bras. Unanimously men agreed that a man who cares if a woman’s panties match her bra are most likely not heterosexual. The panties and bra scenario is a perfect example of stuff some women get caught up in doing to please a man, but means very little.
Don’t get me wrong acts of sexiness and spontaneity definitely keep things spicy. But in all my conversations with men about what is important to them in relationships, I’ve never heard any of them mention a woman must change her hair frequently or never be predictable. Instead of focusing so much on doing tricks in the bedroom or always looking delectable, maybe we need to all put more emphasis in areas of being supportive, loving and honest women. Those are the lasting qualities that help couples make it through “for better or for worse.”
Do men care about the superficial things women do to please them in relationships? Speak on it!
